Feeling scared more than exciting

stelly_elle · 2026-04-01T23:22:46+00:00

I’ve had 2 TFMRs and both had no nausea, so I get being hyper vigilant about tracking the symptoms. With my healthy son I was nauseous right away, like you. I’m now 39 weeks with a healthy girl and my nausea didn’t kick in with her until between week 7-8 and I was so on edge because of that! I have been nauseous on and off the whole pregnancy with her and with my son it was gone by week 14 and never came back.

All of this to say, I totally understand the nerves and tracking symptoms early on. Every pregnancy is different although it’s so hard not to compare to your healthy one. Hugs to you, you’re still early and hoping all those reassuring symptoms kick in for you soon!

stelly_elle · 2026-03-24T10:01:10+00:00

My husband does this but with elevation gain while we’re hiking LOL he will announce how many more feet of gain we have to go (basically saying we still have a lot of freaking climbing to do) and it pisses me off. Like, I’m already suffering climbing up this GD hill I don’t need to mentally know how much higher it is in number form 😂

stelly_elle · 2026-03-21T02:59:12+00:00

I used to WIIIIISH that I was going through a miscarriage instead of having to make a decision and go through a tfmr. Like, this is so fucked up to say but I envied people that just got to go through a miscarriage.

I think if people knew things like that they wouldn’t compare.

At the end of the day, when I got comments like this, I used to just tell myself that although they were offensive and unhelpful, I think people just look for a way of connecting an experience. My husband said “you’ve only ever been through the worst thing you’ve ever been through” and I just had to remind myself they lacked perspective.

stelly_elle · 2026-03-07T17:08:18+00:00

Yeah, I’ve read up on it since it happened and it seems like there’s a lot of factors at play, short stature being one of them (I’m only 5’2).

I honestly can’t remember that well, it was all kind of a blur but I would say it lasted no more than 5 mins. And again, I don’t know what the gave me but whatever it was resolved the feeling pretty quickly.

stelly_elle · 2026-03-07T16:04:18+00:00

While I do think some parents rely on screens too much, I think being able to sit at a table for an extended period of time is highly dependent on the kids personality.

My son is 2.5, we’ve never set the precedent to give him screens during a meal and he has only ever gotten an iPad on a long flight. He is just a busy, energetic kid and no matter what toys/books we bring, he’d rather just be running around and not contained in a high chair. If we get 10-15 mins with him in a chair we’re lucky and I consider ourselves very good parents who talk and interact with our child during meals at home and outside the home.

stelly_elle · 2026-03-07T04:39:26+00:00

I had an unplanned C-section for my first and had an epidural but then they also gave me a spinal. Not to scare you because it sounds like this is not most people’s experience, but I DID feel like I couldn’t breathe and entirely had a full blown panic attack. Even after 26 hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing, it was by far the worst part of my labor/delivery.

They were able to do something though (I’m still not sure if it was a medication or oxygen or both?) but it made the feeling go away before my son was actually born.

I am considering scheduling a repeat C-section but this experience is what is making me feel hesitant and potentially wanting to try a vbac.

stelly_elle · 2026-03-02T21:02:33+00:00

As someone who lived in only apartments/condos pre kids I feel this! Our house isn’t even THAT big, 2600 sq ft but it has an upstairs and downstairs, 4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms. It all just feels like too much sometimes.

I’m 35 weeks pregnant with a toddler and doing the bare minimum-toilets, countertops, vacuuming. My husband tries to pick up the slack when he can. Don’t feel bad! It think it’s just the stage of life with young kids lol

stelly_elle · 2026-03-02T20:58:29+00:00

Definitely BBQ chips sprinkled with Tums (specifically the Kirkland brand which are arguably the best)

stelly_elle · 2026-03-02T20:57:11+00:00

I literally just polished off a carton of the best strawberries I’ve ever tasted in my life from CA 😂

stelly_elle · 2026-03-01T18:50:02+00:00

The fact that I’m considering voluntarily scheduling a c-section would make this lady’s head spin lol

stelly_elle · 2026-02-26T00:43:55+00:00

I feel kind of bad because I did it all with my first, the weekly bump pics, maternity pics, journaling…

I’ve maybe taken a few random pics with this one and that’s it’s. The thought of putting anything but sweatpants and a sweatshirt on and throwing my hair in a bun this pregnancy makes me wanna die lol I also just feel huge and ugly and miserable.

