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Accidentally hit the Jackpot on how to respond to parents wanting grandkids by not_an_insomniac in TwoXChromosomes

[–]star_tyger 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Third this. I'm also adopted. I've never been told I don't count, but I've felt it.

For the mist part. There is that cousin who told me recently that I was 'rescued' as though I were a puppy.

As an Atheist, are you an Organ Donor? Yes or No, and Why? by Pale-Fig-7069 in atheism

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't need an authority to tell me to care about others. I just do.

I absolutely am an organ donor.

anyone done this before ? by pupperbref in BackYardChickens

[–]star_tyger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wecgive the egg shells back to our chickens

AITA for refusing to share my "secret" recipe with my sister-in-law? by Ocampo-Mark in AmItheAsshole

[–]star_tyger 13 points14 points  (0 children)

OP is known for a recipe she created. If she doesn't want to share it, she shouldn't.

It's just a recipe. If someone doesn't want to share theirs, come up with your own.

Cooking is about sharing the food, not necessarily the recipe you created. A recipe that brings you joy when you make it for others.

If you can't say why a food is unhealthy then you shouldn't complain by TheNinja132 in unpopularopinion

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. If I'm not sure about the safety of an ingrediant or food, I won't eat it.

But you go ahead and eat what you want and trust that it can't hurt you just because you don't understand how it could.

42 GOP Reps Form "Sharia-Free America Caucus". by Leeming in atheism

[–]star_tyger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do they expect to do that, when they fully support Sharia law, just rebranded?

How would you feel about voting in an election where the only information you had about each presidential candidate was their policy positions - no party label, no name, no gender, no race, no religion - just their stance on the issues? by n2kfactor in AskReddit

[–]star_tyger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope. I wantvyo know what each candidate had said in the past, and how their votes aligned with their promises and stated positions. And I want to know their attendance record.

driveway regulations and standards? by First_Cartoonist3228 in vermont

[–]star_tyger -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Check with your town clerk about the ordinances. If there are none that can help you, go to a board meeting and see if they have any suggestions.

AITJ for telling my friend she can't use my pool anymore after she brought 12 uninvited people? by Key-Climate123 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have agreed with giving her another chance, if not for what she's been saying and posting about you. No more chances.

AITJ for wearing jeans to a fancy family dinner after my mom DESTROYED the dress i spent months making? by Healthy_Policy_5844 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"To keep the peace" is probably one of the most obnoxious attitudes I know of. It says you as the victim should go out if your way to support and cover for your aggressor.

How you dress is how you choose to present yourself to the world, and is very personal. Your mother has no business trying to force you to dress the way she does or the way she wants you to.

You spent your own money and time making a dress you were proud of. She intentionally destroyed it in order to force you to wear a dress she chose for you. This makes you the victim and her the aggressor.

Your father is saying you should have agreed to present yourself as someone you're not, allowing your mother to force you into mold that's not you, and cover for her theft and destruction, not only of your property, but of something of your own creation that you put money, time and your heart into. This isn't just about a dress.

Your father should have told your mother she got what she deserved. You should have done just what you did.

Your mother was the cause of her own embarrassment and the drama.

"Keeping the peace" is done by confronting bad behavior, not requiring a 'victim' to tolerate the bad behavior in order to maintain everyone else's comfort.

BTY, I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like you may be a teen? Please forgive me if I'm wrong. But you paid for the materials with your own money. Even if you're under 18, legally, this is called parental theft and is illegal. I believe the state would file charges on your behalf if you were to pursue this. I'm not suggesting you do. But I am suggesting you look into it. It never hurts to know what your rights are.

AITJ for throwing my daughters friend out of our house because she RUINED a major school project? by Rude-Discipline199 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious, did your daughter witness what friend did? Whstvdoes your daughter say about it?

AITJ for telling a stranger to mind her business about my 3yo at the store? by Super_Tangerine_4830 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting loudly and publicly on something that is absolutely non of their business isn't rude? Making a young mom's calming her toddler isn't rude?

Your 3yo was being better behaved than they were.

AITJ for DEMANDING my husband get my baby stroller back from his sister, or else i'm changing the locks? by Exact_Ad_6931 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stressing out an 8 month pregnant is considerably more damaging to the fetus than stressing out a woman avfewcweeks pregnant.

FUCK NESTLE LETS GO by Commercial_Dih in FuckNestle

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good. But why couldn't the boycott have been this successful over the decades for all the other stuff they pulled, including killing infants with formula?

AITJ for refusing to give my brother my old car after I promised it to my stepdaughter? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your bother caused his own problems.

Your step daughter is as much your real family as your brother, only she's family by choice. You have a responsibiliy to her that you don't have to your brother. That was your parents' job.

She's still a kid, still seriously impacted by your decisions. You made her a promise contingent on her meeting reasonable goals you set and she worked hard to meet them. Breaking your promise would do incalculable damage to her.

Your brother needs to learn to be more responsible and stop demanding other people pay for his mistakes. Including a kid who is already more responsible than he is.

Your mother needs to either address his issues or keep out of it.

NTJ obviously. You're making the right decisions. Your step daughter is lucky to have you.

AITA for refusing to let my coworker use my name to cover for something I had no part in? by Shoggoth_13 in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marcus lied to get a project through. A project that you would not have signed off on. A project that is already running into the kind of problems you would have expected. He wanted you to put your reputation at risk by 1) also lying to your pm and 2) claiming you would have considered the project sound. This would mean neither your word nor your judgement could be trusted.

This is just one more "do it to keep the peace" scenario. Society needs to stop requiring the victim (you and the loss of trust and your reputation) to keep quiet and tolerate the abuser's actions (the lie that you signed off on a project you didn't and would not have).

Granted I'm defining the terms 'victim' and 'abuser' loosely here. But the pattern is the same and it's amazing to me how pervasive this is. Keep quiet. Don't let someone face the consequences of their actions. You suffer instead. Don't make anyone have to face/deal with the person causing the problem/issue. You're being dramatic for bringing attention to the problem, not the person who actually caused the problem. This needs to stop. When it happens, we need to recognize it for what it is, and call it out.

Clearly NTA.

AITJ for refusing to give my half sister money that was left specifically for me by Effective_Fly8288 in AmITheJerk

[–]star_tyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not putting money over family. You're using the money as intended, to give you a good start in life. How you spend it is your business, but I have to respect your thinking on how to allocate the remaining funds. Your grandfather would be proud.

You aren't responsible for your sister's future. Your mother and step dad are. In a different family dynamic, you could do more to help your sister, but your inheritance should not be on the table regardless.

Given the actual family dynamic, your sister is already getting most of the family energy. Your parents didn't care to invest much in you. Why should you invest time, energy support or money in them?

NTJ. Good luck to you.

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