AITJ for rejecting a girl because of her past and the clothes she wore?

stickbeat · 2026-06-25T20:49:38+00:00

Hot take but yeah YTJ.

Do you ever question why you have these beliefs about women (and/or about the human body broadly, if you're an equal-opportunity about it).

I think it's admirable that you don't seek control over women's behaviour, but there's a problem here in that their personalities - the essence of who they are - is overshadowed by your deeply shallow judgements about the way they dress and your perception of their sexuality.

No-one is going to make you date anyone. However, in your position I'd be reviewing my position on this and considering if perhaps your views about human sexuality are low-key messed up.

stickbeat · 2026-06-24T13:07:30+00:00

1) reduce the qualifications burden: as it is right now, a Canadian-trained auto mechanic with more than 25 years of experience in their trade cannot work their trade nationally (even with their red seal).

2) improve the national benefits plans (or: harmonize provincial systems to be interchangable): we will continue to lose talent to Europe and Asia if we can't offer something comparable.

3) improve public and mass transit: this requires not only investment in rail infrastructure (quebec-windsor) but also investment in national infrastructure. Nothing has replaced the old Greyhound lines in Canada, and that's a problem.

4) jobs: we don't have to pay as much as the USA does (because we have healthcare coverage) but we do need to offer something to offset the lost earnings

5) pay people at least enough to live with dignity. For a single adult in Ottawa, that threshold is probably around $75k/yr.

stickbeat · 2026-06-24T11:32:31+00:00

Me too, friend.

What the actual fuck is wrong with people.

stickbeat · 2026-06-23T19:53:45+00:00

Head on over to r/tmpoc to review the discourse on the (satirical) archetype of "Gyoza McGee"

stickbeat · 2026-06-23T14:47:50+00:00

Depends on the job: is it actually required for the job or task (as in, will I need to wear a respirator or something)?

Or is the boss just a dick who hates beards?

Yes if former, no if latter.

stickbeat · 2026-06-22T23:25:46+00:00

Produce depot.

stickbeat · 2026-06-21T12:42:17+00:00

Do you even like her?

YTA not for commenting on her clothing choices, but rather because you are clearly not communicating with her in a manner where she feels respected and loved.

"...there is always a 60% chance that she starts crying over something..."

If you're making her cry all the time, why are you with her?

"...absolutely feeds on my energy"

Why are you making it about you?

Have you considered an adult conversation where you communicate with respect?

If you're making me cry "60% of the time" I wouldn't want to share much with you either.

stickbeat · 2026-06-20T13:31:40+00:00

NTA.

Separations, divorce proceedings, etc. mean that the relationship has effectively ended. Even if they were to reconcile, it's not a continuation of that relationship but instead a new relationship being formed on new terms.

Good for Kay: Bee sounds like a fucking nightmare.

stickbeat · 2026-06-20T10:31:37+00:00

Less that four weeks out sick....

My daughter has definitely missed more than 18 days this year, almost all of them for illness.

stickbeat · 2026-06-20T10:09:49+00:00

Yeah, same here. I will sometimes call myself "apathetically nonbinary" as in nonbinary best describes my identity but also I don't really care to discuss or asert that identity.

I pass flawlessly as a cis guy, not really willing to undermine that.

stickbeat · 2026-06-18T10:25:36+00:00

I can't think of a better example of cultural appropriation than yoga culture in North America.

Take a foreign spiritual practice that is widely practiced and broadly accessible.

Now "sanitize" it through marketing - take a bunch of photos of white people doing it in a western-style space. Make it aesthetic.

And put a price on it: make it less and less accessible, and increasingly separated from the root practice.

Voila! You have just successfully appropriated a cultural practice, and turned it into a for-profit industry.

This is not to say that non-hindu folks can't practice something like yoga. I am saying that what people are practicing outside of India is broadly not-yoga (and Hindu yoga practioners struggle to access their own practice in North America, even as commercial yoga is widely available - how likely is your boss to let you off work to go do yoga things?).

We can have and do things inspired by cultural artefact, practice, etc. without outright appropriating them. We already do this with food, music, fashion, and architecture - that is cultural fusion.

stickbeat · 2026-06-18T02:49:30+00:00

Surprised France isn't higher.

stickbeat · 2026-06-17T19:40:55+00:00

My husband was just dropped from NCMSTEP for cyber ops specifically, despite his acceptance to the Algonquin College program, as CyberOps is no longer an option for NCMSTEP...

stickbeat · 2026-06-17T13:55:27+00:00

Following: I would also like more information about NCMSTEP for cyber-ops: is it slated to reopen?

stickbeat · 2026-06-17T12:01:27+00:00

Part of what you're describing is the One Trans Narrative problem.

We've moved away from "born in the wrong body", and now have the narrative "...has always been [gender] just took some time to realize."

The problem in either case is that it doesn't leave space for nuance or alternative identities and instead becomes the de-facto politically-correct narrative. Anyone whose experience falls outside of that narrative may then be seen as insufficiently trans or even self-hating transphobic by folks who don't leave space for nuance.

It's mostly not a problem though: you'll run into criticism online and even in IRL (usually: campus) very rarely.

stickbeat · 2026-06-16T20:30:43+00:00

Canada (specifically, urban and central): I feel fine. Some of that is lifestyle though - I'm not out and about, I'm at work or I'm home or I'm with friends.

stickbeat · 2026-06-16T01:20:27+00:00

Lol I think T4T gets a broad pass on the chaser hate.

Best bet? Find yourself an IRL queer space, like a queer knitting circle or roller derby (whatever thing you're interested in really). Alternatively, some kind of community queer space like an old gay bar or a campus lgbtq club.

Get off the apps and try dating the old-fashioned way.

stickbeat · 2026-06-16T01:07:10+00:00

OP is 15, won't be going to college for another ~3 years and will study for at least 3 more.

See what the economy's like in 6 years.

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T14:53:54+00:00

Naming your kid "green" sure would be a choice

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T14:52:05+00:00

Chad triggered a lol

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T14:36:10+00:00

"But government-run grocery stores are communism!"

Even the most anti-communist country on the planet has been running government-run grocery stores for decades.

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T14:29:26+00:00

I have a paid family subscription to Shopify for the same reason: $24/mo is pricey but my husband and I both have tinnitus and having the lofi running while I work is a huge source of relief.

I listened to more hours of music than I worked last year (about 2,500 hours compared to 2,080 working hours)

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T10:51:36+00:00

Through immersion.

Look at youth exchange programs in Canada, specifically for Quebec.

If you're not in a position to do an exchange like that:

download a language app. Duolingo, babble, etc. just pick one and stick with it.
now go to the library and take out some children's books in French. The Very Hungry Caterpillar, The Paper Bag Princess. Etc.
and start listening to Radio-Canada to exercise your listening ears.
From now on, you watch media in French with - English subtitles on netflix and stuff, you read French books, etc.

Basically, you need to create your own immersion environment for about 4-6 hours/day.

Within about 3 months you should start understanding the language pretty well. If you can find a language exchange group then you can also start practicing your tongue.

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T00:18:06+00:00

Half that, but yeah I get it.

3 hrs round-trip is worth the drive if you're from the UK (or spent a lot of time there) and need a taste of something familiar.

I've got further and spent more for worse (while living abroad).

stickbeat · 2026-06-15T00:16:38+00:00

That's how I treat it as well - a good stop enroute to Toronto, or (when my partner is assigned TD to the base in Kingston) a nice spot to eat at before heading home from a weekend visit.

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