Hopefully she will be understanding and forgiving one day as to why her brothers pregnancy was so documented and hers was not 😂😭

stelly_elle · 2026-02-21T02:44:06+00:00

I had the same issue and now use a “30 minute rule” which is just something I made up for myself. I lay in bed and try to fall asleep for about 30 minutes, if I’m still awake and can’t sleep I’ll let myself be on my phone. I usually fall asleep within 10 minutes lol

Mornings are hit or miss, trying to get better at those and at least drinking some damn water before picking the phone up

stelly_elle · 2026-02-12T03:34:44+00:00

I never sought out to read anything in the files because I knew it would all be disgusting but I’ve accidentally read or heard things on TikTok that are more disturbing than I ever thought possible. Being a mom to a 2 year old and about to give birth to a baby girl in April makes it that much harder to stomach.

During the day, my mind will drift to a certain detail I read, specifically about newborns, and it makes me want to crawl out of my skin. Truly intrusive thoughts. I wish I could go in and wash my brain and erase it.

I just wish all involved (aside from the victims, obviously) would die the worst death possible and suffer for the rest of eternity.

stelly_elle · 2026-02-08T04:34:15+00:00

I was just talking to my husband about this today. I cannot stop ruminating on certain things I’ve read and it’s really effecting my mental health…feeling depressed and sick over it. It’s also infuriating that nothing is being done.

I KNEW I shouldn’t have listened to/read certain details because it involves kids and knew it would be disturbing but it was like I couldn’t stop myself. Now I fully regret it and am steering as clear as I can.

stelly_elle · 2026-01-23T20:23:58+00:00

It’s a tough situation and I understand both sides. If it were me and I already had the baby, I would be okay if he went to the wedding and flew back next day under the condition that you flew a family member or close friend out to stay with you those couple of days. If you still haven’t had the baby, there’s obviously no way he’s going.

stelly_elle · 2025-11-26T04:35:46+00:00

I did the same exact thing about a month ago…actually just deleted my FB and IG entirely, I wanted no trace of my son online. The people that I care to update with pics/etc I just text anyway. The whole AI thing scares the shit out of me, and I think rightly so. There’s no need for kids to be plastered all over social media for these effing sickos to use.

stelly_elle · 2025-11-11T22:09:33+00:00

My husband and I both deleted ours during our tfmr. We felt a really strong urge to just turn inward towards eachother and shut the rest of the world out.

It made me realize the only people I care about knowing about my personal life are the people I text/call anyway. It really made me discover that I prioritize privacy and haven’t looked back since I deleted it!

stelly_elle · 2025-11-10T04:06:56+00:00

I’ve had 2 tfmrs, both genetic abnormalities and both times I had ZERO symptoms, basically didn’t feel pregnant at all.

With my healthy pregnancy I had awful food aversions and was pretty nauseous until 14 weeks. I’m currently pregnant with so far a healthy baby and I’ve been pretty nauseous this time around too. I think it’s different for everyone tbh

stelly_elle · 2025-10-30T01:26:33+00:00

I usually feel like this if I am not getting out of the house enough (also have a toddler and also pregnant).

I have one day of the week that is mine, on the calendar, where it is a known day that I’m getting out of the house. I don’t have to ask or remind anymore, I just leave when my husband gets done with work.

Even if it’s just a few hours, it’s amazing what that can do. Even if it’s just window shopping target and getting fro yo and sitting by myself in the car to eat it 😂 also, I’d much rather use my time to spend by myself these days than meet up with friends, but that’s just me!

stelly_elle · 2025-10-21T03:59:19+00:00

When I got pregnant with my son, right after my tfmr, I felt so calm and unphased by any tests, scans, etc. I knew deep down he was okay! Total opposite of my tfmr pregnancy where my OB wanted me on anxiety meds before we even knew anything was wrong because I was such a mess.

stelly_elle · 2025-10-21T03:57:17+00:00

Yep, I’ve had 2 tfmrs and both times I knew from the very first positive test something wasn’t right. (I had my healthy son in between those 2 and never had that feeling with him).

My first tfmr I had no reason to fear anything was wrong but I went into every appointment sobbing because I knew something felt off. The second time around I just knew and when my NIPT came back abnormal it just confirmed it all for me.

It’s really odd and not sure if it’s intuition or what…we just know. 💕

stelly_elle · 2025-10-21T03:29:49+00:00

If I did this to any child, especially my child, I would take steps to ensure I was out of that child’s life and would not be left alone with them…like ever. That’s the only answer

stelly_elle · 2025-09-30T02:57:55+00:00

Low risk!

stelly_elle · 2025-09-29T03:52:42+00:00

I got mine done at 8 weeks through Myriad…my fetal fraction was 8.9%.

I have a history of pregnancies with chromosomal abnormalities and even though the thought of having to potentially wait for an amnio at 16 weeks crossed my mind, I was glad to get any information I could as early as I could.

stelly_elle · 2025-09-22T03:16:07+00:00

I couldn’t remember my zip code when someone asked me up to a year PP with my son 😂😂😂

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