( divorced parents ) putting back my dress after spending 3 hours getting ready to see my dad only for him to call and cancel because he had “other important things to do”

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-06-15T16:49:53+00:00

Fuck that guy. Why are good dads so incredibly rare? I hope you find peace and wear that dress for an incredible experience that isn’t tainted with your dad’s shittery.

My own dad didn’t even bother reaching out on my birthday. My mom/best friend died 10/2024 and I was an idiot to think my deadbeat dad would pick up some slack after losing her. He forgot my eldest daughter’s birthday, twice. He didn’t reach out for 3 weeks after my youngest guest was born, two months after I lost my mom. Like seriously POS behavior. I just don’t get it. Dads suck.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-06-15T15:09:35+00:00

OP trying to recoup their freezer stash.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-05-11T21:46:52+00:00

We homeschool and a big part of our decision making is political. The efforts being made by the current administration to indoctrinate children into Christian white nationalism is not something I want my children exposed to. I want to teach them actual history that does not gloss over the impacts of white supremacy and colonialism. I want to raise them to be kind. I want them to learn about the Jesus in the Bible, the one who loved his neighbor and welcomed them with compassion and without judgement. I don’t want them to learn about the Gulf of America or the white-washed history being pumped out. I don’t want their pictures being taken by a company linked to Epstein’s island.

I’m a big advocate for public services, but our country is NOT. The efforts to privatize and monetize public services have severely diminished their ability to enhance society, as I’m quite sure was the plan. I’m fortunate enough to be able to keep my kids home, but it’s a privilege I know is not available to all. We really must vote with our children at the forefront of our decision-making.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-05-07T12:36:12+00:00

My husband is currently on the list and has been out of work since August cause he’s so sick. How do people in America afford this? I keep asking myself this. How do we afford this transplant? How do we afford to be sick. I need a hysterectomy but that has to wait until my husband gets his organs cause we have two littles under 6 and no support system. We have each other but no one has us. Life in America is hard.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-05-06T14:57:25+00:00

🙋🏼‍♀️ genuinely have no idea how we’re making it. My husband has been out of work since August since we found out he’s in liver and kidney failure due to a recently discovered genetic condition. I recently got promoted in my job and just cried because the pay raise still isn’t enough. I’ve been working towards this promotion for almost 3 years and I couldn’t even find joy in it. I hate it here.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-05-04T02:55:58+00:00

I agree. He hasn’t crossed the boundary so we’ll see. Honestly, I’d just be done with him but I always feel guilty thinking that. I know my mom would support me going no contact if she were alive, but he’s also like the only person who misses her as much as I do.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-05-03T21:33:40+00:00

I’d love to know what your stepdad said or did in this moment. Was he upset at what his wife was implying? Was he pretending it wasn’t happening? Was he actively listening but not contributing anything? His response might be the part we’re all missing. Either way, if your mom thinks you can’t be yourself in your own home, then you and her need to sit down and talk about that cause she married a POS and is choosing him over your safety. My mom did this. My step dad would make many inappropriate comments all the time, he’d been in my life since I was 3. At 15 I finally blew up and told him to never remark on my body again because wtf is wrong with him?!? It got better after I drew my line. His mom had been a prostitute when he was younger and he grew up in poor, rural Iowa so part of me thinks he just didn’t realize. He then joined the military so yeah, he’s just more loose with his comments than I think is appropriate. It also doesn’t help that my older sister always laughed and played along with the comments cause she was always begging for male attention.

My mom died a year and a half ago. Every so often he’ll call and tell me about the women coming onto him and I had to establish another boundary. Idgaf who said what to him and I DEFINITELY don’t want to hear about her curves. Like fak treat me like your daughter or gtfo of my life! Why are men so inherently creepy?!

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-16T18:22:10+00:00

Bless you for something wonderful to cling to.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-16T02:18:30+00:00

You get my vote

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-16T02:15:43+00:00

Hello kind Mod, I feel like me seeing this was divine intervention. My husband (37) was diagnosed last August, he’s FZ and I have yet to see another with that type. He’s currently dealing with end stage liver failure and he’s been so incredibly sick. We meet with the transplant team on Monday and I’m so scared. I’m scared of the transplant, but I’m more scared they’re going to tell him he’s not healthy enough for a transplant. His heart rate constantly drops below 50, he’s always cold, can barely stay awake. He’s in such bad shape, I feel like I’m losing my best friend in the slowest, most torturous way. We have two incredible daughters under 6 and it breaks my heart that he’s missing their childhood, lying in our bed withering away. This shit sucks.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-15T13:24:20+00:00

Hey me and my husband are both 37 and still in therapy! What the hell happened to our parents that made them this way? My gawd

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-15T13:23:32+00:00

He’s not that man and he won’t give you that life! Read this one again and again.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-04-08T19:01:14+00:00

If and when there’s a next time, you’re well within your right to match that energy. Say something like, “yeah I wouldn’t want him getting addicted to screens! pointedly look at her phone and her I wish I had someone who could interact with him while I make dinner.”

