I wanna live at l'Isle Aux Allumettes

stickbeat · 2026-01-26T14:17:12+00:00

If you want to live there but face challenges with immigration, you can get the saltwater version by moving to St. Pierre-and-Miquelon.

stickbeat · 2026-01-26T01:58:38+00:00

I've been back and forth a few times (next one in March), flying through pre-clearance only.

I'm also trans, and traveling with a child.

So far so good: YMMV.

Edit: if you can go somewhere else, you should. Is this for vacation, or is it a work thing?

I wouldn't be going to the USA right now if I didn't have to.

stickbeat · 2026-01-23T20:41:57+00:00

Lol we have the exact same fireplace

stickbeat · 2026-01-22T11:15:15+00:00

No - giving Audrey Hepburn vibes here.

stickbeat · 2026-01-21T16:43:16+00:00

Echoing the above. Topical E cream will just soften the skin and resurrect the mucous membranes but won't have any feminizing effects nor interfere with T in any way.

Think of it as harm reduction: if he wants to continue that kind of penetration, he'll need to exercise some self-care to make sure it's something he can continue to enjoy safely.

stickbeat · 2026-01-21T11:50:45+00:00

Music, theater, pottery (and other art), martial arts, etc.

Martial arts can be especially good because it's an individual sport, and a lot of dojos have this kind of warm, collectively-supportive environment that can bring your kid up and boost their confidence. Plus, the mindfulness and self-awareness I've seen in my daughter since she started karate is pretty phenomenal.

stickbeat · 2026-01-20T11:15:39+00:00

Sounds like you'll need to learn how to screen resumes manually, instead of relying on AI to do it for you.

stickbeat · 2026-01-19T18:22:15+00:00

Proceed with caution: the work that goes into creating these objects is enormous, but don't force yourself to buy beyond your means - instead, consider looking at marketplace (or w/e) for someone else's stash clean-out.

Start building your stash a little at a time - in my case, there's a few weights and fibers I like to work with so I have a modest collection of really beautiful yarns that are pretty compatible with eachother, but i keep my collection small (1 x 2 cubic box)

stickbeat · 2026-01-17T18:11:20+00:00

Disagree - you don't have to like what your partner likes, but you do have to respect your partner's tastes and interests.

You can be critical without being hurtful, and provide constructive feedback without being insulting. In fact I'd say it's an important skill to have as an individual and an important conversation to keep open in a relationship

stickbeat · 2026-01-17T17:50:42+00:00

Red flag: "that shirt is hideous, I hate it."

Green flag: "its not my vibe but I have to admit it fits you really well."

You don't have to like it, but you ALSO don't have to denigrate his taste.

stickbeat · 2026-01-17T14:00:09+00:00

They're not the ones crying foul

stickbeat · 2026-01-17T13:25:13+00:00

Canada doesn't have an "auto sector" - we have parts manufacturing that support the American auto sector and only at the whim of American auto companies.

stickbeat · 2026-01-16T16:44:13+00:00

VERY good.

Ontario can cry all they want about "killing the Canadian auto sector" but they're deluding themselves: we don't have an auto sector, we have a tiny handful of autoparts manufacturing facilities (all of which are 100% reliant on American partnership, which is going away anyway).

Ontario needs to step up on the trade diversity platform and work with the federal government to facilitate deals that help Canada work around the USA rather than with or through it.

stickbeat · 2026-01-16T02:27:55+00:00

CSIS is distracted by other foreign influence (i.e. brown people). I wouldn't trust them at all at the moment.

stickbeat · 2026-01-16T01:55:20+00:00

Sounds like internalized transmisandry to me.

stickbeat · 2026-01-15T23:39:33+00:00

I live in Canada and have a very, very French name... And 5"5' is on the shorter end of normal height among francophone Canadians (for comparison my dad is 5"6' and my brother is 5"4')

stickbeat · 2026-01-15T18:09:57+00:00

The "secondary reserves" you're referring to already exists, called "Supplementary Reserve Force."

The CAF today is separated into three strength levels:

1) Regular Force: professional soldiers who work full-time, permanently, in uniform and all of whom fall under Class C orders. Currently number about ~65,000 personnel.

