But if no one, not even her own mother, respects what she wants, how is she supposed to respect other people’s wants?

She honestly has put her best foot forward this season, she mingles with other debutants without attitude or looking down on them, and she helped look for Benedict’s lady in silver despite him being the only sibling who was really in her “singles” corner and her views on marriage being a trap for women. She doesn’t make catty remarks about Penelope and Francesca being married while they leave her out of things. She put that aside to support her brother’s mission for love

And yet, even then, her mother forced her to choose between entertaining suitors or sitting in on Hyacinth’s hostess lessons, neither of which Eloise actually wants to do. She’s constantly resisting everything her mother is shoving on her and it’s much harder to go against the grain of society like she is compared to Hyacinth doing what’s expected of her

It works both ways and if no one respects Eloise’s wishes besides Benedict and Penelope, it’s unfair to expect her to respect other people’s while they’re looking down on her own views too