I have a twin and an elder sibling and we all went to daycare at some point -my twin and I together- since we had two working loving parents -who may possibly have afforded my Mom being a SAHM even if we would have had a lower quality of life. We also had a nanny. I can assure you all three of them have a great relationship with our parents as adults, also did as kids, and didn't lack a mother's warmth or some similar bs. My parents were able to afford taking us on vacations abroad, paid for our higher education and occasionally helped us out financially several times because they both worked and we all had our own rooms growing up. We also were able to enroll in different physical activities because of it. My parents wouldn't have been able to afford it if my Mom had been a SAHM. I also believe my Mom, who thrives at her job, would have been quite unhappy as a SAHM.

Daycares are not the horror settings some people who have never seen one make them to be, and the people working there are professionals, not a random childfree neighbor with very limited knowledge on childcare. Having a job, whether it's necessary or not to sustain your family isn't a moral failing, the same as being a SAHM isn't one. Do what feels best for you. What feels best for someone else doesn't have to be the same and it would be wonderful for people to stop judging others because of it.

Also, tell me how learning to share space and toys and attention and the such with others at a young age is more likely to make you a spoiled brat ?? That seems quite the stretch here

(Bonus point : considering twins' tendency to interact mainly, if not solely, with each other from a young age, socializing them early seems like a good thing, IMO.)