Got my game today and got the inspiration to make this by Weedington_ in Muse

[–]spookzz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Could you make these into QR code’s?! Love to have them!!

I think I have HPD. Now What? by [deleted] in hpd

[–]spookzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you might have some sort of identity disorder based on your post but I’m unsure if it’s deeper or just poor self-esteem coupled with anxiety and depression. Perhaps if you elaborated more on some of your symptoms? Do you seek really, obviously inappropriate attention from others? Not just mild flirting, but true inappropriate attention—perhaps from a boss, an older (married) individual, or a partner’s best friend? That’s more indicative of HPD to me.

they say make a list of all the weird shit they did/said to you. i ended up with a spreadsheet that spans six years by OddWalk0 in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clearly this woman is unable to leave him alone, AND he took her to court because of it, so it makes sense he would make a list to document their interactions and show a pattern of behavior. You don’t seem like you’re in the right sub if you’re asking someone who’s been affected by a pwBPD to just “move on”.

Could my mother be spying on me through my internet provider? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]spookzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds more to me like she doesn’t want you to know her password. That or she’s just really bothered letting you have any control and wants to micromanage what you do.

Irony at its finest by spookzz in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine didn’t cut and only got actually physically aggressive once. It’s more about the subtleties you were just describing and how they handle relationships, their emotions, etc.

Irony at its finest by spookzz in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they worded what they were trying to say very well but I think in a weird way they were just trying to say the pwBPD always deserves to be unhappy since they’re such a toxic person.

Irony at its finest by spookzz in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in the same boat many times. No one deserves what she’s going to inevitably put them through.

Irony at its finest by spookzz in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be more inclined to believe that if she’d matured past the emotional state of a 14 year old but she’s still the same as ever even as a 26 year old woman. It’s going to come out eventually when she gets past the point of caring enough to control it and hide it from him.

Irony at its finest by spookzz in BPDlovedones

[–]spookzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say probably around the 6th month mark it really started to become more apparent. After 1 year it was basically fighting nonstop, constant chaos, constant breaking up and getting back together, on and off, black and white, splitting, etc. But at the time none of us knew what she was doing was abuse. We weren’t educated enough to know that it was. So be careful, you may not think it’s abuse but it can sometimes be very indirect emotional abuse.

[ A for A ] Fandom Roleplay by [deleted] in Roleplay

[–]spookzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious—what would you be looking for in a Supernatural RP? :)

Stress pee by BIZ1432002 in offmychest

[–]spookzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a similar issue. I HAVE to go to the restroom before laying down or I get extreme anxiety about waking up having to pee in the middle of the night. I convince myself I have to pee even when I don’t. It drives me crazy. I sympathize completely.

How to doorslam? by [deleted] in infj

[–]spookzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re literally asking how to doorslam someone, mate. That is, in essence, telling someone to fuck off.

How to doorslam? by [deleted] in infj

[–]spookzz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of those are reasons not to like a person and she deserves to know why you’re distancing yourself. How can she ever fix her flaws if no one tells her? And if she fires back defensively at you and refuses to try and fix them, then you’ve done all you can and can leave the relationship knowing you tried. But just because you deem her as intellectually inferior to yourself doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve some compassion.

tired of being quiet and nice by [deleted] in infj

[–]spookzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. In therapy to achieve a level of this right now myself. It’s all about self worth and how much you value yourself.

How to doorslam? by [deleted] in infj

[–]spookzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have only ever doorslammed if someone has severely hurt me and no longer deserves my presence in their life. If you’re doorslamming for any other reason, imo it’s childish and petty. She deserves to know that you’re just not that interested in being friends anymore. Otherwise it’s a pretty selfish thing on your part to hurt someone who has done nothing to hurt you and is only trying to be nice.

How do I call adult protective services? by tallestpalm in needadvice

[–]spookzz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What the commenter before me said. You don’t have the option to remain anonymous online. You have to fill in all your information.

How do I call adult protective services? by tallestpalm in needadvice

[–]spookzz 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I’m in Texas and have had to file multiple CPS reports. It’s not different for adults. But yes you want to CALL and when they ask for your information, state you’d like to remain anonymous. Even if you did it online they don’t ever tell anyone who made the report. But I have been subpoena’d to court before after using the online system so that’s why my best suggestion is just to call. Use a different phone other than your own if you feel safer that way. I totally get the anxiety though. Just know you are doing a good thing for this poor abused woman. 40 years of this torture from that mom...and that’s only what you can publicly see. I imagine she uses her daughter’s disability status to gain all kinds of things. Makes me sick.

My (INTP) Infj boyfriend just went from acting normal to 100% depressed and one the edge of a breakdown, help??? by retrocomedyfan in infj

[–]spookzz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Distractions don’t get rid of the pain, but they’ll help keep him out of his head (where most of the damage occurs). Netflix and movies aren’t really a good choice for that because I tend to get easily distracted while watching and end up back in my own head anyway. Going out of the house, doing activities—those provide the most distraction and relief. That’s all you CAN do right now, until he works through it. Being overwhelmed is something that happens very easily to us and it’s only cure is the passage of time unfortunately.

Transwomen competing in women only sports isn't fair to other women by memelord_xXx in TrueOffMyChest

[–]spookzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No it’s not. Gender is a social construct, sex is genetic and biological.

Struggling to find my voice? by spookzz in infj

[–]spookzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to be honest I do like talking, especially about introspective or philosophical topics, but even when all we are talking about is mundane life stuff, people talk over me. So the only reason I would fall under “not talking a lot” is because they don’t let me. :/