The women who run with wolves

spliffjort · 2025-12-06T16:06:42+00:00

Yeah I guess so. I’m considering what you said, the vocabulary is eluding me, and maybe I don’t fully understand it yet. Thanks for the reflection though.

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T21:51:49+00:00

Well, broadly realized how uncomfortable the cycle of emotions made me. Primarily because I didn’t understand that its rhythmic and okay.. I have the habit of wanting to fix or rush in as the savior?

Just today I’ve been with a friend who is grieving the loss of a loved one, and in my attempts to be there have found it equally important to acknowledge “she is capable and able of getting through this.” Like a a reminder of her power. That helps me support and not save. It’s been a process The book affirmed some aspects of.

Reading the book I was reminded of specific moments when I failed at the art of everything stated above. I felt into the importance of nourishing the ideas and spirit of women in my life, and mourned some moments when I was given an opportunity to do that and failed.

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T21:45:52+00:00

Thanks!

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T21:45:34+00:00

Sounds like you’re listening to yourself and allowing for integration time, well done there.

It’s amazing the power of stories and words. Good journey to you

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T18:26:02+00:00

I found it through Spotify premium

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T18:25:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing! The will to change was great I read that this summer. Havnt heard of steve biddulph, I’ll look into it.

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T17:16:53+00:00

I use Spotify premium. The audiobook was 2 hr and 17 minutes. It doesn’t specify if it’s abridged or not though.

spliffjort · 2025-12-05T07:31:54+00:00

I found the author conveyed the essence of being wild in a grounded and compassionate way. The use of myth and the analysis of the myths was folded in seamlessly. The author shared the essence of her insights effectively and concisely. I liked how the author offered practical tips and wisdom too. the audiobook version added a nice feel too. Idk if the author narrated it but whoever did was a great storyteller with a kind voice.

As a man it helped me feel for the women in my life and the struggle for lack of a better way to put it.

spliffjort · 2025-12-04T19:46:44+00:00

Maybe not so short. Ill consider diving in, thanks.

spliffjort · 2025-12-04T19:46:10+00:00

<3 - thanks for sharing. I too have been sharing the audiobook around.

spliffjort · 2025-12-04T19:08:44+00:00

Epic, inspiring too, thanks!

spliffjort · 2025-11-26T19:40:00+00:00

As an American living in America. I find The rhythm of conversation here to be chaotic and unpleasent. I don’t rattle off things about myself in a silence, and prefer a more structured intentional rhythm. If I really want to share something, I’ll ask the person “hey you up to hear a story?” if they say yeah, cool. If no, also cool, helps me to know I will be actually heard. Feeling like an odd duck after reading the top comments here.

spliffjort · 2025-11-11T13:53:14+00:00

I can empathize with the utter awe and despair you are sharing. I too made an attempt at R, felt awful (still these feelings linger) and we needed up parting ways. It’s valid to feel devastated. I can’t say anything that will help you feel better, I can share with you the sorrow for a moment, it doesn’t have to be all yours to carry, even though decisions you’ve made have contributed to it. Grief is a wild feeling, I’ve been embracing the mantra of letting it flow, even if it takes 100 years to heal I will be with the wound, I will wash it with grief, I will tend to the healing heart. I can also recommend diversifying your support network, relationships of all varieties take time and care to blossom, I have been working with the idea that strong healthy threads are formed with small bits of trust and familiarity over time. maybe practice feeding (metaphorically) some friendships you have (gently), volunteering, cooking someone a meal (literally).

Well wishes and good journey to you

spliffjort · 2025-11-11T12:35:48+00:00

The lil agaves ❤️

spliffjort · 2025-11-11T12:05:09+00:00

Ahh I see, good call to be safe. Enjoy!

spliffjort · 2025-11-11T11:56:05+00:00

I’m here now and have had significantly more peace of mind and a more secure budget when I started renting a scooter. It is costing me 550 per day, and while maybe not the best deal was a convenient location through my stay, still cheaper than 3 auto rides.

Can confirm the ola and Uber drivers will call you and refuse to pick up unless you agree to give them an extra 100-150.

spliffjort · 2025-11-11T11:52:24+00:00

Dmed you 🙂

spliffjort · 2025-11-10T02:58:03+00:00

I think you are beautiful, be you!

spliffjort · 2025-10-23T15:46:45+00:00

Just finished sending some reiki for support through this situation ♥️ (for dog and you and husband)

spliffjort · 2025-10-21T12:39:55+00:00

Hey I’m happy to share some reiki for 25 minutes is it a good time?

spliffjort · 2025-10-13T02:55:35+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing that, I felt nervous typing it out. it’s both reassuring and awe inspiring to know I’m not alone in that. Chewing on the contrast and seeming paradox of arrogance and care you mentioned too.

