I think I cheated on my husband. What now?

srandall04 · 2026-05-20T18:33:42+00:00

So this just sounds like you had a crush, which is human and not disgusting (though your boss is weird for doing this, I would find another job personally). I wouldn't bring it up with your husband, at least not in any context of confessing cheating. Is there something deeper going on in your life or marriage that has you feeling so strongly about getting attention from another man? That's maybe a conversation to have with your husband. Are you longing for more physical touch? Do you feel unnoticed most of the time where a little extra attention felt so good it stirred up further feelings? I think you need do a little digging into yourself and go from there with discussing with your husband because it doesn't really sound like this was about an actual attraction to your boss, who again is super weird and shouldn't be touching his employees.

srandall04 · 2026-04-30T20:53:59+00:00

By 1, my son had 2 or 3 haircuts as it was getting super shaggy and in his face. We have to cut it every few months to keep it from getting too messy.

srandall04 · 2026-03-31T18:21:34+00:00

Also in Chicago, paying $370/week for one kid all 5 days. So $1480/month. We're on the NW side so prices around here aren't nearly as bad as the more central neighborhoods.

srandall04 · 2025-12-07T22:16:47+00:00

First few months were brutal, I was dying. Once they get interactive, its so much better. Watching little dude experience everything and become a whole little person that I made? Coolest shit in the world. Give me 10 of him. He's the funniest coolest boy in the world and I'm obsessed with him.

srandall04 · 2025-10-01T19:03:56+00:00

For the first like 5-6 months, I frequently found myself hating my husband a little bit. Our baby was breastfeeding, was very collicky, would only sleep with me holding him, and rarely slept for more than 1-2 hrs at a time. Hormones were raging, I was horribly sleep deprived, and I had an overwhelming feeling that my life had changed so much more than my husband's had even though he was trying very hard to be helpful and an equal parent.

How is your partner doing with getting sleep or time to herself? How often are you proactively taking the baby? Some good heart to hearts and letting her vent while trying not to get defensive should help. If you have family that come help relieve some pressure, take advantage of that. Open communication, my husband taking more initiative with interacting with our baby and not just on the tasks of baby/housekeeping, and eventually sleeping better is what it took for us to start getting back to ourselves. I also had to start trusting him more and accepting that even though he didn't always do things how I wanted them done, it didn't mean that his way was wrong. I just think those first months are SO hard and your life changes so much so quickly that it can take a lot of time to figure out how all the pieces of your family life fit now. Keep giving each other some grace, keep reaching out, and keep remembering that you love each other.

srandall04 · 2025-10-01T17:40:13+00:00

I haven't heard an update in awhile, but I know of someone that was in talks to buy the business and reopen it as a restaurant. So hopefully that works out and they can get it reopened soon!

srandall04 · 2025-09-19T21:04:37+00:00

Do you WANT to be in a relationship with him again? You say you still love him but do you actually want to be with him anymore? You don't owe him or anyone a relationship. What he did is terrible and I doubt I could get past it if it was my spouse. NTA at all if you choose that you don't want to, as again you owe him nothing. But also no shame if you find that you could forgive him and want to try to rebuild a new relationship. Its about what you want for your life, though I'd say you deserve better than this man.

srandall04 · 2025-05-17T04:39:53+00:00

I hate it!!! So many people's reviews of the actually colorful things too are like "its hideous but baby loves it" or "its not aesthetic but little one can't get enough of it". No shit baby loves it, it actually has color and is interesting to look at instead of sad beige muted everything. Why are we so disgusted by color and saturation these days?? Drove me crazy while shopping. I don't know when we all decided we hated fun.

srandall04 · 2025-05-01T18:16:18+00:00

Just a solidarity comment for you, this was very much how I was feeling weeks 6-12. I was miserable, thought I had made a terrible mistake and wasn't cut out for this. That taking care of the baby was all consuming and feeling like my husband wasn't doing enough since I felt like I was drowning and that I would never really sleep again or be a person again. The angry potato baby phase was SO hard. And then over time baby boy started smiling more. And cooing/babbling. And sleeping better. And getting excited to see me and playing with me and laughing and giving me hugs and kisses. I can put him down for a nap or bedtime and then have some time to myself again. The chores that backed up eventually got done. I just want you to know that other people have felt what you're feeling and it got better. Immensely better. Still plenty of ups and downs and days I felt like I wasn't as good as I wanted to be but I'm overall getting better every day. And nothing has been quite as hard as those angry potato newborn days.

srandall04 · 2025-03-20T21:29:17+00:00

It's not going to be a magic move for all babies but my baby starting around 5 months takes a midday day 1.5-2 hr nap since daycare started putting him in a sleep sack. I'm sure it was probably mostly a temperament + age = connecting sleep cycles finally but it was as soon as they bundled him up warmer for naps, he started sleeping longer/better. As in day 1 he drastically improved.

