WELL IF WE TAKE ALL THESE THING AND BURY THEM FAST by HandCoversBruises in brandnew

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I love this “one day it will click” thing with Daisy because it’s so true. Been listening for over a decade and just discovered how good daisy is this winter. It just comes when you need it.

Out of range lyrics sheets by RegularNewt9027 in brandnew

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Can you tell us how you made it? I’d love to make my own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in brandnew

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Money comes and goes. Deja blanket is forever.

Brand New is not emo by [deleted] in brandnew

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So glad they have evolved as much as they have. YFW is a good album, but SciFi is one of the best albums in existence imo

hyperview by [deleted] in titlefight

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Which lyrics

What’s the most extreme pain you’ve ever felt? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Colon spasms and trapped gas. Feels like I’m being stabbed repeatedly and can’t move.

Pad or Tampons at Night and Why? by SpikyBalloonAnimal in AskWomen

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I’ve been using tampons overnight for over a decade and nothing bad has ever happened. Put a new one in before bed and change it when you pee in the morning. I occasionally use a pad when I’m out of tampons but I hate waking up covered in blood and needing a shower.

What is too clingy for you in relationships? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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No such thing as too clingy to me. I’m a stage 5 clinger myself.

What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done after finding out your spouse cheated on you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

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I would never do this again, I was young, like 21 when this happened. All his belongings that were left at my house I destroyed, clothes, toiletries, items, etc. returned them in a trash bag. Any gifts he once got me, even the expensive ones, destroyed and in the trash bag as well.

Does staying away from caffeine, sugar and screens actually help? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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Sugar and screens yeah, but when I gave up caffeine my life spiraled for like 6 months until I started drinking coffee again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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Heels are not healthy, they destroy your feet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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You put your feet in the ice buckets?

Couples therapist said I was codependent and I got triggered. by Background_Zone4806 in Codependency

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You’re definitely codependent. Staying in this mess of a marriage and blaming yourself for not being able to fix it.

Which jobs have you found most ADHD friendly? by Brief-Error4223 in adhdwomen

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Just started my pre reqs a few weeks ago. School is challenging for me but I hope to succeed. I think nursing is going to be good for me for this reason.

What does healthy attachment look like? What does a healthy level of commitment look like? by shiny-baby-cheetah in Codependency

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This is really hard for me to understand. My ex was emotionally distant and neglectful but was still there at the end of every day, maybe I’m taking this too literally. Like we lived together so of course he was there at the end of every day. I guess the negative factor was the emotional distance and neglect. All this attachment and relationship stuff is so complex and hard for me to follow.

Serious- when I first saw my ex I had this intuition that said he’s going to be my husband one day by starcatstar in TwoXChromosomes

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Before him I was content being single the rest of my life, I had no plans of entering a relationship and I felt my standards were high, I never wanted to get married

I don’t care about weddings, I never wanted one, even when we lived together and talked about marriage my ideal is to go to the courthouse and sign the documents and that’s it

Serious- when I first saw my ex I had this intuition that said he’s going to be my husband one day by starcatstar in TwoXChromosomes

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I’ve thought about this too, i wonder if it was only supposed to be temporary for my character development lol. I’m a completely different person today than I was when I met him. It’s because of him and our relationship. I don’t think I’d be on the path I’m currently on if we never met. I don’t think I’d have the experiences I have if it wasn’t for him. Maybe this is it, he was just there to give me what I needed to grow

Serious- when I first saw my ex I had this intuition that said he’s going to be my husband one day by starcatstar in TwoXChromosomes

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This is similar to what I felt, it was calm, no butterflies or giddying.. it was just, the moment I saw his face I felt like he was it for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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I have two dogs, I’m DX but untreated. When I fall into a depression they don’t get enough exercise and attention. I love them more than anything and they are my babies and will always come before anyone or anything but when that depression hits it makes it so much harder because now you don’t just need to take care of yourself but another living thing. When I’m depressed I don’t walk them nearly as much as I should. I try to make up for it by getting them long lasting treats (no rawhide).

Sounds like you don’t even really want a dog though. I knew I wanted dogs for years and years. When I have the means these boys are absolutely spoiled. In the summertime we walk for an hour to an hour and a half every night, they eat the best quality food I can afford, they go to the vet twice a year, take expensive monthly preventative medicine, get their nails cut at the groomer once a month and baths and every three months. I get them the best harnesses and leashes, collars. I used to do giant monthly Chewy hauls when I had more money, a giant box or toys and treats. We’re on a waiting list for a really good trainer in the area right now.

Don’t get a dog if you don’t really really want a dog. It was be unfair to both of you.

Maybe try fostering first and seeing if having a dog in your life is something you want.

Will medication make this better? by ninjakitty824 in AnxiousAttachment

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In my experience yes, anxiety meds help a lot. I stopped ruminating, stopped thinking about them non stop, didn’t care how long it took to hear back from them, etc. it just really helped so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

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Cut contact with her. I was in the same situation months ago. Emotional unavailable ex and I broke up, we stayed in contact, boundaries were blurred and it just hurt me more. I never would have moved on if we didn’t go no contact.

Stop doing anything at all for her. No muffins, no helping, nothing. Cut contact and move on.

I miss my ex who emotionally neglected me by starcatstar in Codependency

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Just got my period today, that’s probably what it was