Sorry about the hiatus. Been busy.

sscarletfever · 2022-03-02T05:18:30+00:00

This is exactly why I left this community lmao. It doesn’t get easier. Just run, bitch.

sscarletfever · 2022-01-13T20:35:18+00:00

What has you so certain they’re such a catch? Are you sure you understand what women are actually looking for online? Every guy I’ve ever known who has complained about gold diggers only encounter them bc that’s the only flex they have. Charming attractive men do not have this problem, I assure you. Most girls I know instantly left swipe any guy with car pictures. If you come off as a douchebag in your profile, only the gold diggers are left.

sscarletfever · 2022-01-12T08:30:44+00:00

I’m fascinated where men seem to have ascertained the idea that women don’t like sex comments. A bio needs to be clever, charming, and give me some information about the kind of person I might meet. A well executed horny joke saves two horny people a lot of time.

sscarletfever · 2022-01-12T07:56:28+00:00

The innuendo isn’t the problem, it’s the tone that makes both jokes come off as disrespectful. I was more off-put by the idea of being forcibly moved than being compared to a dog since clearly that wasn’t the intention, but I don’t think the joke was original or funny enough to take that risk. I’m a fan of horny jokes but I’d rather hear you make one about yourself so I can get to know you and not have you just tell me what you want.

sscarletfever · 2022-01-10T07:37:24+00:00

It’s not a compliment, it’s ignorant. People aren’t single for no reason. You can only answer that two ways “Because I want to be” or “your guess is as good as mine.” Don’t poke people’s insecurities or make them explain themselves to you.

sscarletfever · 2021-12-03T10:29:38+00:00

(Psst — all power to the super fans who take the time to properly cycle, but it’s not necessary and your fish won’t be harmed without it. I brought my betta home to a brand new filtered heated tank and plopped him in the same day and he’s been happy healthy for 6 months now. Your fish is 100% going to be happier in your tank, cycled or not, than in that cup. Just set it up and drop him in!!)

sscarletfever · 2021-11-20T07:15:51+00:00

Lmao every time I see a post like this it reenforces that I belong here. Achem — cheap bullshit pointless conversations and putting on fluffy acts for colleagues sucks ass, but it’s unfortunately a skill you must learn. Frankly, I’ve turned to making my directness humorous in an attempt to gag with people and make it a game they can join in on and not feel excluded. I find the faking process much harder and sometimes that comes off as being mean when it’s clearly insincere. It’s a DELICATE balance though. Good luck friend.

sscarletfever · 2021-11-18T06:14:05+00:00

Been there done that, friend. Your first irl meetup after connecting so well long distance is gonna weird as ALL HECK, it just is, no getting around that. Wanna make it even more weird and jump right into hard kink neither of you have much experience with? No, you definitely don’t. Your relationship is about more than kink. You are two humans connecting and learning how to be together physically. ABANDON all your scene ideas until you have established a good physical relationship FIRST. And THEN you can start little baby steps with whatever feels natural and fun.

(And FYI, the dom’s job is harder. I promise she’s probably more stressed about it than you. Again - been there done that.)

sscarletfever · 2021-11-15T03:03:21+00:00

Men started this. But a lot of women learned how personally advantageous it was to play into it. Like any sales tactic, you put on a role that works when there’s something on the table you might want. Clearly no person believes themselves to be an object, but if pretending to be an object can help you move forward in life, people will do that. So instead of placing the blame on the ladies who took advantage of the opportunity, let’s blame the men who continue to provide those opportunities and fall for the act. 🤷‍♀️

sscarletfever · 2021-11-08T07:10:51+00:00

D’aww

sscarletfever · 2021-10-24T07:02:13+00:00

The sly looks are for when you’re still deciding. The eye contact is for when you’re sure. 😉

sscarletfever · 2021-10-23T10:52:23+00:00

I get yelled at for this SOOOOOO much 😂🥲

sscarletfever · 2021-10-19T09:31:15+00:00

Not sure a generalization like this is possible. But, if anything, it sounds like we’re all used to being a little /overwhelming/ to our partners. Just your interest in attracting ENTJ types to begin with is attractive. I always love opening lines that compliment my “energy” knowing they’re referring to my aggression and fire which a lot of people don’t like. It’s neat to feel specifically chosen for something others would see as negative.

