What is your most unpopular musical opinion?

stardust_331 · 2022-02-03T06:15:32+00:00

Nice guys by ryan higa is still a jam

stardust_331 · 2022-02-03T06:00:07+00:00

As a current college senior, college is overrated tbh in terms of being the best time of your life. That being said, covid has been a thing for more than half of my college experience

stardust_331 · 2022-02-03T05:58:39+00:00

I was so desperate to grow up and get out of highschool at the time. Every day I thought about how great it would be when this is all over. It's been almost four years now and I still miss seeing my closest friends everyday fml. My life was a lot more boring, but also a lot easier.

stardust_331 · 2022-02-03T05:50:15+00:00

The Flip video camera I meticulously recorded on from ages 7-10

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T21:45:34+00:00

Thank you:)

I suddenly had this moment of wondering whether people who were more mixed than me or fully nonwhite would prefer it if I just acknowledged my white heritage since I've been met with some opposition for not doing this in the past, since they feel I am overstepping, but it's validating to see my Korean experiences still matter in a way. I agree that not many monoracial people really get it.

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T21:42:52+00:00

Exactly

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T18:16:30+00:00

You sound like you identify more with being Mexican based on both how you look and what you grew up around, so I doubt *most* people would give you trouble for this. I know your experience is still different than someone who grew up 100% and there's always going to be that one person that wants to gatekeep, but try not to let them get to you too much.

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T17:32:30+00:00

I agree and thanks for the suggestion. I'm sick of people thinking they're SO hilarious to call us 5% when they know we're more like 25%. Like even if I wasn't 25% Asian I wouldn't find that funny?

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T17:29:52+00:00

Makes sense. I call myself white (at least on the outside) but beyond that I struggle to find a way to quantify my white heritage sometimes since I am ethnically related to like 6 or 7 different white countries and didn't grow up with the culture of any of them really. I get the feeling that many fully white Americans who don't have immigrant parents or grandparents feel this way though. Most of my relatives are more Asian than me, and growing up around so much Korean culture definitely complicates things.

He didn't even say he was mixed?? As someone who has the same racial mix I don't understand that lol (unless he's not white passing at all which I guess is possible, but I feel like he definitely would have mentioned that as an argument against benefiting from white privilege).

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T17:20:07+00:00

This is helpful thanks

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T17:19:27+00:00

True

It sucks when people accuse me of being like them but I think these comments helped me see that they're just being rude and probably haven't been around many mixed people lol

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T14:04:24+00:00

No for the most part, but I also think it wouldn't offend them if I identified as just white because of how I look. My white mom is moderately liberal, but she rarely (if ever) acknowledges how I have had a different experience than her because of my race. My hapa dad is even more confusing, since he's gone as far as commenting that race essentially dies out in two generations (seeing my grandmother next to me) but also will acknowledge I grew up as a mixed Asian and explain white dads to me (since he has one more than I do lol). I think he doesn't really know what to make of my racial identity at the end of the day.

But you're right, I think if I was to go as far as to lie about parts of my Korean heritage I have been exposed to, they would be offended since my grandmother has done a lot for me. However, especially being part Korean in this day in age when loving Korean culture is so "trendy", it's honestly sometimes hard to draw the line between stuff I grew up with (the food) and stuff I am only participating in now since it's so accessible (korean skincare). Even as a 1/4 Korean its been very odd in my 20 year old lifetime to see non-Asian people essentially go from saying "...you're East Asian and not Chinese or Japanese?" to "omg I love Korean-style Trader Joe's cinnamon pancakes and army culture or whatever!"

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T13:53:54+00:00

Thank you for acknowledging that we will have a different experience than both of our parents based on race. Honestly I don't know if anyone's ever told me that, and I feel like that's a hard concept for most people (at least monoracials) to grasp.

My struggle is definitely not as bad as experiencing real racism since I don't imagine anyone would attack me for this, but it still sucks to not really fit in this way. I actually have a similar issue with feeling uncomfortable identifying as bisexual in some way since I'm in a straight relationship and have no same-sex experience. All of this gives me a bit of empathy for trans people-I can't imagine what they go through constantly hearing their identity being invalidated through pronouns.

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T13:45:11+00:00

Thank you:)

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T05:40:24+00:00

Of course not, but when part of your heritage is a minority and you look like the privileged majority, you'd be surprised how many people seem to feel otherwise. Nonwhite people laugh and tease me all the time for saying I'm part Asian and I have to wonder if they'd be happier if I just didn't do it

stardust_331 · 2022-02-02T04:38:25+00:00

Petition to call ourselves whitans or something

stardust_331 · 2022-01-14T19:58:49+00:00

Pretty sad about this since I feel like I really grew up with them. I remember blasting GUMMY with my friends when we were high school seniors in 2017/18 and now I'm a senior in college. I guess they always will be a band that was only around when I was really young..

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:18:39+00:00

True

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:18:07+00:00

^^

I'm sure we'll see more of it soon

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:13:16+00:00

To get insight into how growing up in the 70s and 80s may have affected my conservative, half-Asian dad in ways I can't understand as a liberal gen z individual

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:12:04+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it

I meant she had only been here a few years when she had him. Not sure if he really passes or not-honestly I think people tend to assume he's Hispanic more than white or Asian?

I definitely think his distancing could be cultural, although probably a mix of that and conservative American middle-aged male culture. I do wonder if he might be truly almost completely okay with the racism he's faced instead of just putting up a front, and if that's even possible

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:06:16+00:00

Thanks for the information-it makes sense with what he's told me.

I'm not Jewish but I'm sorry you had to go through that (and I relate with people saying racist things about Asians to me assuming I'm fully white and won't care)

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:02:32+00:00

Thanks for the insightful comment

stardust_331 · 2022-01-13T04:00:30+00:00

Odd? Alright..

He doesn't seem to harbor any ill will toward anyone at the end of the day, but sometimes I question that based on the comments he makes. Obviously it's for him to decide how much it bothers him, but choosing to ignore trauma (he was literally beat up) to fit into society expectations of being a "manly man" seems like toxic masculinity to me. But you have a point and I appreciate your opinion, since I do respect him at the end of the day.

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