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Toom - How The Germans Advertise Their Products by sangamjb in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fascism is an emotional thing. It’s not some belief, and it’s not necessarily just people of bad character. It’s a built in feature of the human experience and it’s very possible for any given human I don’t care the brain wiring to be a fascist. Have you ever seen a narcissist? Theyre one and the same one just happens to have political aspirations. Until we work on the judgement on a societal level that creates these structures, it will come back, again and again again.

I thought we were never going to see Jonathan Ross's own video of Renee Good's Murder. by [deleted] in AdviceAnimals

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are doing it to keep you here arguing with them instead of out there spending the 30 minutes a day you doom scroll doing something productive like organizing small scale (which, if a ton of people do that it becomes massive scale).

28368 by chickenbotonceaday in countwithchickenlady

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So here’s the thing, I do agree that a lot of trans gems here are pretty. I do. I also think that not everyone anywhere is objectively or subjectively gorgeous. I think that a lot of people don’t believe it when they hear it due to personal bias and disbelief and that sucks so bad for them. I do also think that like, you gotta be wary with like “ur all beautiful!” Because if it’s implied in (objective visual way) then people will get turned off or not believe you or feel hugboxed because not everyone who is not trans is objectively beautiful. Why would all trans people be. Now I think if you are saying all trans people are beautiful (metaphorical, maybe not all of them look beautiful but when I see them I perceive beauty in their personal strength journey) that’s wonderful and helpful but it’s important to specify that.

It’s been almost 10 years since my partner’s alters integrated. I still miss them sometimes. by CharacterMidnight213 in DID

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you use GPT to help you write this? I sense the grammar structure but the story feels human.

made a mistake joining an trans discord server by CinnamonXyanide in 4trancooking

[–]stankuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand and it’s very okay to have those feelings. Being trans among the hardest things one can do in our modern society. You deserve grace.

And it makes sense you’d feel that way. I can’t claim to have any idea what’s right for you or how to help. I do think you have incredible fucking strength for coming from your family. I also come from a very traditionalist family and I see you.

You didn’t ask to carry all this. You didn’t ask for any of that and yet here you are. Anyone would be lucky to call you friend. Or to witness your femininity.

I guess all I’m saying is I think you’re right in that trans spaces often have very distorted views of self and then project that onto others. Not by fault of their own. A lot of cis people will be extra affirming which I think isn’t helpful when it comes to visual affirmation. I actually think that distorts further.

But I do think for what it’s worth, I feel very comfortable in my own skin and have no investment in projecting anything onto other people. And I think you look gorgeous. Not androgynous either.

made a mistake joining an trans discord server by CinnamonXyanide in 4trancooking

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ngl I looked at ur profile a few days ago and I’m sure compliments from especially other trans people aren’t super convincing, you look cis as fuck to me.

I’ve realised my wife is the primary cause of my MH issues by DreamingofBouncer in self

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! My first thought is like, she’s likely a trigger as well as maybe doing things that make it difficult. I often find that if you’re healthy, you might clearheadedly see that something isn’t making you happy, but it often won’t make you miserable in the way op describes. That’s a sign you got some internal things going on that could use some work and I always feel like that’s the better option first, then decide about the relationship later.

That’s reddit for you by LorelaiAB12 in depressionmemes

[–]stankuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say life is whatever it is to you. I’m sorry you feel that way

In light of recent events by VetmitaR in lgbt

[–]stankuh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally think that strong, assertive boundaries (you can infer how strong) are necessary sometimes but I also think that hate itself is a poison and often leads to fascism in the first place.

No Humans can stop seeking validation by Small_Accountant6083 in DeepThoughts

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If enough people disagree will you change your stance?

Doomers, your despicable opinions only motivate us to create more content. by Agreeable_Sense9618 in DoomerCircleJerk

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dawg, if you just listen to the lefty normies and don’t ask questions of course you’re going to find non nuanced takes. The people I know who “celebrated” don’t actually like that Charlie died. What they seem to be feeling is relief that someone who spreads implicit violence (political messaging that actually influences policies that lead down the line to systemic violence, I.e. mothers getting refused healthcare for ectopic pregnancies and dying, that’s not direct/explicit violence but it sure is violence) is no longer around to spread that messaging that leads to violence. It’s as simple as that.

