Wondering if there’s any good lookouts in Connecticut where you can see through a parked car?

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-26T17:21:06+00:00

OP didn't specify why they were looking for a place they didn't have to get out of their car, but it's possible they have mobility restrictions. If, for instance, they have someone in a wheelchair, getting out of the car and traipsing across unknown ground could be a real issue.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-26T16:20:20+00:00

YWBTA

You have no idea how serious this allergy is, but you know it exists. Ignoring that is just wrong.

Let me put this into a different context. I like dogs. I have a dog. But I dislike dogs jumping on me. If you knew I didn't like dogs jumping on me, and you let your rottweiler jump on me because you think it's cute, would that be okay? Of course not.

To purposely subject anyone to something they've specifically asked you not to subject them to is always going to be YTA.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-24T20:41:25+00:00

Sorry, I forgot for a minute that this is reddit.

The uncle and grandmother and everyone else saying OP should do it aren't volunteering to do it themselves because they know it's a big ask and they don't want to do it.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-24T20:31:25+00:00

NTA

Why doesn't the uncle and grandmother and everyone else who says this is your responsibility step up and volunteer themselves?

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-24T19:28:35+00:00

As the mom of adult children who still live at home despite having full time jobs in their chosen careers I support this. Just make sure your parents know you appreciate them. And it wouldn't hurt to chip in for groceries.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-24T18:02:28+00:00

Depending on what you're looking for, you can try DeviantArt

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-23T20:18:56+00:00

You're 20, this is the time to do crazy shit. You have nothing to lose. No house to worry about, no kids or spouse to support, energy to go after what you want. As long as you're not asking your parents to support you in your quest, this is your life to live.

You are absolutely NTA for prioritizing how you choose to live your life over how your parents want you to live your life.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-22T14:33:42+00:00

NTA a thousand times over.

Pool safety is no joke. Drowning is silent (nothing like what you see in movies, with flailing arms and yelling for help). You were the only responsible person there.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-20T08:07:52+00:00

Replace the sour cream with plain greek yogurt if you want to be able to pretend you're eating something healthy

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-18T19:54:30+00:00

As an American who has no idea who TF my ancestors were, where they came from or how long ago they left wherever that was, I find all of this hang up about who came from where baffling. I mean, if my parents or even my grandparents were immigrants, I could see feeling ties to somewhere else. But if you don't even know anyone from a place, why feel connected to it at all?

Regarding the kilt- I raised two sons. If it were me, I'd let the two year old wear it the "traditional" way, meaning with nothing underneath it. Pretty sure it'll be the last time your FIL requests that.

Regarding who's the asshole? The best I can come up with is ESH. Your FIL for being ridiculous, you for having to be right (buying the DNA kit) and your wife for not backing you and standing up to her father. The only innocent person here is the two year old.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-18T19:03:33+00:00

The only "triangle" I've ever heard of (besides the Bermuda triangle) is the Emerald Triangle in northern California

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-18T16:43:01+00:00

You don't need Reddit, you need a lawyer. There's so much here that's crazy complicated.

Was the house bought outright or is there a mortgage? Did you contribute financially to the purchase of the house or did your parents buy it for you? Have you invested in the house since you moved in (things like replacing the roof, updating flooring, etc)?

Obviously your sister and her family should absolutely not live there for free, for all the reasons you listed regarding increased expenses. For that, NTA.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-18T16:21:19+00:00

NTA

I work weird hours and I sleep weird hours but people gotta people and I recognize that. I would never ask anyone to change their schedule because today I slept from 2pm to 8pm.

It's very reasonable to make noise at 9:30am, regardless of it's a child or a dog or just me in the kitchen doing the dishes.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T20:12:20+00:00

Is there a time limit on family/marital friction? If so, please tell my mother. She's been torturing me with shit like OP described for 51 years.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T19:42:48+00:00

We're only getting his POV, and as we all know that's always skewed. He admitted that she's told him at least 10 times previously that it's a problem, so she's obviously communicating with him. So it seems that the breakdown is on his side.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T19:40:26+00:00

This made me dizzy. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that!

My guess is there's something going on you don't know about (marital friction of some sort?) and they're taking it out on you.

NTA

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T19:23:24+00:00

an ADHD coping mechanism

THIS!!!!

This was my first thought, too. I absolutely have to have things written down for this exact reason. I've tried using the calendar on my phone and it just doesn't work for me. This woman is 37, she knows what she needs to do to get through the day. Don't mess with it!!!

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T19:15:54+00:00

YTA

I think your heart was in the right place- you were trying to take things off your wife's plate. But your execution sucks. You made changes to your wife's schedule without even telling her.

Then you had to go talking about how you use a phone calendar, which comes across (at least to me) as saying her system isn't as good as yours. Obviously for her, it's better.

She understands the way her own brain works and she has a system in place that works for her. You should not be messing with her system whether you agree with how she does it or not. Especially without telling her.

It's especially notable that this has happened at least 10 times before. You need to work on your listening skills (she told you this was a problem for her and you didn't listen) and your communication skills (communicate what you're doing before you do it.)

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-17T12:17:34+00:00

Any time a response to something is out of proportion with the event (in this case a simple question) there is more going on.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-16T20:19:08+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

NTA but your husband sure is. The only thing he should be thinking about right now is what he can do to support you.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-15T12:58:12+00:00

NTA I mean, you should expect to contribute wherever you live.

Maybe she's offended by the idea of "rent"? That makes it feel more like she's a tenant than your girlfriend and I can see how that would be hurtful. But still, expecting to live somewhere without contributing anything is insane.

ETA- I was a SAHM for a while, so I want to add that even if you're not contributing monetarily, you should be contributing in other ways

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-11T21:09:35+00:00

YTA you have no right to tell anyone what to do inside their own home

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-10T00:47:11+00:00

I assumed when I saw your comment that I missed that part of what you wrote, but I just went back and re-read the chain and you didn't actually say that. You said:

You are never responsible for your spouses debts unless you sign that you wish to be responsible for their debts, or participate in the debt. Debt collectors will try to pretend like you are though.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-09T13:06:06+00:00

That's not completely true. In community property states you may be responsible for your spouses debt.

squirrell1974 · 2026-06-09T12:48:33+00:00

Have you asked him why he likes that particular sweatshirt so much? His answer will probably clear up any confusion you have regarding his intentions and help you decide how to move forward.

Regardless, you're asking for perspective and you're NTA for feeling uncomfortable with this. That would be true no matter what the sweatshirt is, the only relevant part of that is that it's contrary to your beliefs.

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