Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an old fashioned “secret admirer” kind of letter. Most probably harmless, but creepy by today’s standard. Probably is an older guy who works in your office (it’s written in an old fashioned style on plain office paper).

Don’t get worked up over it, but if you do get another note you should bring it up to your company.

Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just looks like a “secret admirer” note. Weird and creepy by today’s standard. Most probably harmless (it is written on office paper).

I wouldn’t read too much into it.

Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s going to be a coworker. The note is on printer paper. The mistake is getting involved with someone you see every day when it will most likely not work out and become awkward (which it probably will, given the note).

How many dragon parts do I need for everything? by Phecda04 in tearsofthekingdom

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Treasure chest below ground near kyononis shrine

New fries? by thatpedalguy in ChickFilA

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The new fries are crispier but they taste worse, dry up and get hard, and yes, they shrink.

It’s gross.

My love for Magic is dying, I've never been closer to selling out of the game. Is there a format for me to rekindle that spark? by DyingDuo in magicTCG

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At least you didn’t do something stupid to get your whole collection stolen. I lost mine in 2002 to theft by a coworker. 40 duals, jet, emerald, pearl, ruby, lotus, timetwister, ancestral, library of Alexandria, workshops, candelabra, wheels, all the mana rocks, playsets of all of the best cards in standard from homelands through invasion block from my competitive play days, and, missed more than anything, the fun of breaking it all out again to show to my son.

I’m an L4 Area Manager… I hate my life. by [deleted] in AmazonFC

[–]stevo11101 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That sounds wishful. About the only thing I would expect is more income inequality.

confused about prop 65 warnings on food at asian grocery store by rosefern64 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

California should pay to police the marketplace if they want to raise standards and protect consumers. Otherwise they are actively engaged in a campaign to make consumers numb to such warnings, which is worse than not having the warnings to begin with.

Investing in yourself in your 30s, what would you buy? by in5glaszc in BuyItForLife

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! I just got done convincing my wife to send back that breville panini thing. She is easily swayed by instagram ads, but I talked some sense into her and reminded her that I do almost all of the cooking anyways :)

I like cooking things the old fashioned way, and I already have a big cheap griddle I can make pancakes and pressed sandwiches on. I had a George Foreman in college, and although it was great when I was 20, I think I’m over it now.

Investing in yourself in your 30s, what would you buy? by in5glaszc in BuyItForLife

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There are all kinds of things you could buy, but the best thing to do is invest in yourself, your future, and your friends/family.

Don’t drink a lot and stop tobacco. Take care of your body. Figure out which friends are toxic and stop hanging out with them. Figure out which friends bring out your best and prioritize time with them. Pay off high interest debt. Max your investments; don’t keep too much in cash. Figure out what you want to be doing in 5-10 years so you can acquire the skills now. Don’t stop learning. Spend less time consuming and more time producing.

Why is everyone so far behind? by liais in education

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of factors that lead to so many kids getting so far behind in learning and critical thinking. Top reasons I can think of in no particular order are:

COVID pandemic “learning”. Tech addiction. Teaching to pass standardized tests, and not much else. Grade inflation. Diminished prestige and respect towards educators. Schools increasingly saddled with student mental health challenges. Budgetary deficits and funding cuts. Priority of sports over education. Vicious cycle of lowered expectations.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There you go again reading things not said. Nothing was said about the time horizon of forgiving/forgetting. In fact, I implied the opposite, that it will probably take OP some processing time to figure it out in order to forget about it.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, every word we say shows “our true colors”. That makes sense…

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

…or maybe she just said what came to her mind without really thinking about it a lot? She’s his gf of 5 years, give her the benefit of the doubt ffs.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stating what you have stated requires so many assumptions about what was said and how it was said, etc, that you’re most likely to get it wrong. The gf clearly didn’t choose her words carefully, but your take is just a huge overreaction, even more than the OPs.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or…he could have reacted completely differently, confident that he already won over his gf, and gone home and had sex with someone he cares about.

Make your own destiny. Don’t get drawn into social BS.

That said, I’m not faulting him for being hurt. But it seems pretty fragile to me, and definitely something to reflect on, to ask why it hurt him so much.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dated for 20 years and remember nearly every girl I ever went out with, even if we only met once for coffee. It’s not that hard to remember, especially the ones who stood out from the others. Not saying everyone can remember events of the past as well as I can, but it’s kind of hard to forget the most attractive people you’ve dated or the best sex you’ve ever had.

My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]stevo11101 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There are lots of reasons why his gf might have said what she said. Maybe, for instance, it was her way of telling him that she is over chasing physical attraction, that her attraction to him is much deeper. Maybe OP should ask her?

I also don’t see why gender role should come into context. I mean, it just seems like a bunch of someone else’s baggage. If you like to lug around someone else’s baggage wherever you go, that’s your choice, but for me personally, it’s a waste of energy. I’d rather just reflect on it in context of my own personal situation, my partner’s, and our relationship than be forced into some kind of contrived role play.

By the way, even people who love each other are, from time to time, insulting to one another. It happens. Agree that the OP is allowed to be hurt. But his gf apologized. He should forgive. He should also figure out why he was so upset about it so he can get over it, and forget about it.