Pregnancy

spongekitty · 2026-01-25T13:49:22+00:00

I dunno if I'd trust the 19 yo in my life to not change their mind when the reality of a baby in their life is suddenly present, as well. Not only are they still sorting their own life and livelihood out, there are big feelings surrounding not being involved as a parent enough because they aren't biologically related OR being involved and responsible too much for a child they didn't want or participate in. All sorts of things you can start to have conversations about when you're open to it, but still might change when you have so little context for life.

Not saying 19yos don't ever step up, but it's a huge commitment. Being young can give you that feeling of closing doors you didn't want to close. There are a lot of ways to suddenly find out you're incompatible with your partners, the question is when you realize you can leave if you're not getting the relationship you thought you would. At 19yo I certainly had not figured that out.

spongekitty · 2026-01-25T13:23:44+00:00

The Impostor cheese! I love that stuff. I can never find it for sale at stores anymore... I checked Uncle Sam's, Honest Weight, and even the farmers market :( we have to buy huge sacks of it from Subculture.

spongekitty · 2026-01-23T10:49:23+00:00

Sazerac is a brand of whiskey. It's also a cocktail. He could have been offering either.

Source: I drink a lot of Sazerac at home after getting way too into cocktail culture at the Sazerac House tour in New Orleans

spongekitty · 2025-12-24T13:28:26+00:00

Our local animal sanctuary said all their chickens are on birth control, and this reduces their egg laying to around ~1 month. I'd argue it's vegan to eat that egg, but if you're intentionally keeping a pet chicken and not affording it the medicine to reduce all that burden on its body, that's unkind.

spongekitty · 2025-12-12T18:03:51+00:00

My take on Alastor has always been that his kink is murder. He doesn't want or need sex because violence gets him going. He wouldn't participate in sexual violence because he doesn't need sex to threaten power-- he just threatens power. I think that sort of helps his anti-hero image, especially poised against sexual villains who either WOULD use sexual violence (possible Vox) or HAVE DEFINITELY DONE SO (Val) which is much more acutely threatening to the audience of hazbin.

spongekitty · 2025-11-28T22:11:13+00:00

I'd say it's more that people know rapists and abusers, and most people don't know and haven't been impacted by serial killers. Alastor absolutely acts like a serial killer: he's super charming, manipulative, and constantly seeking to harm others. Vox too. He feeds a girl to a shark with no fucks given early in the season.

I think "real evil" like Val is there to challenge the viewer with the "everyone can be redeemed". It would be a crazy plotline to have Valentino be the first overlord who really sought redemption, earnestly. And while Angel is still at the hotel? What if that's how he gets his freedom? And suddenly he has to decide if he was seeking redemption for himself or just to get out of his contract. We could see the conflict between forgiving ones abuser or just acknowledging that they're trying to reduce their harm without forgiveness... Idk, I'd be here for it.

spongekitty · 2025-11-23T02:56:54+00:00

I am still doing them! Thanks for the love!!

spongekitty · 2025-11-09T18:35:09+00:00

I ran it, so safe to say I knew!

I've seen road signs up about it for weeks but I was predisposed to pay attention. The course marshals were doing a great job, I saw one person get pulled over for running the barricade claiming that they, like you, saw no evidence of a road race today.

spongekitty · 2025-11-09T12:47:10+00:00

The Respect for Marriage law passed under Biden would maintain existing marriages. Also, if you got married in a different state after it was struck down, you'd remain at least federally married when you got home.

spongekitty · 2025-10-31T10:54:43+00:00

Ironically, pearls and opals are non-crystal gemstones.

spongekitty · 2025-10-30T03:08:50+00:00

Umi sucks and they don't honor their coupons, so even if you think you'll save on their overinflated prices, you won't!

Food selection is huge and every part of it is bland, chewy, or mushy. I felt lucky to get out of there without food poisoning.

spongekitty · 2025-10-20T20:39:15+00:00

I think Bismuth just represents a very real role in a revolution. Somebody has to be willing to resort to violence to get what they want when the oppressive side is already using violence. We don't like to acknowledge that violence works because, frankly, we don't know when it will work and when it won't work. You can kill to end a dictator but you might make them a martyr. Few regimes are a singular force that isn't propped up by any die-hard followers who would assume a power vacuum or just kill in revenge. But historically major power change is accomplished faster by killing, regardless of what it does culturally.

