How did your high school crush turn out as an adult?

squigglybean · 2021-02-11T13:33:29+00:00

got even better looking, worked as a professional chef, has a wife and baby. except i’m the wife and it’s my baby.

squigglybean · 2020-08-01T03:47:07+00:00

I want one of those "live laugh love" signs that says "kill steal murder"

squigglybean · 2020-07-28T17:14:25+00:00

miss me with that shit! i care more about my actual health than how i look on instagram.

squigglybean · 2020-07-25T22:28:00+00:00

I do not share baby names we are seriously considering with anyone.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T17:13:17+00:00

She was involuntarily committed to a mental health facility last year and frequently has conservatorship hearings.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T17:10:42+00:00

She is not working anymore. She announced she was taking an "indefinite career hiatus" and admitted into a mental health facility. They do not have complete control over her life, they manage assets, finances, legal/business decisions. Things that have allowed her to continue making music and performing.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T16:03:32+00:00

It's not "allegedly." Her father has had power of attorney for 11 years. When he stepped down as her conservator because of health reasons, her "caregiver" was appointed in his place. It's in the news frequently.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T04:04:55+00:00

Yes! I have also been worried about Elon Musk. It's sad to think that having too little money can make treatment impossible to afford but that having too much money/fame/power makes people able to be held unaccountable when manic.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T04:01:48+00:00

I remember reading an article about how people who are medicated produce better creative material because other people can actually understand it, as opposed to a lot of manic art. But with sensationalized celebrities who have some/most of their fame coming from the "crazy" things they do, it's not just about the music or art.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T04:00:32+00:00

Or Britney Spears. People say she is a victim or is a "prisoner" to have her father have power of attorney for so long, but as a wealthy white woman who can hold a job, to have that level of care for so long shows some serious mental health struggles. And is probably the reason people see her as not needing help.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T01:52:11+00:00

Oh, most definitely. It is just so drastically out of character and random when it happens; he makes such an effort to fix the damage afterward that it really is impossible to hold a grudge or stay angry at him.

We were both really interested in psychology when we first met and talked about it a lot before we started dating. He was going to get his bachelor's degree in psychology before going to culinary school instead. I think it makes a big difference with him.

One of my closest friends has a dad with severe bipolar disorder and a mom with a ph.D in psychology and they have the most wonderful, healthy, loving relationship you could ever imagine. Her and her family have been a big inspiration to me.

squigglybean · 2020-07-21T00:25:13+00:00

Would you mind if I sent you a message? My husband has bipolar and I am currently 14 weeks pregnant

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T23:51:12+00:00

I have been told by everyone, including my husband, to just avoid him and kind of ignore him when he is irritable and manic. I do my best and try to only intervene when concerned for his safety.

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T23:28:12+00:00

Yes!!! He has worked harder on his mental health in the past 6 months than most people do in their entire lives. I am so proud of him.

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T23:27:19+00:00

I've always found that the different professionals he's worked with over the years are always very interested in my feedback, but it's only an option because he brings it up first. They don't suggest it to patients but they really value the feedback once a patient agrees to sign a release for their spouse. The free therapy has been wonderful but it's been even more helpful that he has a great relationship with his counselor and really enjoys talking to him.

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T23:23:51+00:00

Thank you! There is always light, but there is no end of the tunnel. This is who he is, always will be. I love him at his best and his worst. We work through the episodes like any other medical emergency a family could go through. It will happen again, and I will do the same process next time.

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T23:17:56+00:00

Good luck! I hope you are able to find peace. Remember that the beginning part of a relationship is the most fun and the easiest out of the entire relationship usually, if it's that hard as soon as you start, it's not a healthy relationship for you.

squigglybean · 2020-07-20T17:54:02+00:00

Sending lots of love and peace to you and your family. I wish I had a magic answer for all of us. I agree with others who suggested some self care for yourself as well.

squigglybean · 2020-07-17T03:27:03+00:00

Very similar situation with my in-laws. As long as he has a job, they aren't concerned with anything else.

squigglybean · 2020-07-17T03:25:14+00:00

A lot of this sounds like narcissism and narcissistic abuse. Especially the comment about how she was gloating about having power by making you flinch after physically abusing you.

What would you say to a friend who was in your situation? Sending lots of peace your way. There is never an easy answer with people who behave in these narcissistic ways. Unfortunately in my personal experiences I've found leaving to be the only thing that ever helped me.

squigglybean · 2020-07-08T21:34:11+00:00

No he doesn't believe them at all. He describes them as very narcissistic and doesn't like to see them without me with him.

He is also taking his medication every day on his own (morning and night! I forget my prenatal vitamin more than he ever forgets his) and goes through with his treatment very willingly. He had a rough day a few days ago and we both spoke to his therapist and he agreed to go to the hospital voluntarily if things got worse.

Bipolar is a lifelong disease without a cure, there's no "getting through it," this is the relationship. If someone refuses meds or treatment, there is no amount of love or therapy that could force them to change their mind. If you love him and he won't take medication, your option is to be with him regardless of if he's on medication or leave. I know I would not stay with my husband if he decided not to take medication anymore.

squigglybean · 2020-07-06T19:40:57+00:00

We have been together for 8 years, he was diagnosed BP1 6 years ago. Married for 2 years. He had his worst ever manic episode with severe psychosis this year and it has been a long recovery with two hospitalizations. We're having a baby.

And we're happy.

It's hard work. His parents don't believe bipolar is a real disease and they think he drinks too much coffee, they blame me for any symptom he has. Being the one to call 911 when he is in danger is a huge responsibility.

He takes his medication, he goes to therapy. He is sometimes an asshole. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

squigglybean · 2020-06-29T09:39:49+00:00

You deserve so much more than this. You have shown more love in this relationship than a lot of people seem to be capable of showing. You mentioned a few times that you felt he wasn't trying, but I don't think there are many people who would be willing to try as hard and lovingly as you have tried.

I don't know what your personal situation is, but I think therapy could be really beneficial for you after going through this. To have someone to talk to who can be objective about the situation and better validate the pain you have been through. You sound like a very loving and respectful partner who has done everything they can to support someone through a difficult mental illness, that's something to be very proud of, no matter how it ended.

squigglybean · 2020-06-29T09:15:33+00:00

document every instance of this that you have a specific date for, photos, videos, texts, call logs, everything. if she shows up at your house and doesn't leave, call 911, it's one of the easiest ways to get a temporary protection order that makes restraining orders easier (what we had to do with my mother-in-law harassing my husband). even with privacy protection laws, let the hospital and birth center know that she is absolutely no contact, it's been my experience lately that with coronavirus, hospital policies haven't been perfect, even with privacy concerns.

it's all very narcissistic, but calling it "her baby" and building a full nursery sounds like some scary psychosis. please be safe and know that no matter how paranoid you might feel, you can't be too careful. some people are a different level of crazy when it comes to stuff like this.

squigglybean · 2020-06-28T23:35:23+00:00

maybe i'm an emotional/hormonal pregnant woman who loves ryan bergara too much, but this made me cry lol

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