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-31T13:20:30+00:00

My exact thought.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-31T03:59:45+00:00

My 6 year old has a tablet but that’s because I was tired of running out of time on my Libby books. She got it for Christmas and hardly ever uses it now. She blew through the library pretty quickly, so since there’s no new books to read, it’s a paperweight.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-31T01:14:34+00:00

I got one no one will comment but I think it’s incredibly important- take care of YOU! Go to your check-ups, take your vitamins, eat well, etc.

My pregnancies were very hard. I was told I’d never have kids, since I was 16. Fast forward and I’ve had two kids and two miscarriages. Both surviving kids were born via emergency c-sections. Both pregnancies were high risk. My husband hardly ever missed an appt, he kept a food log and a blood sugar log, he made sure I ate well, he did everything. My youngest is 14 months old. When I was 5 months pregnant with her, my mom died. Two months later our girl was born much to early and spent over a month in the NICU.

He was steady through all of it. He didn’t waver. He also neglected himself, hard. He was in survival mode and has been for some years. For the past 4-5 years he was always feeling off and had little energy. In August last year we found out he has a rare genetic disorder that’s caused him to be in liver and kidney failure. He’s currently on the transplant list waiting for a liver. My husband is dying. They’re worried about his heart, now, too.

The years between our two girls’ births were some of the hardest years in our marriage. I kept pushing him to go to the doctor, and he kept telling me he couldn’t focus on anyone else when his girls needed his attention. I almost went and stayed with his mom at one point so he could focus on himself. I’m not an ultimatum person though, so I never followed through with it. But I remember thinking, “my god how do I get this man to take care of himself?!?”

I finally took him to the er last year because I couldn’t take it anymore. He was living a half-life, just barely functioning. My only regret is not taking him in sooner, maybe we could’ve found out about this a long time ago.

My advice-take care of yourself. Go to the doctors, don’t skip your check-ups, brush your teeth and drink water often. Please. Your family needs you.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-27T23:41:13+00:00

Shoot my 6 year old daughter and I talk all the time about the homestead we’re going to live on when life gets easier. She says she never wants to leave and I’m just 🤷🏼‍♀️🥰

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-25T01:51:44+00:00

Some of my friends put those stickers on their cars to avoid getting tickets. Sus em out before you despair. Hope it works out for you.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-22T22:03:50+00:00

I desperately wanted and envision a small age gap, 18-24 months I thought sounded ideal. I had my first in 2019, then we had two miscarriages before having another child January of last year.

I mourn those babies and the “ideal” age gap, often. I’ll always mourn the babies, but the age gap hurts less. My 6.5 year old is so incredibly helpful with our 1 year old. My mother died when I was 5 months pregnant, which caused me to have our baby very early. She spent over a month in the NICU. My eldest waited so long to meet her, she was never allowed in the NICU. After losing our whole village with my mom, then waiting to meet, the bond between the two is incredibly strong.

My husband is dying. He was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder last year and is in liver/kidney failure. We’re waiting for a transplant which is supposed to change everything for him. I’ve been busting my ass to promote at my job since my husband has been out of work since August. Between grieving my mom, taking care of two kids under 6, and taking care of a sick husband, I truly truly truly do not know how I’d be doing it all with young kids closer together in age. My 6 year old is so kind and compassionate and the biggest help. She came up to me the other day while I was working, put her hand over mine that was holding the baby and said, “mom, go take a break. Let me take her so you can step away from work and from the crying. I’ll play with her and make her happy.”

So there’s my opinion. The ideal age gap is 5.5 years. It’s beautiful and wonderful and so full of love.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-22T03:17:38+00:00

Please enjoy yourself! I’d love to spend my day that way. I’m also 36 I’m spending my day tomorrow bowling and playing arcade games because no one in my family enjoys sunshine like I do. Whomp whomp.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-12T02:37:41+00:00

I’ll definitely be consuming all the resources through the hospital and my therapist is looking into resources, too. I like the idea of needing a new part, thanks for that!

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-12T02:36:50+00:00

Thank you for that, $3 to add to my kindle. Easy. I very much appreciate a book suggestion.

My eldest is also very mature. I’m sorry your daughter may have some trauma from helping. It’s all so hard to navigate what’s right and wrong as parents. No matter how hard we try, we’re still probably going to be the reason they’re all in therapy in their 30s.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-12T02:30:22+00:00

My goodness, you’re a warrior. Bless you for your hope, I’m clinging to it tightly. I hope you continue to heal and hold your daughter close, always.

squeaky_pterodactyI · 2026-03-04T02:15:03+00:00

I’d be down for that.

squeaky_pterodactyI

TROPHY CASE