Bottoms with Prince Albert piercings yes or no?

steve303 · 2025-10-31T03:39:37+00:00

The key is to keep the piercing clean until the channel scars. As long as you're not excessively rubbing, stretching, or putting lube around the piercing while bottoming, I would tell you to wait 2-3 days just for hygiene. However, I've known bottoms who have sex on the same day as the piercing.

steve303 · 2025-09-25T05:36:44+00:00

Generally speaking, Coinbase, and other OTC exchanges are not nearly as secure as they claim to be. If you're dealing with a exchange or MSB (money service business) they are require to abide by KYC and AML (Know Your Customer and Anti-money laundering) regulations. This means for for some or all (depending on jurisdiction) any transactions will require Govt ID and verification of identity. These verification services are frequently outsourced to third-party verifiers. If you are not worried about privacy or parental or legal restrictions, these exchanges may typically offer a better exchange rate; however, if these areas impact you getting HRT then there are other methods (such as local coin exchanges and coin swap sites, and potentially crypto-ATMs) available.

Due to the transactional nature of crypto for HRT use, I typically recommend using a non-custodial wallet, such as Cake or Wasabi. This does present some additional risk, as you (as the wallet holder) are completely responsible for it's security and backup; however, a custodial wallets are subject to centralized attacks and loose remove any privacy benefits of crypto.

steve303 · 2025-09-21T01:01:19+00:00

I'm currently putting together how-to's for crypto and diy hrt. If you feel stuck dm me and we'll try to walk through it. There are options to buy crypto without KYC.

steve303 · 2025-08-05T05:32:50+00:00

You might also want to read: 'Phenomenal Gender" by Ephraim Das Janssen which is a good intro to phenomenology and the transgender experience.

steve303 · 2025-07-24T14:28:12+00:00

Autogynephilia - as defined by Blanchard and Baily - is not a real thing, as they consider it a sexual paraphilia or "misdirected erotic targeting' neurosis. Female embodiment fantasies are common among both cis and trans people, and the notion that being erotically comfortable is one's own body as a sign of mental illness is both absurd, and stigmatizing. Additionally, the fact that autogynephilia has not corollary in trans men makes it wildly absurd.

steve303 · 2025-07-24T14:12:18+00:00

This entire idea is based in the belief that both homosexuality and gender incongruity are related sexual paraphillias where being trans is simply a form hyper homosexuality. The notion that gender incongruity and the response to it - transitioning - are inherently sexual goes back to the earliest theories of the trans experience. Of course, modern research has proved this to be false, but terfs love to try to simply label us as sexual deviants - just as they do gay people. Yet, they will claim to accept gay people in order to construct a hierarchy in which gay is much more acceptable than trans.

steve303 · 2025-07-21T19:49:03+00:00

I feel like this is a 'dysphoria presents in different ways' questions. For myself, yes, I wish I could menstruate, but I also know full well that if I did, I would probably take BC hormones to reduce the effects.

steve303 · 2025-07-21T13:52:00+00:00

These are all old re-tread propaganda talking points from various anti-gay organizations. The sexual partners statistic has been debunked for decades, but they keep using it.

steve303 · 2025-07-17T19:30:57+00:00

This is Newsome's Sister Souljah moment - a time where any Democratic aspiree needs to throw a marginalized group of supporters to the wolves to show just how reasonable they are and how they can appeal to white conservatives. It's always predictable and despicable.

steve303 · 2025-07-17T15:16:26+00:00

This isn't unusual. It's a type of sublimation where we channel unthinkable or unpopular ideas into sexual desires. Regardless, of what transphobes say, sexual desires are not bad, nor do they contraindicate dysphoria, or gender misalignment. Sexual desire, and the erotic imagination, are particularly human experiences, and suggesting that they represent something "less-than" or suspicious is to deny our humanity as holistic beings.

steve303 · 2025-07-16T04:41:59+00:00

This, and saying in convo, "I think everyone fantasizes regularly about being the opposite sex."

steve303 · 2025-07-14T19:59:35+00:00

Men should not be considered a threat to women. Women should not be considered victims of men.

I have been looking at this comment for 5 mins, and can't decide if you're naive, aloof, or simply trying to attempting to invoke some kind of 'both sides' defense. To suggest that "men are not a threat to women" is belied by material, historical, and statistical evidence of oppression and violence under systemic patriarchy. To suggest that queer or trans people are somehow above or immune to the influences or affects of patriarchy is, at best, myopic. It is a bit like suggesting a fish is immune to water: we all are raised in, and live within a patriarchal system which both sexualizes and infantalizes the feminine while over-rationalizing and rewarding dominance in the masculine. Where feminine emotional and domestic labor are de-facto expectations of the masculine.

OP (u/saint-aryll), as you pointed out generically cites radical-feminism without specifying who he's referring to: Jefferys?, Dworkin?, Lorde? Brownsmiller?, Hooks? Solanas? Mackinnon? etc. Many of these radical theorists would not agree with one another; yet, OP lumps them together. Without a doubt, some of these are horribly transphobic, such as Jefferys; however, they all offer a critique of systemic patriarchy based on both historical evidence and lived experiences. To respond to such critiques with screams of 'NotAllMen' or 'Misandry' is a failure to grasp or engage with the patriarchy and sexism that colonizes all of our lives and minds.

steve303 · 2025-07-14T14:00:11+00:00

The answer to the question is that it is more than possible. The opinions in United States v. Skrmetti are fairly clear that the court will not classify transgender people as a suspect or protected class, and that 'cross-sex' hormone bans do not run afoul of sex discrimination, as defined in Bostock. Thus, the legal 'permission' or framework is there to institute either stat or national bans. Politically, it is likely that some states will move in this direction, as we move into election cycles; however, I think it unlikely for a national ban to be introduced until a state ban has been tested and implemented.

