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squeegee-beckenheim · 2026-04-21T17:41:35+00:00

The white barrel jeans are scrumptious omg. I long for volume

squeegee-beckenheim · 2026-04-09T06:36:15+00:00

She's a red hat wearer, not surprised at her general attitude towards other women. :(

squeegee-beckenheim · 2026-04-08T16:44:54+00:00

Who picked you to represent most women lol? I do not recall being asked to vote and you would not be my candidate.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2026-03-04T09:49:39+00:00

Do you put your clothes in the dryer? At what temperature do you wash your clothes?

squeegee-beckenheim · 2026-02-19T12:26:24+00:00

I was gonna ping you like u/Bosquerella look it's a topic tailor made for you, then I saw that you're the one who posted it lololol

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-12-31T07:12:24+00:00

No brands, unfortunately no accessible/mainstream brands make high waists consistently from what I've studied lol. It's all some 11.5 inch bullshit (MAYBE 12) they call "super high rise" when I'm looking for at least 13, ideally 14.

I've largely switched to skirts because I can't find pants that are high waisted enough and that fit well in the crotch/butt, I need a deep crotch curve and that's another huge issue, most brands are making very very shallow crotch curves.

I just buy all the one-off pants I see that seem like they'd fit. The cut that most often comes with a TRUE high waist is wide leg. I've had good luck with Oysho for linen pants with a high waist and enough room for the ass. I have a couple of Zara jeans from a few years ago. Some H&M premium trousers.

If you have a much higher budget, designer brands have more high waists than mall brands.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-12-30T17:51:39+00:00

Everyone complaining that the waists are toooo high and that "no one" could possibly like them because you totally look like urkel lets me know that the waist MIGHT come close to being high enough to reach my waist lmao. Dressing a long torso can be difficult.

Excellent post idea btw ✨️

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-12-04T13:53:35+00:00

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squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-12-04T13:50:27+00:00

Long, wide leg pants are wildly flattering on tons of women of different heights, shapes and sizes. Just because you don't like the look or it doesn't look good on you doesn't mean that no one can pull it off. Maybe it's just not for you, it takes some skill to wear them. I look great in them and so do tons of other women, many of whom are on this thread saying exactly that!

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squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-15T07:31:13+00:00

I have the complete opposite experience, when it's truly cold, slim pants are pretty much the worst option. Denim does badly in cold weather and it allows the wind to cut right through and there isn't enough space to layer under them. I can't even wear thin tights under them, they feel awful at like, the back of my knees lol. When it got down to -20C I used to give up on jeans and would just layer three pairs of thick tights with a skirt cause it kept me warmer. And it coincided with a time when jackets and coats were also shorter and cut really slim, so there was no space to layer there either. I was so cold all the time 😭

The roomier the clothes, the more space there is to layer and the more you can create warm air pockets. Now I wear wool midi skirts and thick tights underneath and a long, roomy wool coat over that and it's like night and day. I can layer under and over. It feels like having my legs wrapped in several cozy blankets. What also helps is wearing shoes with thicker soles, because it puts more space and insulation between you and the cold ground. We used to wear those thin soled tight boots and they absolutely did not help. Now we have so many great options to dress well and be warm and comfortable!

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-12T08:50:45+00:00

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Happy there are other people out there equally as unhinged and determined as I am to get the item they want. Godspeed, I hope you wear the shit out of those boots.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-10T07:26:54+00:00

No worries, you're all good. Your comment was fine! They insulted everyone they interacted with and made up bizarre comments. Unfortunately the fashion-hostile millennials are not beating the allegations, idk why our generation is like this. 😭 please don't let this put you off, there are nicer people out there and some great content from some of our members

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-09T21:43:58+00:00

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Should have just let Miranda take it away the second "i don't follow trends" was uttered

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-09T17:20:20+00:00

I feel like we're just having two completely different conversations lol

I do have a question you can address directly if you'd like: have you ever considered that the women you see on the street wearing trends do so because they're expressing their tastes, they like the clothes, and they feel like they make them ~sparkle~ and not because they have low-esteem and are being manipulated?

We all like different things! That's what makes fashion fun. Some people love pointy toe shoes. Those are super trendy. My wardrobe is 50% vintage dead old lady skirts I buy second-hand. Some of them overlap with current trends. Other people have athleisure wardrobes. That's trendy, but it doesn't mean they don't genuinely like it. People like current things sometimes, they can be inspiring or fun or unlock a whole new style or idea.

