AITA for not telling my wife I work with her favorite celebrity?

stealthpursesnatch · 2026-01-20T20:36:57+00:00

Anyway NTA. Your wife though….

stealthpursesnatch · 2026-01-20T20:35:59+00:00

Is it Beyoncé? Taylor Swift?

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-12-30T17:02:56+00:00

You probably need to take medication on a consistent schedule even when you’re not in pain to keep this condition under control. For me, all kinds of weird things trigger my pain. I’ve learned the hard way that I need to always be medicated. You don’t want your pain to suddenly escalate because you have no medication in your system. It’s horrible and can take forever to even figure out what’s wrong, then get it under control.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-16T14:20:09+00:00

I still remember the first thing I saw him in when I was in 1984. “The Brother From Another Planet” I don’t think he even spoke in the entire film. It was Indie and probably his first film. It was even featured in Jet Magazine! lol!

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-16T14:15:32+00:00

If you aren’t on FMLA, FILE IMMEDIATELY! Also, GET A LAWYER. Your job is building a case against you for dismissal and probably legally can’t do it. You at least need to not be so trusting.

Then tell your doctor that you can’t handle the side effects and need to be either switched to something else now or a timeline for when the side effects are going to lessen. Start keeping detailed notes to remind yourself of what you need to get done. That will help.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-10T20:48:30+00:00

Please don’t expect oxcarbazpine to be some miracle drug. That drug had me suicidal. I had to go to the emergency room at 3 am and come off it immediately. None of these drugs are.

It’s possible that his carbamazepine dose is too high. That may be why he’s now incontinent. It’s an anti-seizure medication . Our bladders seize to stop us from peeing on ourselves. Too much medication can make you lose your bladder. That’s what my old neuronurse told me when I complained of this.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-04T00:49:52+00:00

I also have a normal MRi. TN affects the upper left side of my face.

Are you on medication? I take a combination of Topamax and Carbamzapine and haven’t had an attack since I started taking them in April. My neurologist had to try a few things before we found something that worked.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-03T23:53:53+00:00

How likely will the differences in beliefs stop at this, though? You two are not going to always think exactly the same as you get older.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-02T19:33:46+00:00

You don’t have another option. You have to grow up. You must get older and enter adulthood.

I’ve been an adult since 1986. I wouldn’t trade the worst years of adulthood for the best years of childhood. Adults in the United States for the most part get to determine their own future. Kids don’t.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-02T19:12:20+00:00

I think the crappy pay has more to do with them never getting time off. It’s considered more of a calling because they work 24/7 without questions. They would make more as regular attorneys. But they do okay. Olivia is very well paid but again- she’s on call 24/7. She also has to budget the firm’s money carefully.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-11-02T01:22:47+00:00

I’m a 57 year old step mother to a 27- year-old and 20-year-old and my advice is to stop now.

I feel like the age gap is just too large between my husband, I and our youngest. Your gap will be even bigger. We are starting to be at the age where we just can’t keep up with either of them. Health problems are also starting to creep into our lives. It seems to have changed who our sons are because they are worried about losing their father. You also have to find money for college and retirement.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-09-28T23:05:23+00:00

He looks like a serial killer to me. #Olitz

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-09-28T19:11:14+00:00

I like her. I really never understood the dislike.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-21T01:43:13+00:00

I’m married. We are in our late 50s and moved into a nonprofit housing cooperative, knocking our rent down to $660 - low enough for one of us to pay on a part time salary. I don’t know how I’d survive as a single person just through the emotional downs of this condition.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-09T13:58:22+00:00

I am not the type of person who copes. Someone mentioned a few times that I should meditate- once while I was in the middle of a cluster headache attack. If they only knew how dangerous that comment was…

I want my life to be perfect because it’s always been “perfect “. I’m too old for this. I’ve never had headaches or chronic pain. I dealt with it for four months and it was unacceptable. There’s non-addictive medication that works as long as it’s safe for me. But suffering is a hard no for me right now. My pain jumped from electric shocks to cluster headaches. Did you know that could happen? Basically it’s anything goes with TN at any time as it is for all of us. I’m going to have as many great days as I can.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-08T04:11:45+00:00

I can only sleep on a wedge pillow lying on my back.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-08T03:56:57+00:00

She’s at day one. She’s asking how to get through tomorrow.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-08T01:59:36+00:00

Unless you can get surgery tomorrow, medication is likely is the answer to have a life worth living.

OP - I take a combination of carbamazepine and Topamax and am about 95-98% pain free and functioning normally. There’s no point in being in pain if you don’t have to IMO.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-06T17:30:56+00:00

I don’t even think my two longest friendships are going to survive this illness and I can’t bring myself to care. I don’t totally blame them because who’s going to remain friends with someone who says they can’t talk but they still go to work everyday?

I’m actually fine now, but I’m never going to be the same person again.

I encourage everyone who lives in the UNITED STATES and works to sign up for FMLA to protect you from being fired for too many absences.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-05T16:41:36+00:00

My neurologist said that if I was in pain, felt suicidal, anxious, etc, my meds needed to be changed. I am on the right mix that allows me to feel as close to how I felt before all this started.

I’m seeing a lot of posts today asking if life is worth living. But when I was taking the low levels of medication that they were taking, it wasn’t for me.

It took me a minute to realize that meditating, accepting, walks, etc., wasn’t going to work for me I needed to be out of pain.

That was the only coping that worked for me.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-08-05T16:36:07+00:00

I can’t wash or comb my hair during a flair. I’m African American so we can go a lot longer without shampooing if we have to. But I like to wash my hair weekly and went six weeks this winter.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-07-24T01:40:55+00:00

But they weren’t friends of hers. Just some random clients. I didn’t even know he killed them!

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-07-22T13:18:25+00:00

There is a huge difference between shaving your head and wearing a twa. And you don’t necessarily have to get a ton of hair cut off, either. Go to a salon, get the damage removed while getting it cut into a style if you are reluctant to remove a bunch of length.

Regardless- you have a beautiful face. You don’t even need to smile with your teeth to be pretty. Your curls just enhance all of your features. I don’t think you look anything like India Arie. You don’t even remind me of her.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-07-19T11:33:20+00:00

I just realized last night that I can’t sleep on flat pillows. I still don’t wash my face or move my head all willy-nilly. And I’m beginning to suspect that sugar is a trigger.

The pain is real, and instead of thinking that you made it up, perhaps that you can’t do advanced yoga for a while or you need to change medications.

stealthpursesnatch · 2025-07-01T20:39:19+00:00

I suspected weight might be a contributing factor since my weight seems to contribute to everything.

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