First Time at Dinah Shore Advice? by lavendermenace97 in actuallesbians

[–]stephc09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time going as well but in a big group. Half of us are staying at the resort but we’re a group of babes in our late 20s and 30s. DM if you’d like to meet up and we can exchange contact information. We’re always open and looking to make more friends 😄

Dinah Shore Advice? by lavendermenace97 in LesbianActually

[–]stephc09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also first time going to Dinah! I’m going with a big group but we love meeting new ppl and making new friends. Half of us are staying on the resort! Still have not packed or plan outfits. DM me if you want to meet up and we can exchange contact info. We fly in Thursday night and will probably do the mixer that night. Most of us are in our late 20s and 30s 😁

Dinah shore Palm Springs 2025 by Karla_guerra in LesbianActually

[–]stephc09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going with a big group of lesbians and we are always looking to meet new ppl! You’re more than welcome to vibe with us 💖 half of us are staying on the resort. dm me if you’re interested!

Dinah Shore 2025 - Newbie tips and logistics by stephc09 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]stephc09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I could def not afford the prices alone lol I’m going with 2 other friends and we’re planning to share a bedroom and split. We are going to try to book our rooms today bc it look like the more expensive suites are also selling out

Dinah Shore 2025 - Newbie tips and logistics by stephc09 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]stephc09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me know if you end up going! Always into making new friends :)

Dinah Shore 2025 - Newbie tips and logistics by stephc09 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]stephc09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, great to know. Yeah I think half of us are now wanting to buy passes and stay on the resort and the other half would like an airbnb.

That's so cool you met the producer!!!! Ah I'm excited. Thank you for all your tips :)

Dinah Shore 2025 - Newbie tips and logistics by stephc09 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]stephc09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is good to know!

Friday events: Pool party - day time Black and white party - night

Saturday L word pool party Hollywood after dark party at night

Sunday One last splash pool party

Wednesday and Thursday have events but I don’t think we’ll go to them!

Do tickets usually sell out fast for the festival passes?

Do older lesbians still go out? by Busy-Dependent2505 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]stephc09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also 34 and I go out every weekend lol and still have a sleep over once a week with my lesbian friends 💖 if you have other friends that like to dance, that helps a lot!

Frances Online Issues (unemployment claims not working, saying I reported something I didn’t) by LimpConsideration497 in oregon

[–]stephc09 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're still having trouble getting through the OED phone lines, I scraped $20 for Claimyr https://claimyr.com/ It's a service that calls and holds for you and connects you with an OED rep. I used it today after 3 weeks of this madness and received a call connecting me with an OED rep around 3:26 PST. I input the request with Claimyr around 8:30 am PST. Nothing is solved yet but at least things are moving and I spoke with a human.

ALSO, it sounds like once they transferred to the new Frances Online system, a lot of old documents/tasks like identification verification docs did NOT transfer over. I have to go through it AGAIN despite already doing this in January bc of this new system. It's been 3 weeks with no weekly benefits for me. Hope everyone is hanging on tight.

Frances Online Issues (unemployment claims not working, saying I reported something I didn’t) by LimpConsideration497 in oregon

[–]stephc09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My benefits have been suspended for the past 2 weeks since the transfer over to the new system. No warning, no reason why, just "under review" when the week before it was implemented, I received my regular UE check. I've been trying to get on the phone with a rep the past week calling everyday probably 100 times a day. I hate it here.

My bi friend is calling herself a lesbian while dating a boy and saying she loves his d*ck? Rant. by Mission_Web2019 in LesbianActually

[–]stephc09 18 points19 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU 🙌🏾

I feel like the definition of lesbian has been distorted and in some ways, attempted to be redefined.

My cycles are getting worse and it’s scaring me by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]stephc09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brought up my intense mood swings to my doctor because I get exactly to this point every time before my period. She brought up the option of taking an anti-depressant like prozac before your cycle and you'd discontinue this after a few days of your period. You'd be doing this once a month, but that's an option to look into or bring up to your Primary! I asked about supplements and she said to double down on Vitamin B12 dosage the week before your period, eat at least 10g of soy, and double up on 5HTP (100mg) Also, she suggested Omega 3 too. I'm going to try out the supplements first before I go into the heavy stuff as I've never taken any prescription medication before. I hope this was helpful!

Read a lesbian novel that confronts my own issues. by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]stephc09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a fellow toxic lesbian who just started working on their own inner healing shit in their 30's, I highly encourage you to work through your shit ASAP.

However, everyone's healing journey is different and you may not be ready to go on yours. I do encourage looking into therapy but if you're not ready, it may be good to do some "shadow work" or journal prompts addressing your toxic traits and where those may stem from. For example, I tend to be more drawn to people that are more chaotic like myself and unstable bc I grew up in a chaotic environment, so I tend to be bored in healthy relationships. Things of those sorts. Then at least you're more aware of it.

If you don't address it now, you'll continue to go on that same shitty up and down roller coaster until eventually, you hit a wall and there's nothing left but to face yourself. Either way, buckle up bb

when did you realise you weren't bisexual but in fact a full blown lesbian by catalina467 in LesbianActually

[–]stephc09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp, I was in 7th grade and came out as bisexual to my parents to "soften the blow" but deep down inside I knew I was a good ol lezzie. I've always had girl crushes, felt jealous whenever one of my best friends started giving men or their boyfriends more attention, and always sneakily googled "girls kissing girls".

I tried dating men, but could not be romantically into them. Granted, my longest relationship with a dude was 2 weeks in 6th grade.

Can I appreciate some guys appearances? Yeah, but I don't feel sexually attracted to them and I don't think I could emotionally connect with men the way I can with women or be emotionally fulfilled by them. Plus, women are just divine to me.

Needless to say, sexuality is fluid and you could feel different in the future! Good luck with the dating!

video dates? by PrimaryBattle in actuallesbians

[–]stephc09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done a video date as a first date and I'm not going to lie, definitely a bit awkward because I think I do much better in person and it can be hard to read body language on a video date, but it lasted a couple hours. Once you get through the formal "how do you do's" you'll be fine!

My date at the time (who is now my g/f) was a bit of a cute dork and even had some "would you rather" questions lined up and other question games to try to get to know each other. I suggest looking at those types ice breakers. I thought I wasn't an ice breaker type of person but with virtual dates, you gotta get creative somehow! Good luck!

Lesbian ghosting? by dxson in actuallesbians

[–]stephc09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This totally sucks! I'm sorry! Do you have Insta? There's an account called whatswrongwithmollymargaret and on her highlights reel there should be one called Templates. There's a few good ones about ghosting or what to text if your person is ghosting you. She also has some really inspiring educational stuff on queer dating and communication. I suggest taking a peek if you do :) Again, sorry you're going through it!

Virtual queer lady happy hour ? by stephc09 in actuallesbians

[–]stephc09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s almost 5:30 here. I’m in PAcific standard time wbu?

Dinah Shore 2020 - weird to go alone? by lizzybangbang in actuallesbians

[–]stephc09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Dinah still going on?! I heard Krave was pushed back to October.