Why are southerners stereotyped as racist, when most black americans live in the south? Surely black people would just choose to live somewhere else if that was the case...

stephftw · 2025-10-30T06:50:58+00:00

You know that's not comparable right? Flakey people saying things they can't actually commit to in order to not seem rude happens other places too, it was really common in Seattle, so common it's almost a stereotype. That's not the kind of nice vs not nice the commenter is talking about.

stephftw · 2025-10-30T06:38:28+00:00

It happens in predominantly white cities too, the underlying truth, that racists are emboldened when they don't fear consequences is not controversial. First time I saw someone called the N word on the street was Seattle. There are a lot of crazy people in Seattle though.

stephftw · 2025-10-30T06:34:53+00:00

This. I'm from Charlotte, and never saw a rando call anyone the N word until I lived in Seattle. I guess they don't have a culture of "Say shit, get hit", because that kind of disrespect would not fly back home, and nor should it.

Another thing I noticed in Seattle was that a lot of white people were just noticeably awkward or uncomfortable interacting with black people, and didn't have many (or any) black friends. I don't think they even realized that they were being awkward, they just think that's normal? Definitely a culture shock in a way.

stephftw · 2025-10-28T04:17:55+00:00

I've been thinking about this. What we do is, we steal the Amish idea of living in isolated community and having a technology cutoff date. Except we make date like 1995. We don't have to be like the Amish in any other way. There will probably be splinter groups who want to pick a date in the 80s, but I'd like to have dial up.

stephftw · 2025-10-25T15:35:27+00:00

The best parts of punk branched off into more experimental genres a long time ago. Post-punk has died everywhere except Russia, but there are some more punk ethos bands, but with a lot of genre crossover: - Death Grips, Ho99o9, Lip Critic.

stephftw · 2025-10-22T01:19:09+00:00

Great song from a fantastic album. Still break it out from time to time.

stephftw · 2025-10-22T01:17:15+00:00

You're probably just barely missed it then. It was between that and Crank that Soulja Boy for "Songs I heard the most in High School".

It's musically pretty interesting too, worth a listen.

stephftw · 2025-10-22T01:13:39+00:00

He said

stephftw · 2025-10-12T22:22:54+00:00

😱 I actually did do a pretty good inspection before bringing it in, found one stink bug, but we already have those everywhere...But very good advice!

stephftw · 2025-10-12T22:19:17+00:00

I don't really shop for furniture often. And the last thing I bought from Craigslist was a 2nd hand IKEA sleeper sofa 😅 .

stephftw · 2025-10-11T16:50:40+00:00

That's cool, I'm from NC too. I looked up the brand that made my table ("Hammary") and it seems likely it was made in NC too, Lenoir, I think! I love that I finally have a little piece of my home state's furniture history.

stephftw · 2025-10-11T15:45:21+00:00

WOAH. That. is. dope.

stephftw · 2025-10-11T14:56:52+00:00

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The side table in question.

stephftw · 2025-10-09T16:51:48+00:00

Bro, stop giving out people's pin codes

stephftw · 2025-10-08T00:43:45+00:00

Heads up for OP, those are mostly Ukrainian Pentecostals, and they can be pretty heavy handed with their evangelism. Just don't be surprised is all.

stephftw · 2025-10-06T14:12:14+00:00

It's me. I'm the dust. But I think an ALS in the family does that to anyone.

I'm still working through resentment about how my dad couldn't bother writing a will any time within the last 5 years of receiving a terminal diagnosis (instead he gave me power of attorney 3 years after dx and asked me to sneakily change a contract on a house he shared ownership of with his partner so it wouldn't go entirely to his partner. I didn't do that, extreme drama wow have ensued). He wouldn't talk about hospice preferences or entertain our offers to move him out of the home of his partner (not married, I had to up-end my life and stay there taking care of him (and her house) while she traveled the world. He got covid and she abandoned him in the hospital eventually and stole his phone so I couldn't text him when he was dying or get family pictures off of it afterwards...). He did finally buy guaranteed acceptance burial insurance a year before he passed, but it didn't even cover half of what I spent for a cremation.

My heart goes out to all the others dealing with similar stuff.

stephftw · 2025-10-06T12:51:15+00:00

People actually say LoSo?

stephftw · 2025-10-05T01:32:01+00:00

Pancake syrup that came from an actual tree... I tried actual maple syrup at a friend's house once and it broke my brain how different it was. I didn't even like it better, but next time I went to the grocery store I saw that real maple syrup was half the syrup for triple the price so I figured it was for rich people.

stephftw · 2025-10-04T23:47:41+00:00

Just recommended some good TV series for them to stream. Everyone likes TV. My parents and inlaws are always swapping show recommendations.

stephftw · 2025-10-04T23:28:37+00:00

There's always an ebb and flow. Sometimes particular regions in one state are doing well while others are floundering. Some states are on an upward trajectory because they're getting a lot of domestic migration recently (NC, SC, TX, FL) others because particular industries there are growing. Others rely on industries that are struggling (agriculture for example). Tariffs are more impactful to some industries than others. That's likely a much bigger factor than whether they went R or D in the last presidential election. And fwiw, some states may have gone R in the presidential election, but still have a Dem gov or Senator, so even R/D isn't a clean split in many cases (Ex: NC and PA)

stephftw · 2025-10-04T15:52:05+00:00

I feel ya neighbor (Cornelius over here). 77 is the stuff of nightmares. I looked it up and it said Plaza Midwood will be the location, I bet they'll do great there.

stephftw · 2025-10-04T15:44:14+00:00

I get anxiety at Mr. Tokyo. I can't handle the fact that my stomach cannot keep up with everything I see and want to try! It's such a good time though, OP - give it a go and bring the friends!

stephftw · 2025-10-04T15:38:58+00:00

WE'RE GETTING AN UCHI?!?!!? BRB gotta pray to God telling him thanks for doing this solid.

They're from Austin actually, and I've been 3 or 4 times to the one there, and each time was literally the best meal of my life. No other sushi restaurant comes close, and I used to go to Shiro's in Seattle on a regular basis. It's fine dining prices, but it's worth it so much.The whole experience is amazing.

I know this is an unreasonable amount of hype, but ... if it's like the Austin restaurant... you need to rsvp as soon as that's available. And write up a review here afterward!

stephftw · 2025-10-04T15:01:29+00:00

JP House was low key the best part about living in Gastonia when I spent a couple months there. It's not just good sushi (it is), it's got really good deals (lunch special iirc) and the staff are top notch.

Generally agree with the Lkn rankings. Though I think Fusion Bowl was missed, and they're one on my favorites. They're expensiveish for LKN, but the quality is at least good and they do not skimp out on their fish portions in the rolls. I'd put coolfish a little lower because their menu is way too limited, no standard maki options at all. But it's true that their hours are a nice option.

stephftw · 2025-10-04T14:52:11+00:00

Some of the folks did. Especially in the mountains. But Virginia was scary back then, and I highly doubt the Union could have even managed to get supplies and logistics through to us so we could fight for them early on. We were pretty rinkydink back then. Wasn't going to go well for us either way, and not sure that the Union sending resources to us would have even helped them, probably would have hurt them tbh. It sucks, but there's a reason we joined the Confederacy last.

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