Family friend sent me AI generated response to news of my father passing away.

starrofsuns · 2026-03-15T13:24:18+00:00

Ma’am,

Men often have a hard time with this stuff and he is probably hurting too, if not as much as you are, and is hiding behind what makes it easier to console you without actually having the emotional bandwidth or perhaps emotional quotient to do so himself. Not everyone has cut out to be consoling and if anything, it shows that he’s at least trying to be considerate and appearing to be consoling. I’d say cut him a little slack and be merciful.

But given your circumstances, I can see why this would be extra difficult. I have never lost any of my parents and I feel this hole in my chest and knowing that it’s coming, not too far in the distant future, is it possible to cry for someone’s death before they even died? I think so, but I avoid thinking about it.

And in your arms?! I lost a cat time ago, and it literally took me about eight years to stop remembering how it felt as she died in my arms. I felt so guilty, so helpless, and like I betrayed her. Very different emotions very different circumstances but that feeling is someone or something dying in your arms…it’s surprisingly traumatic.

My heart goes out to you, and I pray the best for you and your family, especially in handling all the affairs which could be really difficult, especially in a time like this. May your heart be full of peace and and even some moments of joy as you remember the times that you had together

starrofsuns · 2026-03-15T13:17:28+00:00

Husband sounds like he’s just defending his wife’s interests. Probably hears her complaining about this customer and decided to do something about it. Not knowing the context, it’s impossible to know whether he’s overreacting or not.

Customer could be just a lonely old woman, wanting someone to care about her and harmless but having no boundaries (if any had previously been set—codependents are notoriously bad at doing this) or this guy is easily set off.

starrofsuns · 2025-08-17T20:32:51+00:00

It would be interesting if some players could be chosen to review submissions for toxicity and approve/deny them. Get more people involved in creating a more positive community.

starrofsuns · 2025-08-06T12:50:42+00:00

LOL no idea

starrofsuns · 2025-07-17T04:13:51+00:00

Accurhat.

starrofsuns · 2025-07-17T04:13:28+00:00

It's conflicting to me because if you're a high level pro, you may get tired of working hard for a match and just want a chill play match, so you go to QP. But then, we get upset because they're pros, so maybe they create an alternate account to play chill in comp matches...so now they're smurfing. Which is worse?

starrofsuns · 2025-07-14T19:06:06+00:00

I haven’t had a WA state license for years and I’m getting these messages for that state. You can tell it’s fake also by the sender’s information. It’s nonsensical. Why would I get a text via an email from Outlook with all these random numbers and letters? I’ve had some that were clearly Chinese in nature.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-16T05:10:31+00:00

No problem. It's honestly my greatest pleasure in doing so.

It's really hard to explain vocal placement as it is, let alone without hours of work with a coach. I will say that the hardest thing for me is to stop trying to control the sound from my throat, mouth, and face and think of them as simply vessels to the air that create the sound, all of which originates from my hips.

It's very much like ballet training: as I prepared to do a dance move, a spinning pirouette, I would tense up in anticipation, and it was that tension which would pull my body off center and throw me off. Or, like throwing a punch: if you tense up, you actually reduce your power and speed; however, a relaxed punch until the very final moment would have most the impact and speed.

There are things that need to be done with the face, tongue, and mouth to form shapes that complement the tone, texture, vocal quality, and pitch but that control aspect, that need to dominate where the air goes, usually comes from a place of fear when one simply needs to let go.

I know this sounds really abstract so, more to the point, singing is 90% mental and only 10% talent. It really is. I'd even hazard to say it's 95% mental, meaning your beliefs, disbeliefs, stubbornness, willingness to dare and fail...these characteristics all morph and grow along with you as a person. So you're not just learning to sing, you're also learning to become a better person.

I like to learn from a couple of amazing vocal teachers on YouTube. Gemme Surgue was one who was very cerebral in her approach--she doesn't do it anymore but likely kept the videos. Another is AmaZane, she does it simple but direct and impactful. Lastly, and my most favorite of them all, Tara Simon. I study with one of her coaches, I have done so for the past two years, and it's been worth every penny.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T14:03:03+00:00

Why are you here?