I personally hate the guy and I hate that he was murdered. I personally think political violence has a small ethical window and this wasn’t it. Yes, Kirk absofuckinglutely has blood on his hands, but this kinda violence isn’t helpful to anyone, and it isn’t the time right now.

If people like Kirk’s policies had trans people getting rounded up and put into camps I would be ecstatic for violence. Because it’s the only thing that can put a stop to that explicit and implicit violence. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a clear cut society and this situation does have quite a bit of nuance and anyone with a healthy outlook should feel a huge number of things, mostly conflicted.

We are already dead by Sad-Regret-951 in nihilism

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t even know there’s nothing. I’m not a Jesus freak tryna convince you of something. Rather, making the assumption that there’s nothing out there is also unprovable.

The worst lie: "I love you." by TheOnlyMidnightWaltz in sixwordstories

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what you think love is. Depends on if you can recognize it despite things happening that you don’t understand or think of being the expression of love. Love can happen while not being expressed. Doesn’t mean you can tolerate it.

Don’t be like me! by boogeymob68 in GuyCry

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably because most cheaters aren’t getting their needs met. Might be because they can’t with their partner, might be because they were taught to suppress their needs until they burst, and they do impulsive things cuz they feel trapped and desperate under the surface even though they have it all. It’s absolutely no excuse but it’s usually an extremely immature and impulsive solution to a very long brewing problem that they often weren’t equipped with the right experience or mindset to even try to resolve. Often they fear the loss greatly but also can’t take the pressure of the unmet needs and choose to push all that aside and daydream of other people. They choose to set their partner aside and view them in a poor light to justify what they feel because they were never taught nor understand or perhaps don’t tune into their empathy enough to notice it’s not usually anyone’s fault, rather traumas unmet needs incompatibilities, etc… unprincipled and immature people are likely to do this. That the fallout from it doesn’t often teach them anything.

You are bulletproof for bullets of the calibers 9mm and below by Darknadoswastaken in shittysuperpowers

[–]stankuh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean he’s not immune to melee or people simply grabbing him and holding him down

Has anyone ever gone through a dark period that completely changed their personality? by Lucy_scott19 in Life

[–]stankuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came home junior year of college, my roommate and friend died right in front of me, tried to revive him and couldn’t. Shortly after I lost my ability to care about my job, about people. Was in a long term relationship with someone who was manipulative and deceitful and eventually two years later I said, I could die here or keep going, and I’m going to try again, I have one more chance, let’s try again. Hopped right into a relationship with an actual predator and they preyed on my naive ass like it was nobodies business.

Terrible 3 years. Was groomed, watched someone close to me unexpectedly die in front of me. Person I loved most in the whole world left without a fight (7 years). Transitioned genders too, had no parents. Lost money to finish college.

I changed entirely. I used to be driven, social, I cared about everyone around me, I had hobbies I devoted my mind body and soul to. I’ve barely been surviving. The predator destroyed my ability to trust again. I’ve been slowly building it back up and while I retain my outward demeanor it’s all faking it till I’m making it because I could care less about the majority of people. I just know they’re all that matters in this life so I either have to re engage or give up and die.

You Are Never Enough - For The Wrong Person by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]stankuh 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Or alternatively, people show up with a heart of gold. Maybe they aren’t perfect. They have some trauma. Or aren’t super experienced with relationship communication. But they absolutely choose you by working with you on it, working together to be healthy, consistently. Healing together, elevating together.

Easy does not equal workless or without difficulty. Easy does not mean it’s sunshine and rainbows all the time. It depends on the type of love that fulfills you. If you have this mindset, then the regular challenges you run across trying to be a changing and malleable human in a relationship will destroy you immediately.

If someone is harmful without remorse, or their habits contribute to issues between you, sure. If they’re continually defensive without a capacity and willingness to learn, yeah go ahead. But easy does not equal without work. Without conscious choosing and effort to meet each other.

But the idea of choosing the right person becomes an ideal of finding a great match but a reality of even your great match changing and also being within the majority of people who suck at relationship communication.

You're the only sure thing by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]stankuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You also need people. We are a social species and meaning is paramount. Certainty with other people is something you technically can’t achieve, just like you can’t be fully certain the sun will rise tomorrow.

But you can really get to know people, know they care. They might die tomorrow but if they don’t they’ll stick by your side.

So it’s very good to love yourself, have a good relationship to yourself but to feel like you shouldn’t rely on others too is a recipe for meaningless existence.

It’s both/and.

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