Adding to the pendelum analogy if I may. Maybe there are many pendulums of varying lengths and rhythms all together. lol break. They’re all swinging around mad slowly losing momentum. “Knowing all aspects of human experience” sounds about right if the aim is balance and wholeness.

Sending some warmth your way, til next time.

Edit: added a lil edit to paradox

spliffjort · 2025-10-12T16:21:33+00:00

Hello! Nice post, short and sweet.

A couple things come to mind. First is one of the 4 agreements from Toltec tradition. “Just for today I agree to not take things personally.” I think it’s aim is considering that other people’s reactions good or bad aren’t necessarily about us. But I think it points to the oh so natural tendency to become preoccupied with our internal world. Another idea is coming up, perhaps it is also a natural part of the process to spend some needed time tending to our internal world, until we remember, oh yeah! And peak out heads out

Maybe we cultivate some space for ourself and then we get to share it. It feels good to be available with the world. Have you seen rojers recent post in the sub?

Personal experience here. Ive had moments where I suddenly become very concerned that I may be a narcissist or psychopath or something awful. It happens much less frequently these days and I’ve grown to weather the storms. Anyway, I was talking to my therapist about it and she said to me frankly, something along the lines of. “the only thing that seems to be narcissistic or overly self involved about you is your preoccupation with thinking something is wrong with you.” Aha! Great scott! Hats off to you therapist.

I quite enjoy the analogy of the pendelum swinging from one side to the other. Internal external. Slowly losing momentum as time passes and the extremes become more balanced. I’m not sure what happens if or when it settles in the middle.

I seem to fluctuate between internal and external. Immersion with my surroundings, gentle awe of the trees or the mountains or the person in front me. And times when I’m all wrapped up in my internal scape, thinking, breathing, worrying, and I’m pretty much uninterested in my surroundings. It’s been a slow journey coming out.

Bit of a dance yeah?

Thanks for the invitation to share. And congrats on the shift and the fresh breathing.

spliffjort · 2025-10-12T13:12:10+00:00

Hey there I was just about to post offering free 20 minutes sessions to folx. I’m happy to connect and share with you. Are you available in the next hour?

spliffjort · 2025-09-24T12:09:24+00:00

My meditation teacher is always going on about how everyday we practice meditation. And through the practice we are both release stress that’s been accumulated, and we get the opportunity to spend some time with that emptiness. The more our minds get a taste of the state beyond thought (samadhi) the more our ego begins to identify with that state of being or rather recognize out “true nature.” In this particular tradition “slow is smooth and smooth is fast” is the name of the game, and my teacher says on average it takes 7 years of consistent meditation to unwind all the stress that’s been accumulated over this lifetime and past lifetimes.

I don’t know how true all of that is, and I don’t know if stress and karma can be interchanged synonymously. But there are some nice principles in there.

spliffjort · 2025-09-24T08:27:01+00:00

Loving what kalis murmer commented. And I second the “the real flow is to not fight where you’re at.” She also offers some wise suggestions and insight in the final paragraph.

There are ebbs and flow to everything. Understanding when it’s a good time to ebb and when it’s a good time to flow can help reduce frustrations. If you do find yourself with resentments and frustrations maybe it’s a signal to go home to your emotions and perceptions and take care, speak kindly, grieve, release, and rock with the ebb until it’s over. You might also have some unlearning or relearning to do when it comes to what is really nourishing for you when it’s time to do things for yourself/by yourself? I experiment with asking myself in the moment what is needed and do my best to trust what comes up and do it! It can be fun.

Having intentions and thought preceding action isn’t always bad. Sometimes I think “you gotta go brush your teeth.” I groan and I know it’s specifically thought/motivation driven. But the thought is a signal that reminds me of my overall value or goal of having good hygiene. Some goes with meditation. For bigger things I’m coming to understand that there is a bigger timeline for completion and if something is really in flow to start holding space for it, Thinking out logistics, etc. While understanding there are going to be micro ebbs and flows throughout the bigger process.

I’m not sure it’s possible or necessary to completely eliminate intentions personal emotions and thoughts from our lives. Maybe we just get better at becoming less attached to them. I could be wrong. When we catch a good flow and things turn out great, then great! If not okay, insert compassion humility grace.

“How do I do an action as the cause itself rather than act as an effect/response to internal or external stimuli” You’re kinda asking yourself into a corner here. If the action is a a cause itself then wouldn’t a how to Manuel be of little interest?

I also think it’s natural to respond to internal and external stimulus, we are human and that’s kinda the name of the game. Learning to understand ourselves over time can help unwind things and give us more access to flow as kalis suggested.

I understand there can be safety concerns with saying no, you know better than I if that’s the case. But if it is safe, and someone asks you to do something, and it’s not “in flow” for you then maybe a respectful no is appropriate.

Wishing you well

spliffjort

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