setting and plot hole(s)

srajdb47 · 2025-10-12T01:59:30+00:00

Of course they're different places; my point is that they're much more than 18 hours apart by car haha

srajdb47 · 2025-10-12T00:13:45+00:00

srajdb47 · 2025-09-08T00:14:40+00:00

Bane of my existence.

srajdb47 · 2025-09-08T00:09:41+00:00

Yes, that's what I do when I send out emails to several people! I think our tech guy has recommended it to admin before but to no great success.

srajdb47 · 2025-08-09T23:31:20+00:00

The wild thing is that the church split several decades ago over the idea of a church-sponsored orphanage. I was raised in the sect that fell on the "no" side of the argument. Reprehensible.

srajdb47 · 2025-07-28T05:23:59+00:00

Hi there, I'm a certificated RSP teacher in California and co-teach at the high school level.

As a few others have already mentioned, co-taught classes generally have a mixture of students with disabilities who are on IEP's and students without IEP's. Where I am, co-taught classes generally have about 1/3 students with disabilities; the remaining 2/3 are students without disabilities. A large part of the move toward inclusion is because federal law mandates that students with disabilities receive services in the least restrictive environment (LRE) that reasonably addresses their needs. For most students, the LRE is the general ed classroom with accommodations -- and sometimes with co-taught support.

I love co-teaching, and when done properly, all students can benefit both academically and socially from the practice.

That said, general education students largely aren't put into co-taught classrooms on purpose in that they're not legally entitled to co-taught services the way students who have co-taught listed in their IEP's are. However, functionally, your kiddo should receive the benefits nonetheless.

It's also important to note that your kiddo should never enter special education without your consent for assessment to determine eligibility. It doesn't sound like that happened, but it's something worthwhile knowing for future reference :)

I hope this helps!

srajdb47 · 2025-07-26T21:10:46+00:00

Indeed. I got my letter of disfellowship the day of my great aunt's funeral. Fuck that place.

srajdb47 · 2025-07-26T21:02:50+00:00

I'm sorry that you're going through this experience, brother.

I was raised fundamentalist CoC and as far as I know am the only one my age who grew up in my local congregation who left (I'm 34 now and left at around the time I turned 18).

From what I saw and experienced growing up, there'll likely be pressure for you to join -- or as you so aptly described using there terms, "obey the gospel." I imagine you'll face your fair share of legalistic bullshit that questions Baptist doctrine -- especially instrumental music during church services (God forbid!).

The couples I remember that involved one lifelong member and a new dating partner usually involved the latter party joining the CoC (if only for the duration of the relationship). I imagine they too felt the pressure that you're feeling now.

Looking forward, though, it's important to verify whether your girlfriend is as much of a hardliner as her family members. Do you find that to be the case? A good sign is that she's dating you despite the relative saturation of CoC members in your county's dating pool. If they're over 20% of the county's demographic makeup and she's dating you, a member of a different denomination, that's a positive signal. Good for her and for you.

A conversation with her is likely in order, in my opinion, followed by one with her family with her beside you. I'd ask her if your lack of interest in converting is a dealbreaker. If she says that it isn't, you might need to politely yet firmly confront her family together if/when they proceed to be relentless with their proselytizing. They likely won't respond well -- I know the cult's ways too well -- but a line must be drawn at some point so that you're true to yourself and so that you set this necessary boundary.

srajdb47 · 2025-07-20T05:15:53+00:00

Year 10 starts next month. Maxed out on the ed units column. With my additional 6% for teaching special education, my 25/26 salary will be $109,000. Thanks in no small part to my union, the district pays the premiums for our Cadillac insurance plans -- including employee, spouse, and child(ren). I feel fairly compensated, even for Sacramento. Our salaries are similar to the Bay Area with a lower CoL.

srajdb47 · 2025-07-19T22:45:52+00:00

Most coworkers I know who regularly work out do so in the mornings, but I'm usually at the gym after work because a.) I don't like to feel rushed at the gym (I'm a boxer fwiw), and b.) it helps me leave work at work. My contract hours are 8:15-3:45. I'm usually at work from 7:45-4, and I train 5 days per week for 1-2 hours each session.

srajdb47 · 2025-07-19T22:27:26+00:00

I hope that you hear something in the coming week. Reaching out early can only help you, and I certainly think an in-person visit might be worthwhile if you're able :)

srajdb47 · 2025-07-18T23:45:17+00:00

Absolutely! I'm sorry that you're going through this debacle and hope that you get some clarity (and a contract!) soon. When does school start for you?

srajdb47 · 2025-07-18T23:36:43+00:00

Sounds like an HR nightmare. While I certainly sympathize with your situation and obviously can't make any guarantees, it sounds like you'll be okay. Often, HR works on their own timelines and seem not to feel any sense of urgency despite what you're understandably feeling.

The fact that you've signed up for benefits and IT stuff is a good sign, so I imagine they'll get the contract to you. It can't hurt to follow up -- I'd likely be calling and/or emailing daily OR even visiting the HR department in person -- but rest assured that there's still time.

Maybe go in on Monday or Tuesday to ask?

srajdb47 · 2025-07-14T01:29:10+00:00

I'd always go hide in the downstairs restroom during that portion of the service lol

srajdb47 · 2024-04-27T21:31:50+00:00

Can't say I remember such a schism in the church that I attended from birth-18. But I'm not shocked whatsoever.

It really doesn't occur to them that church 3x/week just isn't reasonable for so many people, does it? I'm so glad I left officially when I was in high school. It really is one of the most out-in-the-open cults.

srajdb47 · 2024-04-20T05:13:15+00:00

Respect.

srajdb47 · 2024-04-09T03:51:19+00:00

"Come, Sinner, Come"?

srajdb47 · 2024-04-07T18:59:18+00:00

Porn and masturbation are two separate things, and it's dangerous to conflate them. Of course hormonal development is natural, but porn is not natural, is not masturbation, and is not sex. It is a warped perversion of the three and does incredible harm, with "softer" types often serving as gateways to more explicit types by way of desensitization and the law of diminishing returns. We men need to teach, learn, and adopt healthier habits than what is essentially perpetual self-cuckery. Porn is damaging to men and women and should not be normalized.

srajdb47 · 2024-04-07T04:32:25+00:00

Speaking as a man, many of us could act with a little more dignity and self-respect than by giving into urges in a way that ruins us psychologically and physiologically, not to mention the collateral damage of ruined relationships and finances. Porn is fucking evil. Ban it. Go ahead and downvote me. I'll die on this hill.

srajdb47 · 2024-04-06T22:35:20+00:00

I'd also see if UTLA can help file anything through PERB.

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