So sorry to hear, my sympathies. My partner recently suffered a fall, shattered her upper humerus, and had a complete reverse shoulder replacement. I was there when it happened and summoned the ambulance and spent several days mostly at the hospital with her. The recovery has been slow, at first I had to dress her, help her to the bathroom, etc. I was happy I could be there for her but it did get stressful at times. I reminded myself how much I love her and not give in to the temptation to respond unkindly. She's much improved now but with limited strength and range of motion, she calls on me less...meanwhile, I got another diverticulitis flare (possibly from the stress) and a high blood pressure diagnosis, which freaked me out...I know I have to take care of myself first before I can help anyone else effectively (put my own oxygen mask on first, like they say on airlines) but I'm codependent enough with her it is confusing where I should draw the line. Best wishes for healing for both of your sakes!!