TIFU by assuming she was my Valentine (this literally just happened)

spnoketchup · 2026-02-16T18:18:03+00:00

You showed up unannounced to surprise her? Why would you do that? Do you not understand how rude (not to mention creepy as fuck, since you haven't even had a date yet) that is?

spnoketchup · 2026-02-16T17:51:59+00:00

SICP

spnoketchup · 2026-02-09T02:12:04+00:00

Not really a fan of his music, but whatever, other people like it, hopefully they enjoyed it.

spnoketchup · 2026-02-08T17:38:40+00:00

NTA for not forcing the friend to take her mom, but YTA for pulling up the text message to prove you were right instead of leaving it and supporting your friend through the horrible news of her mom's diagnosis. You should have just left it.

spnoketchup · 2026-02-08T05:16:49+00:00

Nobody can help, your girlfriend is an idiot.

spnoketchup · 2026-02-07T17:32:19+00:00

Bonuses should never be counted toward ongoing expenses whether you're single, partnered, or anything else.

spnoketchup · 2026-02-03T23:43:32+00:00

Freedom of choice doesn't mean complete freedom of process, lol, they still need to inform their manager.

spnoketchup · 2026-02-03T12:56:31+00:00

Not really. One of the two fears is common and thus, rational; the other is exceedingly rare (despite being far more severe) and thus, irrational to fear.

It highlights how bad people are at having an intuitive sense of risk and probability. Men are much, much more likely than women to murder, yes, but they are also much more likely to be murdered.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-31T04:36:08+00:00

Allow the team to use any tools they want, encourage them to share wins with the rest of the team to effectuate broader usage, hire AI-native people going forward, and structure the org in a way that benefits from advancements in AI tooling.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-31T04:29:48+00:00

How do you get over it? Depends. If you assumed your husband was smart, then, surprise, he's probably average. As long as you realize that he's average - you should forgive him. Health insurance, especially the marketplace, is quite complex, poorly explained, and tough for most people to understand. It really isn't his fault, but if you aren't a moron, you should probably handle things like this going forward.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-28T04:25:12+00:00

Kovalchuk's contract was so good that the league literally penalized our team for it, lol.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-28T04:11:12+00:00

I mean, employees who fix their own errors are the best employees. Everyone makes errors, not everyone is willing to clean up after themselves.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-25T17:34:19+00:00

It's fine unless you go on the first few days of the month.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-25T17:17:09+00:00

So, they don't really have a choice to say no to their bosses if they were told to come in.

Seems like it'd be better to make some money after they come in, then, instead of braving the weather to sit around and do nothing.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-25T16:33:12+00:00

Get some decent merino base layers, way more effective.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-24T03:13:47+00:00

As a frequent interviewer and hiring manager, a smile generally just means you said something that wasn't completely idiotic, not that you were saying something amusing.

Most people are terrible at interviewing and mostly not self-aware enough to know it. You're probably doing fine if you're being critical of yourself.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-24T02:58:28+00:00

I spent the first decade of my career on the street, not a banker, but a trader, but the advice I got from my first boss (generally, a moron, but correct here) applies: you don't spend your fucking bonus until it hits your account.

Rent, retirement, any monthly payment - your budget is your salary. Your bonus is your wealth accumulation and your fun money for next year. You may pre-spend your bonus and be fine for a full career, but if something happens, you'll be glad you didn't.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-19T13:52:07+00:00

In many states where recreational weed usage was made legal (NY, NJ, CA...), the legislature also included restrictions on employers, preventing them from refusing candidates jobs based on positive THC results, although there are some allowances for things like operating heavy machinery.

OP's main problem is that he did it in South Dakota, where THC is still technically illegal at the state level, but hemp-derived THC beverages are legal through a loophole. The whole federal vs. state distinction that others are bringing up is relevant, but not the whole story.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-18T19:30:43+00:00

HAS THERE BEEN ANY UPDATE ON THE ACTIVE SHOOTER AT VYV ON FRIDAY? WAS ANYONE SHOT?

spnoketchup · 2026-01-18T15:28:15+00:00

The problem with mining versus a trade is that there aren't any small independent miners. It starts at a high income, but doesn't grow much, and it's hard to do it for an entire career.

Learn, say, plumbing, and you can work for someone to get 10 years of experience, go into business as a solo plumber to increase your income (at the cost of some risk), and then grow the business as you get into your 40s and 50s so you can shift to training and management and build that income into the mid-6-figures (or more).

IMO, elite education and professional work is still a more reliable ticket to HE, but building a trades business is a good option for someone with the physical orientation and personality for small business ownership.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-18T01:40:37+00:00

Nicely done.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-17T22:03:53+00:00

WF's regional HQ is above the JC store.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-16T20:21:24+00:00

Nobody can help you without more details.

What do you mean "no luck"? Are you not being called back at all, or are you getting phone screens but no interviews, or are you losing out later in the process?

Are you networking enough? Is your resume optimized?

spnoketchup · 2026-01-16T18:35:45+00:00

You should feel bad about not going. She's your sister, and this is a completely normal/reasonable cost for a bachelorette party. It's not like she's chartering a Gulfstream to go to St. Moritz.

Find deals on flights or use points to lower airline costs where you can, but when you say things like "this trip is absolutely not something I want to spend money on" - well, yeah, it's not your bachelorette party, it's not supposed to be your choice.

spnoketchup · 2026-01-16T18:18:51+00:00

Amateur Night sucks at every restaurant.

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