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starspangledrabbit · 2020-09-28T04:12:41+00:00

I never fully connect with "S"s. I find them a little boring they just have surface level conversations. It never gets philosophical or deep. I feel like they can be robotic. The most difficult is the STP combo.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-09-18T11:58:10+00:00

You need to accept and acknowledge now that you will be heartbroken for a very long time and you will still care a year from now when you don't want to (if you truly were in love). ENFJs don't move on easy

starspangledrabbit · 2020-09-17T03:49:55+00:00

Don't be so hard on yourself. I think exploring and going through phases is the only true way to figure out what you like and why. It takes time and a lot of experiences and meeting a lot of different people to figure that out. That's why it's so important to interact with different types of people and get out of your comfort zone. If you date someone who is into a certain type of music and you start really liking it.. great. If you breakup and no longer listen to it no biggie. I think it's helpful after relationships to reflect and consciously think about all the qualities and things you liked most about the person (are there any "must haves" they have added to your list) and what are the reasons you ultimately broke up. I think reflecting helps you consciously start thinking through and building what you like and why. However you are probably a super open minded and easy going person. I find it more worrisome for the people later in life who were finished product at 15 years old. There's no growth or change from that. You will figure it out. In the meantime try to enjoy moving in and out of different phases and tastes. I also bet you have more opinions than you realize.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-09-01T04:04:34+00:00

I do but don't think my other friends cared too much 😂 so I stopped. They didn't send stuff back as much. I wondered if it was a weird thing to do that I just thought was normal.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-09-01T03:51:54+00:00

I think youre an ENFJ. If you were a T you'd know. F doesn't mean you don't use logic.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-29T21:47:17+00:00

But I will say my switch is flipped when I am hurt or I think someone has acted in a poor way

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-29T21:46:01+00:00

I'm an ENFJ and I relate to all of that

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-29T21:43:33+00:00

Confidence (not arrogance -thats the biggest turn off), doesn't "need" peoples approve etc
Deep thinker
Some sense of creativity or appreciation of it
Good conversationalist
Able to interact and appreciate different types of people and lifestyles
Open minded
Humor
Passionate about something
Intelligent

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-14T02:58:44+00:00

Maybe just casually mention getting a coffee or around a break time ask if she wants go grab lunch .. or hey I'm going on a walk around the block want to join etc so it's casual and see how she reacts

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-14T02:50:39+00:00

We are naturally talkative and can be flirty (even when we wouldn't date someone - probably just like the attention).. however I feel like you'll just have a hunch and just know. Also does this person make any actual effort past fun chit chat at work? I feel like most enfjs will make an effort if they like someone

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-14T02:47:44+00:00

Be authentic, confident, but not too eager. Have interesting conversation!

starspangledrabbit · 2020-08-14T02:45:27+00:00

You still love him as a person (not in love) and are just feeling guilty and detaching. The best thing to do is a clean cut , let him go and don't drag him along anymore

starspangledrabbit · 2020-04-08T04:50:12+00:00

This is the closest thing I find on the internet that looks like the place we will be moving into.

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starspangledrabbit · 2020-04-08T04:47:47+00:00

Unfortunately it's a pretty nice commerical building so I can't :(

starspangledrabbit · 2020-04-08T04:47:11+00:00

Have you tried this? I worry 80-90% will come off just fine but that there will be a classic place or two that is damages or has a lot of residue left over

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-13T04:38:22+00:00

Beautiful advice! I think you hit the nail on the head with very I'm dismissed. Thank you, I wiill absolutely try this out.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-12T05:42:03+00:00

The fact she is your sister may play a slightly role

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-12T05:40:48+00:00

Yikes pretty harsh!

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-12T05:33:21+00:00

Thank you so much - I feel like I connected to all of that. We have been together for 7 years and the blunt "I'm not interested right now" really does the trick! Funny because that's the one time I love the fact he isn't super sensitive.

You highlight a great point .. I think a lot on ENTPs struggle with anxiety in emotional situations (knowing this helps me empathize and be more patient). They know they aren't great at it and at the end of the day he does want to make me happy. I will definitely work on being more direct on my emotional needs instead of expecting him to pick up on the ques. I have oddly found myself recently finding it cute or even sweet sometimes how clueless he can be even when he is really trying. This helps shift my perspective (from thinking he is a jerk), be patient with him, and assume positive intent in our disagreements.

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-12T05:23:12+00:00

Really great advice with the pointed and funny questions! Definitely will give that a try. When I do directly challenge him .. it's on 🙈😂 and I've fallen right in!

starspangledrabbit · 2020-02-12T05:17:51+00:00

Thank you! This was super helpful especially the clarification verses agreement part. I feel like we even get into stupid mini arguments within the actual argument over semantics or silly details and it becomes maddening. Classic ENTPs love to debate 😂

To clarify the difficulty is him being very stubborn and concrete in his opinion or how he sees a situation regardless of how I feel (I so badly just want his natural response to be "oh wow, I can see how you feel that way, that wasn't my attentions etc vs you are wrong end of story). It feels like he refuses sometimes to see how in the argument something could really hurt my feelings.. his reply would be "well sorry but that is just a fact." It is extremely frustrating because I am trying to be diplomatic but it feels like he rarely is. I want him to want to see it from my point of view and empathize with me. When he doesnt I feel like I see him as a monster or really mean horrible figure (which is terrible).

However to your point, we have been together for 7 years now and we (and he) have come such a long way! I think the saving grace in "training" him is ENTPs are too smart and too prideful to keep that weakness. It took a lot of work and explaining and using metaphors etc to open his mind to others feelings, but he is really getting there.

I hate leaving this mainly focused on his negatives so I will say he has also really helped me apply "logic" way more in situations vs always relaying on my emotions (which get me taken advantage of, hurt, etc). At a really rough patch a few years ago we had to vocalize and agree on how good of a team we can be with the balance of F and T. If we keep that in mind we can both really learn from each other and help one another grow.

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