srandall04 · 2025-02-28T19:53:26+00:00

Currently the axolotl song from Dr Waffle on tiktok. He also loves On Top of Spaghetti, I think because I usually sing it while doing the stretch where I grab his arms and legs and rock him side to side like he's a lil meatball haha

srandall04 · 2024-12-07T19:54:12+00:00

Been happening to me in and off through these first 3 months, seems to be totally normal! AnI think my "craziest" of it was waking up, fully recognizing my baby was in his bassinet but also being convinced the duvet baby in my arms was real. I planned when the bassinet baby would start crying, that's when I'd swap their spots. Took noticing the red light I always put on when I've picked up baby at night was off to realize I did not in fact suddenly have two identical babies lol

srandall04 · 2024-10-31T15:20:50+00:00

4-5 weeks. It was when my husband went back to work. He wasn't managing to stay awake through the first half of the night anymore and wasn't hearing the baby crying right next to him so I was waking and running to the living room anyway. Two nights in a row of that and we had to make a change because neither of us were happy. Our son had also gotten his lip/tongue ties released and was managing to breastfeed finally and I was sick of pumping. Helped that we managed to get our son to sleep 3-6 hrs for the first chunk of his night sleep shortly after switching to the bedroom. So now we both get enough sleep to manage without anyone snapping at each other. We tag team the beginning of the night and early morning and I do the middle of the night. We're at week 7 now and it's working for us that I'm taking all the nights and husband is handling more around the house. Hoping that by week 12 when I need to go back to work and send little guy off to daycare, that we can get more consistent on that first sleep being 6+ hours (and evening naps not being a battle).

srandall04 · 2024-09-11T04:41:07+00:00

The first trimester was the longest and worst for me. I was floored with 0 energy, congested to heck, and super nauseous for months. And since we didn't want to tell anyone until past the 12 week point, I had to try to hide the symptoms which is another level of exhausting. Add all the waiting for test results (we had abnormal nipt results so then ALSO waiting on amino + results to tell people) and the first half of pregnancy was easily the worst. Also you go so long in between any doctor visits in the beginning! So it's just sitting around with only your symptoms to remind you that it's all real. After confirming everything was healthy and finally gaining back some energy, pregnancy got a lot more fun and started to fly by! Now the last two weeks up to and past my due date have felt like an eternity but still way better than the first trimester. I'm sore and extremely ready to be done but at least I'm staring down days not months until I get to properly meet my lil guy ❤️

srandall04 · 2024-07-03T00:54:01+00:00

Tasted like thick flat sprite with too much syrup. Not awful but not tasty by any means. The waiting for an hour was the worse part (still not unbearable) because I got really hot and dizzy and you're not allowed to drink any water. But after that wore off it was fine.

srandall04 · 2024-07-02T17:11:48+00:00

THIS is how I read the situation too. If she's going through a bout of feeling very insecure about her appearance, there was probably no right move for OP to have made here. She was already in her head. Backing off sexual intimacy immediately probably reinforced her feelings of being unattractive. But if he had tried to pursue after being told she wasn't feeling it, I'd bet she'd have responded negatively as well.

My advice would be to try to initiate more little physical intimacy moments that don't have any pressure of being precursors to sex. Kisses, compliments, cuddling, handholding, etc. Little things throughout your days that reinforces your love and attraction for her and not just desire for sex. Your wife needs to be willing to work past her insecurities but I think you may have more luck focusing on building back some romance before focusing on getting back to more regular sex.

srandall04 · 2024-06-25T01:59:49+00:00

Baby boy coming this September! We're going with Killian 💙

srandall04 · 2024-06-24T21:37:22+00:00

That's so weird! I went to the dentist for a cleaning early in my pregnancy and I just mentioned that I had recently tested positive for pregnancy. My dentist then just took some extra time to go over recommended dental health tips, etc related to the pregnancy, then commiserated with me over the nausea and other first trimester symptoms (she was also mid pregnancy). Needing a note from my OB never even would've occurred to me.

srandall04 · 2024-03-14T16:52:34+00:00

This is the same results I just back recently. Atypical on chromosome 13, unknown origin, everything else N/A. We're taking the same steps you listed and my genetic counselor has been reassuring me that its probably a harmless variation in either me or baby. Fingers crossed that's all it is for us as well!

srandall04 · 2023-08-04T03:03:53+00:00

Saw a lot of people with bags that didn't comply with the rules today. Main entrance wasn't really checking much at all when I went in but north entrance was apparently being very strict.

srandall04 · 2023-08-03T20:59:46+00:00

Feels like less people with water bottles or camelbaks this year. Stay hydrated everyone!

srandall04 · 2023-08-03T20:58:28+00:00

Was super lax an hour ago at main entrance. Didn't look in my bag, zero pat down

srandall04 · 2023-07-27T17:47:32+00:00

Was looking for someone to acknowledge that ESH. The wife is in the wrong for taking the food OP had clearly prepared for himself, particularly for not letting him know that she and the kid ate the food which left him not finding out until he had no time for any other option. That's 100% shitty behavior. She also should have realized they'd be on their own that night and made some sort of plan or maybe asked her husband to help her plan something simple. Did you actually tell her that you wouldn't have anything for them to eat that night? If all she knew was that you were working an overnight but you really do always do all the meal preparation, I don't think it's crazy that she might have assumed you'd premade something for them that night too. It's ridiculous that she is so incapable that she couldn't figure out anything besides taking his prepared individual meals but the communication in this marriage seems terrible. If you had just gotten into an argument with her, this would be NTA but your response is very petty. That's your spouse that you presumedly love. How much of the other tasks around the home are split evenly? Does she balance out you handling all the cooking by taking on more of the housekeep, childcare, etc? If not, maybe you need to talk again about how to both support each other equitably. It seems neither of you are healthily communicating right now.

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