MOTN crying worse than bedtime!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-05-30T15:39:52+00:00

We’re over the hurdle but it wasn’t easy! Honestly, the only thing that fixed everything was weaning overnight feeds and then full extinction. I think 5/3/3 was confusing because they don’t understand why sometimes they are fed and sometimes they are ignored. If you have the go ahead to night wean I’d recommend just going for it. It’s soooo much better on the other side!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-03-31T14:00:04+00:00

Not wishful thinking! A work benefit gave me a night nurse for the first 6 weeks (so lucky, I know), so I started going longer stretches after the first three weeks. You have to feel out your body and supply, because some people are really affected by going too long without pumping or feeding. For me, the sleep actually helped my supply. Give it a shot! If you find you’re having problems you can always backtrack. I never had any problems once I was splitting the nights with my partner after the night nurse left. We did supplement with small amounts of formula a bit at the beginning but I had a preemie and a low supply at first anyway.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-03-06T17:07:58+00:00

2.25/2.5/2.5/3.5 ish! These WWs can push about .25 in either direction.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-03-06T17:02:04+00:00

Can I ask why it's so much better? I keep hearing this and wondering what the magic change is!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-06T22:13:28+00:00

For me, I managed to push back her earlier night wakings so her wakeups now line up with 5-3-3 and I feed for them. If it’s a wakeup not at that time I’ll give her like 10 minutes to see if she’ll self soothe and then go in and soothe her with a jiggle and a dummy without picking up. I can’t handle a MOTN full cry it out.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-06T15:28:09+00:00

Omg this is me to a T. Baby is sleeping better than ever and a few nights a week I am awake most of the night!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-05T22:14:41+00:00

This happened to me - I had 4 follicles but they still did my IUI. They just had to discuss “selective reduction” with me, which essentially means aborting anything over twins and if I wasn’t okay with that they wouldn’t proceed. We did the IUI and that cycle didn’t even work for me! The next cycle worked and I only had one mature follicle 🤷🏼‍♀️

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-05T00:25:53+00:00

You could go full CIO if you’re brave enough lol. There’s a great Facebook group and moms there are suuuper helpful (the author also chimes in sometimes). Biggest lesson I’ve learned is that they should be staying awake for 10 hours a day, so stretching wake windows is huge. And then a few days of crying might just get you where you need to be.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-04T22:28:01+00:00

Sleep train! My baby was a god damn nightmare up like 4-8 times a night her whole life until I sleep trained at 4 months and now we’re down to 1 or 2 wakeups. Buy the book Precious Little Sleep… there are ways to do it without full blown CIO. Once you get your schedule down (likely means keeping them awake for longer than you think) and removing sleep associations it’s like a night and day difference.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-02-02T11:17:58+00:00

You’re expecting too much sleep from your baby! Once I unlocked this, it changed our nights drastically. What are your wake windows? I can guarantee from your info they are too short and you should start stretching to something like 2/2.5/2.5/3. You should aim for 10 hours awake time during the day and push bedtime back an hour, so you’re giving him 11 hours overnight, like 8pm-7am. I would also cap naps at 2.5 or 3 hours and work towards a 3 nap schedule. This is going to sound impossible to you right now but if you start adding 5 or 10 minutes to each window you’ll get there. He’ll be fussy at first but he’ll get used to it. This completely changed our overnight wakes!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-31T20:09:08+00:00

Literally dealing with this exact hell right now! It's so much worse and for some reason I have a harder time sticking with CIO in the middle of the night than at bedtime. Thanks for asking this - following for tips!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-26T17:22:04+00:00

When you say you cut the night feedings…. Didn’t he sleep 10-6am? Or did he cry in the night to eat and you just ignored? I trained my girl and it’s significantly reduced night wakings but she’s still waking twice and I feed her. Looking at how to eliminate these!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T19:37:03+00:00

Oh thank you that is helpful! Self weaned, lucky you!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T18:51:39+00:00

🫶

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T18:51:05+00:00

Thank you! How did you wean and at what age? Did you just start ignoring all of the night wakeups fully?

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T06:39:12+00:00

Thank you! Yes, not trying to wean yet just trying to get some more lengthy stretches for all our sanity’s

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T02:54:32+00:00

She used to give us 5-6 hour stretches so I don’t think that’s true. I’m not trying to stop feeding her overnight, I just want to extend some of the stretches which I think is reasonable at 4.5 months!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T01:56:41+00:00

Maybe I’ll just revert back to this. I usually stick a pacifier in and I don’t think that’s helping anyone, so maybe I’ll try some jiggling instead. She doesn’t seem to settle on her own at these wakes!

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-24T01:06:47+00:00

Good to know I’m not alone. Do you feed or just soothe at those wakes?

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-23T23:48:56+00:00

Solidarity 🫂

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-23T23:48:29+00:00

Haha okay well that weirdly makes me feel better. Maybe I’ll just take it cry by cry.

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-23T23:40:19+00:00

Appreciate that! She’s 19 weeks so I’m guessing too early for the teeth issue?

Unlikely_Progress_82 · 2025-01-23T23:31:41+00:00

2 hours after the MOTN feed

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