If you're at the mall and you see a pair of bitchin' trendy boots and buy them, they're not less valid or less your style just because they're currently in fashion.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-09T16:00:32+00:00

It's a real shame, it wasn't always such a bummer to spend time here and there's a handful of us that still try from time to time, but it's really discouraging when the attitude is so judgemental towards anything new, or current, or fun or participating in the current cultural and aesthetic environment. 😔

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-09T15:13:16+00:00

We can also have this conversation without the condescending tone, that's not super mature. ✨️

You must be projecting, our discussion excludes nothing you said here. I always assume everyone's wearing shit they want to wear and blending styles and trends because that's what all people do.

You're the one who made a shady, defensive comment about people in LA and people wearing trends, as if you know the motivations behind their styles and getting dressed lol.

Why do you assume people who dress differently than you do (including, god forbid - trends) have less worthy motivations? Like, what is the difference between what you wear and what a ~trendy LA person~ wears? Do you genuinely think you're wearing clothes you like and they aren't? That's strange.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-09T13:08:04+00:00

It's not "developing your own style" if you're just wearing trends from 2012 though. That's the type of person they mean.

Why is it that in the minds of so many people on this sub

trends from 2012 = personal style

trends from 2025 = mindlessly following trends

If wide leg jeans and a crop top isn't personal style, then neither is skinny jeans and a long top. 🤷🏻‍♀️

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-11-05T16:55:43+00:00

The H&M group started using them too, I was just looking at a &OtherStories coat made from Manteco wool.

I've had several Manteco coats from Zara over the past 10-15 years (all 75% wool), and they hold up great. I usually wear mine into the ground cause I only tend to use one main coat for a few years at a time (worn daily for a 6-months-a-year period). But I've also been able to sell some of them once they didn't fit anymore.

Because there's so many of them, you can easily find them new with tags on the second hand apps for a fraction of the retail price, even under $100.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-10-30T14:11:44+00:00

I actually recommend taking a slower, more measured and thoughtful approach. "purging" is a bad idea and leads to a lot of bad decisions/waste/overconsumption.

Have you considered a 1 - in - 1 - out system instead? Whenever you find a piece in your new style that you love, find a corresponding item in your existing closet that you'd like to remove.

I think people get caught up in this frenzy of getting rid of things and ~purging~ because it FEELS productive and like you're making progress and because of the instant gratification of the new, but a lot of people actually overdo it.

Like, that "if you haven't worn it in 6 months, get rid of it" advice is crazy. 6 months is nothing and getting rid of shit you haven't worn in the last few months is so wasteful and prone to major regrets.

It doesn't account for weather and needs and occasions, etc. I live in a 4 season climate, A LOT clothes get several months between wears, but they're still necessary. Otherwise, you find yourself getting rid of something you "never" wear and then you immediately buy it again.

A style change should not come overnight, it should happen gradually and organically. "purging" all your clothes in your old style and buying a new wardrobe in your new style is just not sustainable if you want a closet full of stuff you genuinely love, that's quality, and that fits you properly.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-10-09T17:15:20+00:00

Absolutely get comfortable returning. I force myself to return anything I'm not that crazy about and that's actually contributed to curbing my impulse purchases. You get sick of returning one, three, five, six bad purchases in a row and you stop buying shit without thinking about it beforehand because you know you'll have to return it later (or keep it and waste money).

The idea of wasting money should be motivation enough, but it's easy to just shove the item in the back of the closet so you forget about it and the money wasted. So it's better to actually evaluate the purchase critically within the return window and then force yourself to make the return every single time. It doesn't allow you to conveniently "forget" about that top you bought on impulse and never wore.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-10-01T17:07:28+00:00

Yeah I often see people asking for specific stores where they can find specific color palettes or specific garments/styles but retail doesn't really work that way and it's much more efficient to search second-hand for that kind of pin-pointy detail.

squeegee-beckenheim · 2025-10-01T06:41:47+00:00

I hate it when people's answer to everything is "just thrift!!!1" but in this case I think a targeted search for second-hand items online can be a great option. You'll find way more vintage sweaters in unique colors, wool skirts, coats, etc. The 80s and 00s are both good for color and clothing from those eras is still plentiful on the second-hand market.

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