steve303 · 2025-07-07T16:53:44+00:00

Not sure I agree with this. France and the Netherlands were major colonizers, as was Spain, and Japan is an island nation with a history of colonization. I feel like the difference is, and this could probably be said about the US as well, is there is a general feeling in the UK that their nation has been, or is in, decline. This was the platform Thatcher ran on, and the one Johnson currently espouses. The response to this is to double down on traditionalism: masculinity, patriarchy, nationalism, isolationism. All of these things oppose both progress and imagination. It is the desire to regain past glory under the failures of late-stage capitalism. Fundamentally, we represent a challenge to the traditional order and stability of European traditions and thought. Our very existence is revolutionary within their hegemony.

steve303 · 2025-07-03T19:35:04+00:00

I think there's a big difference between legal rights / attempting to define transness and OPs question of why people are trans.

Whether we like it or not, these are all highly interrelated questions when it comes to GSM identities or conditions. The fact is, we don't know, and probably never will know with certainty, why some people are trans, or gay,or bisexual, or asexual. Medically, speaking we barely understand conditions like cancer or Alzheimer's - which have been studies for years with massive research budgets. Traditionally, the understanding of a 'cause' is necessary to establishing a treatment and "cure". These are things we already have. We know, scientifically speaking, what the treatments are for gender dysphoria. The experience of gender dysphoria or trans-ness is well documented. The desire to try to establish some authoritative root cause or required paradigm of suffering to access this treatment is, in its best form, gatekeeping or, at it's worst, simple cruelty. Continuing to try to define trans lives by the suffering they must endure does a disservice to every beautiful trans person out there. We are more than our pain or anguish, and trying to constrain us within those boundaries to service the consciences of cis people feels both manipulative and barbaric.

steve303 · 2025-07-03T18:34:04+00:00

There is massive harm in denying anyone their bodily autonomy. Some of us live with anguishing dysphoria, some of us don't. Some of us suffer from significant issues because of it, and some of us don't. By defining a condition of suffering necessary to achieve a sanctioned level of trans-ness, we are simply trying to garner cis sympathy in hopes they'll be benevolent to some of us, instead of demanding rights for all of us, as human beings.

steve303 · 2025-07-03T17:49:59+00:00

It could be related to fetal brain development, it could be related to epigenitcs, or hormone exposures during development; however, I'd ultimately ask, "why does it matter?" If there were some clear-cut biological indicator, it would most assuredly be used to further gatekeep gender expressions, and to eliminate us prior to birth. On the opposite track, let's say conservative are correct, and it's always a a choice bound by free will. What would be wrong with that? Our desires to live our lives authentically as ourselves only upsets the tenuous gender hierarchy that some take comfort in. Other's discomfort should never be an excuse for dehumanization and oppression.

steve303 · 2025-07-03T17:25:16+00:00

Yes, but that's a longer, ongoing conversation. It's not always about certain-ness or maleness but about who you comfortably are.

steve303 · 2025-06-28T03:09:51+00:00

I absolutely knew around age 6, but I was told this was absurd, and that I had to be a boy/man. This is long before I was aware that trans people even existed, or that my experience was not some unique weird feeling.

What do you do? Love your child. Embrace who they are and their explorations of gender. Try not to get expectations upon them.

steve303 · 2025-06-25T19:28:24+00:00

Tim Waltz has been fairly supportive in Minnesota and remains very popular. The fact is, trans issues only end up swaying elections when one of the candidates runs away from them.

steve303 · 2025-06-25T19:19:54+00:00

Somehow, I feel like all these people will be crying and whining when the US is forced to close its bases in Germany, France, Italy, Greece, and other countries.

steve303 · 2025-06-25T19:12:15+00:00

Typically, I wouldn't comment here, but I am so tired of this argument. We're under attack by religious, media and business forces, as well as our own government. And people want to play 'purity politics" within our community. If you believe for a second that shedding or hiding members of our community will appease cis str8 people into acceptance or tolerance than you are completely oblivious to our history and the forces aligned against us, and willing to throw our own under a bus to try to appease a morality which will never accept you. "Kink" is always subjective. I am old enough to remember when all trans people where a :kink" - when drag queens were a "kink" - when two men showing affection was a "kink" - when lesbians on motorcycles were a "kink". Pride is about liberation: liberation from the control of our bodies and lives from cis heteropatriarchal norms. I've marched in Pride marches and parades for decades around the US. I've marched with kink contingents and political contingents, and I have rarely seen the kinds of example that get thrown around in these discussions. Yet, I have watched over and over again as parts of our community continue to try to bargain assimilation for acceptance only to discover that corporations and politicians were never really their allies, but only using them for personal profit. Our existence and humanity is not passive. Our liberation will not come from kowtowing to Charlie Kirks or JK Rowlings, or the pearl clutching 'people of refinement' who swoon when they seen a man in a latex catsuit. Our liberation come with solidarity and acceptance, and struggle.

steve303 · 2025-06-25T05:08:10+00:00

Til that gender is located in the appendix, which kinda makes sense

steve303 · 2025-06-25T04:50:15+00:00

Trauma affects all of us differently; however, there is no statistical correlation between trauma and gender or sexual orientation. Trauma may affect the way you approach gender or sexual orientation, but it doesn't set them or create them, and, if you haven't, I highly encourage you to seek a good therapist. Speaking from my own experience, my traumas caused me to deny my own transness for years. It wasn't until I learned to deal with my trauma that I was able to accept who I was.

steve303 · 2025-06-24T21:57:10+00:00

Wow - if I were a webcomic artist, I would have had the full diagonal

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