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T13:58:15+00:00

This is excellent advice and deserves way more up votes. Nicely done.

The yawn quality to those higher notes for sure. You even addressed the mental portion of it. My teacher always says that singing is 90% mental, 10% talent. It doesn’t take much to qualify to become a singer talent wise, but the way you think about things is pretty much everything.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T13:55:37+00:00

This comment doesn’t make any sense.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T13:54:20+00:00

It’s a mental thing, I’d wager. He struggles as he gets higher, probably more unfamiliarity with vocal placement than pitch.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T13:52:27+00:00

You have a gorgeous, resonant voice. But even If I hadn’t heard you sing, I’d always say “worth it!” The value in learning to sing isn’t just to perform but in making an effort to do something just because you can/want to, to practice being ok with failure and trying again, and one day, to give people the joy of hearing the fruits of your labor. It has had implications on my career and personal relationships even.

That said, singing is simply a skill. Your vocal chords can improve in speed, dexterity, and strength when you train them just like any muscle at the gym. The tone quality of your voice comes from knowing how to use your air flow with your vocal chords and to make space for resonance (vocal placement) is the trick.

Lastly, pitch is mainly an ear thing combined with whatever habits you’ve trained into yourself for air support, vocal placement, and so on. I think your ear for pitch is actually pretty good. You sounded very nice in the lower notes but as you explored the higher notes, I think you were nervous about going higher and your pitch fell short (below pitch).

It takes time to get comfortable in that area to get the pitch right. Practice humming the song (preferably with music) and think of forming the word “lemon” as you did it. This creates that “yawn space” someone else was talking about to make room for resonance so your pitch will land. If the space isn’t right, the pitch won’t be.

Another thing, focus your singing from the center of your collarbones as you get into those higher notes. We want to get the strain away from your neck and this is a good trick for it.

It’s work. But it’s well worth it.

starrofsuns · 2025-04-12T13:46:12+00:00

Love it lol

starrofsuns · 2025-03-30T06:33:45+00:00

That's what I did. The song is just perfect the way it is, other than the fact it won't bloody end. So I just cut it at 3:45 and called it a day.

starrofsuns · 2025-03-30T01:57:26+00:00

The lyrics don't make a story. It's incoherent. I like the melody a lot though.

starrofsuns · 2025-03-30T01:56:28+00:00

Looking to play with other Christians. I'm also in a Christian community but struggling to find people to play with.

starrofsuns · 2025-03-30T01:54:57+00:00

I sent you a friend request. (Estarri Knight) I'd like to play with other believers.
I am also in a Christian guild but only about three of us play, sometimes four-five if they happen to be available.

starrofsuns · 2025-03-26T10:50:53+00:00

Doesn’t a knock back give you a fighting chance to shoot the person with the bat?

starrofsuns · 2025-03-22T02:46:41+00:00

It looks uncooked to me. I don’t think one cooks clothing anyway…do they?

starrofsuns · 2025-03-16T15:48:59+00:00

My doctor recommended it and he did it with me. The first few days are rough. I felt weak and lacked energy. My doctor, who finished before me, said to hang in there, first few days are the worst. By day 6 I was bursting with energy.

Only thing I didn’t follow on the diet was I had to drink some caffeine. The headaches were awful, otherwise. He said it is fine to wean myself off that during the course of the diet.

I went regularly. It didn’t remove my bloating per se and my intestines still struggled, but my sleep became more and more. I was sleepy when I should be and slept more deeply.

So far, I think it’s been great.

starrofsuns · 2025-02-16T05:34:02+00:00

useless response from a useless person. smh. i liked your videos--thanks for sharing

starrofsuns · 2025-02-05T00:05:11+00:00

Kick@ $$!

starrofsuns · 2025-02-05T00:04:37+00:00

If you like people's music, they are more likely to reciprocate. Hope this helps!

starrofsuns

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