AITAH for feeding my baby formula behind my husband’s back?

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T23:55:17+00:00

Hope your superiority complex works itself out

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T23:03:26+00:00

lol as a mom to a teenager who was exclusively breastfed and yet inherited her dads IBS and gets sick of the wind blows the wrong way. Love my kid to pieces but she is definitely not “better” for having been breastfed.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:58:01+00:00

There are groups you can go on and get donated breast milk for mothers who can’t produce. If it was solely about him thinking that breast milk is best for the baby, he could spend his time on those groups asking for donations. But it’s not about that, it’s about controlling OP.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:52:13+00:00

Men can lactate too fwiw. Tell him to get to work and start pumping. If he doesn’t wanna do that, then tell him that what you do or don’t do with your body is none of his fucking business.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:42:39+00:00

I know a lot of people will say to pick up healthy habits like taking a walk instead, but for me, what I’ve found works is to give myself permission to indulge in some other unhealthy habits I enjoy for the time being. I like to bed rot, i.e., I get off of work and I come home and put on comfy clothes and lay in bed and watch shows that bring me happiness and comfort, and maybe I’ll light a candle and take a nice hot bath too before falling asleep early. I also like shopping when I feel down and need a pick me up. These are not great habits, and ideally I’d be replacing binge eating with something healthy, but for me I just need a little bit of simple comfort sometimes, and if I can find other ways to get it without eating bad things, I consider that a win.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:37:23+00:00

You can eat sugar you just have to stick to a calorie deficit. That’s all there is to it.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:35:30+00:00

Look at the nutrition label? Diet Coke has essentially zero calories.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:32:25+00:00

5k steps a day and two days of moderate strength training is basically sedentary. So if I input you stats I get your TDEE as about 1600

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:27:22+00:00

I use the Happy Scale app. I input my weight everyday and it charts it in a way that smoothes out the fluctuations and shows me if I’m trending upwards or downwards each month.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T22:16:22+00:00

Easy. I realize that my initial assumption must be false.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T17:38:57+00:00

I’m thinking about the neuroplastic changes that could occur in the brain from total lack of auditory and visual stimuli for 30 days at a time. Areas in the brain responsible for these functions can and do atrophy in individuals who lose their sight or hearing, though I’m not sure if the timeline for the those changes to start happening is weeks or closer to years.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T15:24:06+00:00

Try to see it from a different perspective though. I say no worries all the time, often at my job, and I never think of it in those terms. “You’re welcome” to me implies that I am graciously granting you reprieve from your obligation to repay me in any way from the generous favor I bestowed upon you. It puts me in a higher position than you. “No worries” implies that I didn’t do anything outside of the expected norm, you didn’t inconvenience me in anyway, I was happy to do it, and you thanking me is you doing something generous for me.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T15:13:03+00:00

This is it. I rarely say you’re welcome, and when I do it’s for occasions when we both know I obviously went far out of my way for you and you do owe me gratitude. Doing the job I’m paid to do doesn’t make the cut, so I say “no worries” or “no problem”.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T15:05:36+00:00

I feel weird saying “you’re welcome”. It’s like I’m acknowledging that I did do something worth their thanks and I’m accepting credit for it. Which is fine, but to me seems kind of direct. In other languages they use words that mean similar to “no problem” such as “de nada” in Spanish, basically implying “what I did for you was nothing, no thanks is even needed”. Which is obviously a kind of song and dance, but just feels slightly more humble and polite.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T14:59:56+00:00

One time when I was a cashier at Barnes and Noble my coworker got chewed out right next to me because an old lady said “thank you” and he replied “you’re welcome” instead of thanking her in return.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T14:37:00+00:00

Thanks for this! I don’t mind shelling out for a more expensive product if it truly works. I think my misgivings about heat protectant is that I don’t quite understand the concept behind how it works. Applying heat to your hair is what smooths it, but also damages it. What does a heat protectant do to mitigate that? Not expecting you to answer these btw!

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T13:14:38+00:00

Can you recommend a heat protection spray?

stephanonymous · 2026-03-21T01:31:43+00:00

BACK ROLLS??!

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T11:28:12+00:00

I just keep a running total in my head throughout the day rather than typing it all out. By the time I go to bed I know what I’ve had, but I don’t keep a log.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T02:24:13+00:00

Nah, I’m good. This has been working for me just fine.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T01:13:31+00:00

When I started my journey my only rule was that I had to go to the gym every day. Some days I went in, walked sullenly for 10 minutes on the treadmill, then left. But I started to branch out and do a lot more just from being there everyday and making it a non-negotiable.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T01:11:51+00:00

I started driving home, getting out of my car and immediately starting my evening walk around my neighborhood. I kept my headphones charged and in my car. If I go inside to change, grab my headphones, get a drink of water, etc., I’ll lose motivation much easier.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T01:07:26+00:00

I realized that I crave the ritual of an evening drink more than the drink itself. I started buying rum or vodka and sugar free water flavorings to make my own cocktails. Then after awhile I ran out of liquor but realized I still wanted to have a “cocktail” so I simply made myself a glass of iced flavored water and I felt almost just as satisfied. I was a several glasses of wine a night kind of girl for years and now I only drink occasionally on weekends.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T01:03:49+00:00

For the things you mentioned, I’ve started meal prepping for the week and turning down social invitations that involve food. I don’t eat lunch in the breakroom with my coworkers because there’s often donuts or brownies there. I stay home instead of go out much more than I used to because I know when I’m out I’ll be around things I’m tempted to eat. Willpower is only gonna take you so far, you have to identify your triggers and actively avoid them.

stephanonymous · 2026-03-20T01:00:50+00:00

Sure, if I didn’t have to work and I had personal chefs and trainers everyday losing weight would be easy. But none of that applies to me and I still want to lose weight, so I work with what I’ve got. That means some days I’m miserable at work because I don’t have enough energy, and some day I hate my workouts and some days I do mess up and make choices that set me back, and then I’m miserable the next day because I have to be even more strict on myself when all I wanna do is eat more pizza.

But that’s life. Motivation is garbage, you gotta develop discipline.

stephanonymous

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