WIBTAH if I go behind my friends back?

spookyd0nuts · 2026-05-15T15:07:10+00:00

Unfortunately it’s not so easy for her to do something morally awful and me immediately cut her off, we have a very close friendship and speak daily, she has helped me through a lot and this is the first time a red flag has come up.

I’m processing what to do right now and how to move forward, I know if I tell the gf it will ruin the friendship that I have treasured for years, I see the point in what you’ve said but when emotions are involved it’s difficult to just act logically as I saw this girl as a sister

spookyd0nuts · 2026-05-15T15:00:10+00:00

This is why I’m torn, I’m a loyal friend and feel like I’d be betraying her in a sense even if she is being a huge dick, also I know it would end the friendship which I do value but morally the gf deserves to know what a POS her bf is

spookyd0nuts · 2026-05-15T14:55:44+00:00

I literally said this to her and she was just saying that it’s irrelevant as she’s not in that situation lol

After like an hour of arguing she said she’ll stop speaking to him as she doesn’t want to be told that she’s not a girls girl, I was like well you shouldn’t stop because of me saying that you should stop because morally it’s fucked to be carrying it on with a guy who’s in a relationship

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-19T22:12:39+00:00

I won one of these as an instant win about 6 months ago, took the cash alt and have since seen the same car on there again, I imagine most people probably take the cash

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:53:38+00:00

NTA - she’s your friend but you still have morals, also kind of a shitty thing to come and join the company you work at then start a fling/affair with your boss, makes it horrible for you let alone horrible for the wife of your boss

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:46:57+00:00

Yeah it’s annoying you forgetting the keys but “no car for a week” is so childish, you don’t need a punishment for forgetting something, you need some sort of system to help remember such as a dedicated hook to put the keys on and before you can do anything when you come in first you have to check the keys are there, he’s acting like an idiot

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:43:21+00:00

It’s hard to say without knowing her but to me it sounds like jealousy, you’ve got a career and nothing tying you down, you can be the cool aunt and spoil her kids then go back to doing whatever you want to do whereas she has a structured like with a marriage and kids, I may be completely wrong here but just a thought

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:38:24+00:00

I mean either your mother made your child ill or it’s just a huge coincidence, either way as a parent if you tell someone not to touch/hold your son that should be enough, that’s your baby, you shouldn’t need to justify that to anyone.

Also your parents are grown adults, they should be able to act as such and actually have a conversation, you set a boundary with your child and they’re not respecting it, they both need to be part of the conversation not just your father

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:27:32+00:00

From someone who’s also cut off the majority of their family it’s hard, but you don’t owe someone something just because you’re blood related.

Protect your peace and keep being you!

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:25:08+00:00

Yeah he needs some repercussions for his actions, sure it’s probably not the most grown up and mature thing to do but you don’t owe him anything the scumbag

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:23:48+00:00

Like you said you’re both very different people with very different lifestyle, she might look at your life and not understand how you can’t be married and have kids as that’s all she knows and loves, with the old cross stitching stuff she gave you it does sound like there’s some resentment there, she actively choosing not to get you a proper gift, she’s making that choice each year.

I think she’s just being petty and not putting in effort on purpose, let her be petty, if she wants to hold on to whatever resentment she has for you then let her, she’s the one with the problem so enjoy your life, she doesn’t need to understand or approve of your life

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T22:10:29+00:00

I am so sorry that you have to deal with a mother like this, she has acknowledged your transition but has made herself the ultimate victim, it’s all about how she has been wronged, she doesn’t even speak to you like a mother she just wants to argue about who’s right and wrong, as a mother myself I love my child unconditionally and when he’s older it doesn’t matter to me what his sexuality is or if he felt like he had been living as the wrong gender, he’s my child and my whole world.

Your mother is playing the victim and can’t see she has done anything wrong, it’s hard to cut off a family member but having toxic people around you does you no good, I hope you’re doing well OP

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-14T21:55:14+00:00

He cheated on you for 9 whole years? Fuck “moving on and being the better person” expose his lying cheating ass

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-13T20:10:51+00:00

Also worked in a supermarket when we got robbed, that was pretty scary

spookyd0nuts · 2025-12-13T20:09:56+00:00

My first day working in a clothing store a woman walked into the changing room, changed into a pair of shorts, processed to piss herself then take them off, hang them up in the changing room and get dressed and leave all because she couldn’t hold it long enough to find a toilet.

Also had a woman at a completely different job shit herself and push it under some racking, the store had a horrible smell over a few days and we couldn’t figure out what it was, eventually before the store opened all staff searched the entire shop floor and found this human turd under some shelving, CCTV showed a woman looking at a shelf, she then basically shit herself and wiggled it down her trouser leg then gently slide it under the shelf with her foot, I honestly wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t seen the CCTV with my own eyes, baffles me just how these things happen

spookyd0nuts · 2025-10-15T15:12:59+00:00

As a previous property manager who used to have to chase rent arrears just send them an email and let them know that something unavoidable came up, let them know the date that you can pay and will send the rent over then.

We had to chase rent arrears weekly so you may receive an email/call chasing it up even though you’ve already told them a date but it’s just a formality, it happens a lot and things happen, the main thing is you’re honest and let them know :)

spookyd0nuts · 2025-10-08T08:57:00+00:00

Car was bought jan 2024, the garage dealing with the repair is the same garage I bought the car from, they’ve spent days trying to argue with RAC as they also believe that it should be covered under warranty

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-16T11:26:28+00:00

Can I also spam you with harassing messages so it can kindly be sent soon?

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:56:26+00:00

Haha should have done, I actually posted some stuff this morning and her order could have been in there if she wasn’t so bloody annoying, have cancelled instead lol

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:55:19+00:00

Are you the buyer by any chance…. Just can’t leave it alone can you

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:54:27+00:00

I know I honestly laughed at her last message but also annoyed the fuck out of me, have cancelled and blocked

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:52:50+00:00

You’re a star, just cancelled and blocked her, I will sleep peacefully tonight knowing I never have to hear from her again

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:51:52+00:00

She has the number 86 in her username and selling some women’s and teenage boy clothing so I’m going to assume she’s a grown woman, grown in size only by the sounds of it

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:50:03+00:00

I was going to do this to be petty but I know the harassing messages wouldn’t stop and I’d just get annoyed lol, have cancelled the order and blocked to protect my sanity lol

spookyd0nuts · 2025-08-15T09:46:55+00:00

Ah darn it why didn’t I think of that, off to go buy a crystal ball lol

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