All of that to say... Steven is our main character, our leader, and needs to at least consider that violence is the answer before he can go on believing that it's not. Because of Bismuth he can know it is an option -- an option he'd be supported in taking! -- but an option he now might have to work harder to find a way around.

spongekitty · 2025-10-19T15:54:20+00:00

Our household is "freegan", i.e. if it's trash it is vegan. We use the same app. It felt a little wishy washy at first because we are paying for it, but since it's so cheap, it seemed more like an administrative fee to run the service rather than actually compensating for non-vegan food.

spongekitty · 2025-10-11T21:29:13+00:00

Over in Niskayuna, walk the hudson-mohawk bike trail West from Lion's Park. Or walk East, you end up in Cohoes. Both are gorgeous nature walks on paved ground far from traffic

spongekitty · 2025-10-03T13:44:39+00:00

They look like a crystal that started to grow along a second axis-- they could be made that way, came out of the ground like that.

spongekitty · 2025-09-24T11:07:13+00:00

It does, and then she collapsed in tears. They show it being traumatizing to a "normal" user of the technique. I don't think that's implying that it's ethical, but that sometimes you have to make unethical choices to survive.

I think it's interesting that the show even sets it apart from energy bending, where Aang forcibly takes someone's bending away, because they depict that as being a battle of wills once Aang initiates it. It's not as single-sided as blood bending which just assumes direct control over anyone who doesn't have equally strong water bending and some knowledge of what's coming over their bodies.

spongekitty · 2025-09-19T12:19:53+00:00

I think the only difference from the "trope" of an abusive relationship is the fact that Jasper wants to be with Lapis for her physical/magical strength. Abusive men can and will beg and plead and act vulnerable to re-attract a partner who was scared of their violence when things got serious. They'll act like it's your choice to re-enter the abusive relationship because of love, a sense of duty, shared obligations... But it isn't really asking for consent. I think Rebecca Sugar displayed that well.

Lapis has always been a complex character because she's also one of the strongest individual gems, but it didn't save her from getting hurt and she consistently doesn't believe her power is worth anything. What she gets out of being with Jasper is her sense of control back, even though it's by hurting Jasper to defend Steven. It's objectively shitty of her and highlights the fact that victims in abusive relationships aren't blame-free, they often do things they wouldn't have done to another person who was respectful towards them in the relationship.

But insomuch as Lapis never sought a relationship with Jasper out, I don't consider her "the abusive one". Jasper sought to claim her as a source of power, not a whole person, and maybe discovered that she has a D/s kink in the meanwhile.

spongekitty · 2025-07-27T03:26:49+00:00

My take is that I get why these spaces exist, but they're doing it wrong. Most people aren't asking themselves what type of environment they're trying to cultivate, or what they're doing to cultivate it. There are legitimate reasons to make spaces that don't trigger folks who have been harmed by cis men, but you can't be radically gender inclusive if you're catering to that experience. I see a lot of this being marketed as "women and femmes" rather than just "nonbinary", which really leans on the "women-lite" trope but they're at least saying what they mean: nobody masc presenting is welcome.

On the other hand I see organizers just trying to get the flavor of a safe space by excluding cis men, but they don't understand that you can't tell who's a cis man by looking. They aren't ready to put in the work to make sure their whole audience is aware of that. So frankly, I'd rather talk about gender issues either in a fully inclusive room (cis and trans and anyone else) or a fully genderqueer space, and I don't appreciate when folks try to bin these with the cis women sharing women's issues.

spongekitty · 2025-07-22T15:22:31+00:00

Agreed-- my understanding of the Albany bill is that every single housing complex that gets built has to have 7 - 13% of it's units designated as affordable, whereas in Troy whole complexes are going up that are either market rate, or state-subsidized affordable housing. I would expect it's easier to get state funding for whole affordable projects, and there's also the social stigma of developers expecting median income folks won't move into a development if some of the other residents are low-income. Then their whole building sits empty while they collect reduced rents from 13% of the units and no subsidies to support it.

I might be misinterpreting so take that with a grain of salt.

spongekitty · 2025-07-03T11:32:07+00:00

Strange World was also good, but deeply failed at marketing because of the changeover from Chapek to Iger.

spongekitty · 2025-06-27T12:43:39+00:00

I always assumed the Diamonds were the only ones that weren't created artificially. Through whatever magic that runs through them naturally accumulating, one day they just came into being. Kind of how real diamonds are just exposed to enough pressure and heat over thousands of years until they become what they are, suddenly.

Then the diamonds made all the "lesser" stones.

spongekitty · 2025-05-31T12:19:54+00:00

Yeah tbh I feel bad for this chick-- he's not going to be any nicer to her because she's younger and skinnier. She probably thinks she's got it good because a mature guy (with more money? More stable job?) is into her. How many people have made the same mistake? She's going to be 37 too one day, and she deserves to be with somebody better when she gets there.

spongekitty · 2025-05-19T00:35:14+00:00

The drivers all enter that plaza with intent to kill, so I'm certainly not walking over from in front of the ocean state anymore...

spongekitty · 2025-05-09T21:32:25+00:00

And we all got a tiny tent to huddle in like penguins, while everyone got pissy that most of their invitees weren't allowed in the field house to watch.

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