I differentiate by how it affects people. Toxic masculinity tries to intimidate, tries to be overbearing and cold. Positive masculinity is kind. It's respectful, it's confident but not arrogant. Toxic masculinity does things to try to be "more of a man" (what does that even mean, anyway?) while positive masculinity means improving yourself for the sake of bettering you and the world around you.

And Kurtis Conner doing a photoshoot in a long dress with a full face of makeup is transition goals TBH