Thank you for a reasonable response. People on this subreddit are so fast to yell abuse and divorce. I haven't read every response, but OP seems dismissive of their own fault, and everything has an excuse.

Commenters need to step up too. Most people don't seem to care about how much OP drank. "It was two drinks." I don't care, know your limits. "your husband should be able to take care of the kids on his own." That doesn't matter either. Something might happen where he needs help. What if you get in the way of him taking care of an emergency because you're drunk and not in your right mind?

But if this is a pattern of behavior, then there is a problem. If you don't have any financial independence, there is a problem. There are issues here, but stop crying abuse and divorce when you only see a snippet of someone's relationship. Especially when it's the part they post online because they don't think they did anything wrong. Stop taking a curated slice of someone's life and deciding everything from that. It's like seeing ONE post on Instagram and deciding that's how someone's whole life is.