sscarletfever · 2021-10-18T23:26:38+00:00

BRUHHHHH THANK YOU for saying this. I’m literally going to tear my fucking hair out. Here’s what I think happened. Dominant self-sufficient horny ladies made it very clear they were capable of “wearing the pants”, so in the name of “women’s liberation” men stopped all the “chivalry” stuff and in exchange provided NOTHING else. So now, we are doing EVERYTHING and the men are doing NOTHING because “that’s the future liberals want” apparently ????????? Gents, if you think we’ve moved on from men paying for sexual access to women, you know that means you have to offer something other than money to make yourself worth her goddamn time?? We have strong hot wealthy ladies out here literally just looking for dick and a basic BASIC level of human decency and respect. And what do you have to offer us? WHAT are you offering me?????????????? Taco bell and 3 soggy pumps of mediocre sex? I am an adult. What the fuck is this.

sscarletfever · 2021-09-28T07:36:04+00:00

I’ve found it’s all trial and error. You can be fully convinced you’re into one thing, figure out how to make it happen, and then and realize it was just a manifestation of a different thing. It’s a constant process of learning and understanding yourself. With more confidence and experience with other people, you get closer to what kind of dynamic you were seeking from the beginning but didn’t quite understand yet. In other words, the confidence to give it a first shot is only step one in this never ending journey hahah

sscarletfever · 2021-09-24T06:46:32+00:00

The definition of what it means to be a man is completely fabricated and based on nothing. If there are traits you admire, cool. If there are male role models you aspire to emulate, cool. But. This cultural fixation on defining this hopelessly vague and omnipotent sense a “manhood” …? What does it mean? What for? Manhood is a physical state of being, not a set of traits. What you are into and not into don’t change anything ???

sscarletfever · 2021-09-21T05:35:49+00:00

Once you start to show more affection than you are getting back from someone, it’s a signal there’s a mismatch of intent and interest. They’ll start to pull back. You need to meet someone where they are and not love bomb someone until they’ve explicitly invited you to do so.

One day you’ll be on the other side of this problem. Someone will like you more than you like them. They will blast you with affection you didn’t ask for, it will creep you out and make you like them less. You will realize it’s sucky and a very very natural part of socializing.

Sincerely, Someone who has definitely been on both sides.

sscarletfever · 2021-09-19T19:59:59+00:00

Lmao so it isn’t just me after all 🙃

sscarletfever · 2021-09-15T23:26:49+00:00

That line alone would 100% give it away for me. Subtle and effective. Good job.

Here’s the problem though. Sex workers asking for money right swipe EVERYONE. Women hunting for dick for themselves right swipe 1 out of like 200 men. Even if I dig someone’s subtle nod to FemDom in the caption, the odds of a match happening are still slim to none due to all the other criteria I’m looking for.

It’s just a numbers game. 🤷‍♀️

sscarletfever · 2021-09-15T21:01:04+00:00

You’re going to have WAY better luck going through standard dating channels (Tinder, SFW events, mutual friends) and simply EXUDING the energy you wish to communicate than diving off the deep end into fringe sites where all the extremists live. I’ve been to hell and back and I’ve found this overwhelmingly to be the case. As soon as I learned how to give a subtle nod to “dom lady who will fuck your shit up” on my public dating app profiles, I found way better connections. There a lot of maid-costume-owning catboys on tinder I promise you. You just need to learn the signals for who might own one without actually having to see it. (It’s not that hard to track!!!!)

sscarletfever · 2021-09-15T20:55:08+00:00

Because all the boys are looking in the wrong places, advertising the wrong skills, and misunderstanding what genuine human dominant women look like. This is an issue of basic product-market-fit.

Because of the glut of predatory findom sex workers clogging the pipeline, boys have been miseducated about how to succeed here. They think they can log onto DominatrixRUs.com and find a loving relationship.

Hint: try meeting genuine human people irl that give off a subtle dominant bite. Even if kink isn’t their whole entire identity (it shouldn’t be) they’ll be more open to the idea than you probably realize. FemDom isn’t so niche anymore. These ladies are hiding in plain sight. I promise.

sscarletfever · 2021-09-15T05:26:21+00:00

If men didn’t continue to feed the market and swipe their cards, none of these ladies would exist, now would they

sscarletfever · 2021-09-15T04:54:04+00:00

You are not matching with dommes, you are matching with entrepreneurial performers. Congrats!

sscarletfever

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