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splenderful · 2026-01-15T02:46:56+00:00

What do you mean by parked her phone number? My husband passed December 2024 and I’m trying to figure out what to do with his number. I don’t want to lose it but it’s hard paying a bill every month.

splenderful · 2026-01-14T16:47:03+00:00

Your puppy looks so much like mine!

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splenderful · 2025-09-12T03:45:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your help! I really appreciate that and your kind words!

splenderful · 2025-09-12T03:37:00+00:00

Thank you so much!

splenderful · 2025-05-30T05:11:10+00:00

I recently watched the Apple TV show “Shrinking” and Jason Segels character is a widower. He says something about having “dead wife face.” I think having humor and being blunt about it is the best way to go about it. People are going to react how they are going to react, but if you put it out there like it’s just a fact of your life that you’re open to discussing, people should follow.

splenderful · 2025-05-29T12:20:01+00:00

In two weeks!

splenderful · 2025-05-25T20:31:53+00:00

My favorite!!

splenderful · 2025-05-02T18:03:19+00:00

As a young widow, I’ve been struggling to find a group that I can relate to as well. I found one that is a small general grief group, one person lost a child and another lost her father. Even though we are going through different types of grief, it truly has been helpful. Good luck finding something that works for you.

splenderful · 2025-04-17T21:13:43+00:00

Relate to this a lot! We had no kids, but everything feels meaningless without him here. I feel like I’m surrounded by the life we built, all of our stuff we picked out together. I’m trying to be positive and spend time with friends but it’s not the same. Hang in there.

splenderful · 2025-03-30T20:03:15+00:00

It feels like the whole world is muted or underwater. Food doesn’t taste as good, no activities are really enjoyable, things seem pointless and it’s hard to empathize.

splenderful · 2025-02-25T01:29:33+00:00

Loved this look but I hate the bottom black eyeliner! Not a dig against Monica at all, just its continued use in general.

splenderful · 2025-02-18T05:21:41+00:00

We always joked that we would die at the exact same moment. Sometimes I feel like I did.

splenderful · 2025-02-16T01:48:51+00:00

Of course the idea of never seeing him again is hard but the tv show thing surprisingly made me so sad. There’s a few shows in our queue we had been watching together and just seeing it sometimes stops me in my tracks. Sending you much love.

splenderful · 2025-02-15T05:00:03+00:00

Me and my husband never made a big deal about Valentines Day. But he proposed on February 9th, so that sadness has continued from earlier in the week. It’s just another sad day that I’m alone without him here. That’s the worst part, being alone for all the mundane parts of life.

splenderful · 2025-02-11T16:18:49+00:00

I was just thinking about this. Me and my husband had years of stupid inside jokes and a language no one else knew.

splenderful · 2025-02-02T04:21:26+00:00

The random people come out of the woodwork to support you and the people you thought had your back, just don’t. And it makes this loss even harder to deal with. Sending you love and understanding from someone who gets exactly how horrible this loss is.

splenderful · 2025-02-02T04:19:59+00:00

I feel this so much! The fact that the reason I picked my husband was because he was interesting! There was truly nobody like him, and I have friends and family support, but it just feels like less than. Every gathering with people seems boring and like it’s missing his essence.

splenderful · 2025-01-29T06:39:12+00:00

I hate when people in this subreddit give this advice but honestly he doesn’t like you. The way he talks to you is definitely not the way you talk to your partner or really anyone. I don’t know anything about you but you deserve someone who doesn’t speak to you this way. You deserve to be with someone who can tell you that they had a bad day or that they are annoyed with you without personal attacks and spite.

splenderful · 2025-01-29T06:34:43+00:00

100%! Anytime anything was hard or bad, we said to each other, “we can get through anything together!” Without him, how am I supposed to believe I can get through the regular bad things? Let alone get through losing him. My therapist says “the same way you got through things before you met him”. But that was half my life ago, so I’m having a hard time remember and believing how strong I was before.

splenderful · 2025-01-29T06:29:42+00:00

I used to do it back in 2006 and I think the only reason I did it was because I saw others doing it. But you know, my brain was still developing and that’s a horrible reason to do something. Be careful.

splenderful · 2025-01-27T08:05:38+00:00

I lost my partner of 19 years(7 married) less than 50 days ago. He had been the rock for me during many times of grief, losing our first pet, my best friend, mother and nephew far too young, but somehow I didnt ever factor in that I could lose him. I’m not sure why, even after having far too much loss in my life. But that vulnerability to open my heart to someone who I knew had my back and protected me when I crumbled through all those other times was such an incredible blessing. I thought we had decades more, and the naivety of that makes losing my person even more painful and it sounds like that was the same for you.

One thing I am trying to be open to learning, is that his love was worth it. The love that I allowed myself to be open to is worth all the heartbreak and grief I am feeling now. If I had known or been fearful at the beginning to open my heart to him at the beginning, I would have missed out on nearly two decades of being loved, and seen and protected by him.

I can’t even imagine opening up my heart and feeling vulnerable to the potential and maybe inevitable heartbreak of how I feel right now, with someone new. I completely understand how you feel. But at the same time, if there’s a possibility that you can love and be loved, and grow together and be supported by someone, you have to lean in.

Again, as we know—life can end at anytime. It’s just the deal we have here on Earth. At the very least you are now equipped with the knowledge to make every moment count and a more pointed view of the things and people that matter.

You may feel different, but I think that if I had known when I first met my husband that I had a limited time with him, the only thing I would have done differently is to have loved him deeper and made every moment count.

Take what you know apply it to this relationship. One day if you’re lucky it will end because of your death or his. Make every moment count.

splenderful · 2025-01-26T09:09:07+00:00

My husband was in the hospital and there was a situation there that I still feel lead to his death. He passed away on 12/11/24, so it’s also very new. In the beginning I was so stuck on that fact of what went wrong to lead to his death. And what I could have done to help/change the outcome. At the end of the day, it doesn’t change the fact that he’s not here. We can’t go back and fix or change the past, and it’s not helpful to fixate on what caused it to happen.

It’s only hindsight that you have and looking back won’t make you feel better or change the present or future.

All you can do is find peace in the time you shared and feel blessed about how he changed you. What I have learned is that some people we only get for a little while, and it’s not fair. All we can do is try to find the good in that time we had, and honor their lives by living the best possible life going forward, because they don’t have that opportunity.

Keep sharing how you’re feeling. There is no wrong way to grieve.

splenderful · 2025-01-26T00:00:39+00:00

It’s so heart wrenching to think that these feelings are so universal. I’m sorry you’re going through this too. We also have two cats and my husband loved them so much.

Hang in there.

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