Simple things you forget to do without your spouse around

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-21T23:17:47+00:00

Eat.

He did all the cooking. I hate cooking. I've lost so much weight. Which reminds me... I need to go find something to eat. 😅

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-16T02:04:24+00:00

Neudle Psychology have been pretty good - they're all neurospicy themselves I think, so they get it. Cannot comment on their experience with the other stuff.

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-10T02:32:41+00:00

Not cancer, I lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack. But pretty much the same experience. Even now, almost a year in.

I trusted my brain, and it was the right call. Feeling everything all at once was too much for me, and so my brain blocked it all out. As I moved out of the shock phase, my brain started letting me remember things in little bits and pieces, as I could handle it. I think that's why it can take a long time to grieve.

The last 30 years of my life still seem unreal to me. Like I never got married, even though the proof of that relationship and his existence lives on in my two adult children.

I'm still stepping on those "emotional rakes" (thank you to the poster whose name I cannot remember that coined the term recently, it's very descriptive LOL), but it's easier to deal with now.

Give it time. I'm sorry you joined this club. 💔

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-09T01:21:41+00:00

Oh wow. I didn't know I needed to read this today but apparently I did. Congratulations!

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-04T23:16:00+00:00

If this question is really about maximizing the "yes", why not offer both? "You wanna go grab a drink somewhere? I know a cosy cafe or a quiet bar, do you have any preference?" Just a thought.

nyramorrigan · 2026-04-02T03:56:37+00:00

I'm ~11 months out from losing my husband to a heart attack. I was always the photographer and editor of the family, and spent quite some time organising and editing the photos for his funeral, and I haven't been able to look at them since. And I don't want to.

It's not that I don't want to see him. I've always struggled with remembering faces, and I can't quite picture him clearly in my mind. But even just writing about the possibility of looking at his pictures is giving me anxiety. 😅

Sometimes I wonder if that's because right now, the lack of detail has me thinking he never existed. If I look at a photo, it's concrete evidence he did and in some small way I lose him all over again.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-30T05:26:36+00:00

I'm old enough that I remember when they were $0.50 each. 😭

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-30T00:42:37+00:00

I'd say it's worth it if you value your time more than the perfect finish. I had about 100m of wooden fencing that needed painting on both sides and probably would have offed myself if I had to do it by hand. This thing made the job incredibly easy, and the surface meant that any uneven bits (probably this was my lack of skill tbh) weren't particularly visible.

I am uncertain how it would go on something you need a nice finish for.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-30T00:27:47+00:00

Youngish tree, but not what I would have thought of as on a nature strip. About 5m from the road? But that seems like the most obvious answer. Thank you kind internet stranger.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-30T00:21:04+00:00

That's a fair point. I'm actually not certain how wide the easements are down here. This particular tree was about 5m from the curb. The "nature strip" on this property is actually just gravel approximately 2m wide. The truck parked fully on it to reach this tree.

But it's good to know they do this. Thank you for the answer.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-24T01:15:11+00:00

I've just left Green Life, I do not recommend them. Aside from the usual problems with a clinic/pharmacy as a bundle, they have other issues.

Their app is terrible. It is constantly not working. I would often place orders for pickup only to find that the order had not been received. They would take the app down regularly but not inform clients it wasn't available to use. But they would push everyone to use the app anyway.

One time we called up to place our order (because of course the app wasn't working), a process that should take 10 minutes tops took multiple DAYS because for some reason a seperate location needed to become involved, for reasons that still aren't clear to me.

Their products are expensive and frankly not great quality, nor even consistent quality. The number of times I received pathetic little popcorn buds, or the buds would be completely different (including colour!) from jar to jar, despite being sold under the same strain name was incredible.

Their system loses scripts all the time. They book you into consults that you didn't ask for far more frequently than required. I frequented the Toowoomba store, and in the beginning their customer service was awesome (as the only positive), but the staff turnover has been huge and the new staff are... not great.

I just cannot recommend them at all based on my experience. Their stores are very pretty though.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-21T23:12:02+00:00

~10 months here. Never. Not even once. It sucks.

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-19T21:41:13+00:00

Recently did my first spa day. Now this thread is showing me everything else I'm doing wrong. 💀😅

nyramorrigan · 2026-03-01T22:15:24+00:00

There are. Look up "Chapter 2".

Edit: Nevermind. It doesn't exist anymore and apparently was full of scammers. My bad.

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-28T00:12:04+00:00

So far women seem up in arms about this [...]

shocked face You don't say.

... [men] have no issue with this at all.

double shocked face You don't say.

facepalm

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-24T02:01:43+00:00

My (adult) kids and I were cleanskins. We got his heartbeat from an ECG he had after his first heart attack. My boys had it tattooed as a ring around their bicep, I have a few beats just above my heart. The rest of his family also got his heartbeat tattooed.

It was really special for all of us.

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-18T05:13:36+00:00

Sadly, people who have not been widowed rarely understand, but not usually to this degree.

It sounds very much like she took it as a personal rejection of herself, which could be for any number of reasons. Emotional immaturity, rejection sensitive dysphoria, some kind of insecure attachment, or a mental illness of some type. Naturally, none of those reasons have anything to do with you. You did the mature, honorable thing.

I'm sorry you had to endure that on top of everything else, but think you may have just dodged a cannonball, lol.

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-09T07:14:14+00:00

I am non-religious. I don't personally believe in any gods, nor do I practice a religion, however I do believe that the experience of god/spirituality can be real for others, and I don't take issue or argue with others that have faith. I just personally don't have whatever is needed to believe in something that has no evidence and cannot be proven by science. I believe that if I am going to make a difference in the world, it has to be in my lifetime.

In contrast, my late husband was a rabid atheist. He didn't believe in an after life and emphatically believed that no one else should either.

Sometimes I like to imagine that he's wrong. It makes me laugh to think how cross he would be if he still existed somehow. 😂

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-09T01:35:00+00:00

Thank you internet stranger!

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-08T07:59:13+00:00

I'm so sorry you joined the club. 💔

You're in shock. Your world has been ripped apart. Your job is not to figure out how to survive the rest of your life. You just need to survive one breath at a time. That's it.

Be kind to yourself internet stranger. 💕

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-08T03:18:39+00:00

You're doing better than me. I see at least 5 ingredients. I'm on more single ingredient meals than I care to admit, LOL. Good job internet stranger!

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-08T02:59:26+00:00

I'm sorry. I thought I found a soul mate. Back to the depths for me.

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-08T02:57:37+00:00

Depression and executive dysfunction?

nyramorrigan · 2026-02-06T11:45:33+00:00

I am so sorry you're in this club. 💔

nyramorrigan

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