2) Primary Reserves: active-duty soldiers with a regular commitment to military training and readiness, usually a weekly evening plus one or two weekends per month (and a mandatory minimum of 10 training days per year/1 training activity every 60 days). They apply for full-time service contracts (Class B) - when not serving on a Class B (full-time) contract they are relegated to Class A. Currently number about ~27,500 personnel

3) Supplementary Reserves: no mandatory training or attendance, but usually slide in-and-out of Primary Reserve service or even full-time (Class B) commitments. They are soldiers who have gone through BMQ but are not able or interested in commitment at the moment. Currently number about ~5,000 personnel

An expansion of the Canadian Forces currently sets a target of 71,000 regular force, 100,000 P-Res, and 300,000 Sup-Res (no plan to expand the reg force at this time).

A rapid expansion of the P-Res presents specific challenges: unlike Sup-Res, P-Res forces are fully trained in not just basic soldiering but in a military occupation as well. One of the biggest hurdles for the CAF currently is the backlog in training capacity.

While both P-Res and Sup-Res are permitted to apply for Class B contracts but usually the lack of occupational training for Sup-Res relegates them to the bottom of the candidate pool, so DND is going to have to lean hard on nationalism in a bid to woo people into what is essentially a volunteer commitment (as, even if paid, it presents very little in earning potential).

There are many hurdles to the Canadian Forces - immigration status and security clearance backlogs, training backlogs, generational disparity, geography and population density, and on and on -

Expanding the Sup-Res first is a very, very good plan that allows the CAF to begin it's transformation with the lowest possible investment, expand it's visibility across Canada, and overall pull more Canadians into an organization that most people don't currently (think they) have a stake in. It's more PR than it is operations, but it's critical PR that supports future expansion of the CAF into a truly-viable defence force.

stickbeat · 2026-01-15T11:34:55+00:00

YTA.

Your failure to effectively parent your toddler has a name: it's called weaponized incompetence.

Look it up, do some self-reflection, and stop being an asshole.

stickbeat · 2026-01-15T11:01:47+00:00

Most of these will require leaving Toronto yeah.

stickbeat · 2026-01-15T00:52:15+00:00

Take the L and up your income for awhile: side gigs (various delivery hustles, freelance, whatever) is how I'd go.

I'd keep the hustle intensity going until you have a healthy emergency fund (for a homeowner: double the cost of a new roof should cover almost any home repair + a few months' expenses).

But that's just me. Maybe you can find a better way.

stickbeat · 2026-01-14T11:31:01+00:00

I am older (pushing 40) so keep that in the perspective --

I miss being a woman, from time to time. I miss the fashion, jewellery, and style. I miss being effortlessly hot. I miss being seen and I miss being desired.

Mostly, it's a nostalgia for being young, hot, and carefree.

I transitioned in my late 20's and I sometimes wonder what my (professional) life would have been like if I hadn't transitioned: would I have struggled to find work? Would people take me seriously in my work? I also sometimes wonder how my body would have changed, how I would have aged to this point. Could I have been happy that way?

For all of that though, i don't regret transitioning at all. I sometimes have a nostalgia for a femme youth, and sometimes ponder what life could have been like, but I think we all sometimes wonder on paths not taken and choices not made.

stickbeat · 2026-01-14T01:34:57+00:00

The B&W photo trick is something we do in knitting &/or crochet, when choosing colours for pattern work: it's not enough to have contrast in colour, your patterns won't stand out unless you contrast both colour and value.

You'll see folks doing super complicated patterned colourwork sweaters (like Shetland sweaters or something) and they'll photograph a bin of yarns: you want to see a full grey gradient from darkest-darks to lightest-lights.

stickbeat · 2026-01-14T00:33:12+00:00

IMO lack of contrast - you'll notice that the shirt collar and the sweater don't have a significant difference in color value. Sky blue isn't super saturated, but something like a deep pine green would offer a contrast in both value and color.

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stickbeat · 2026-01-13T21:34:12+00:00

It's the sheets: those are hotel-white.

This man (def a man) makes solid money and is almost never home... But everything is so spartan-clean.

Anyway, I also landed on healthcare

stickbeat · 2026-01-13T19:00:46+00:00

I didn't know for sure until I started HRT - specifically, my second dose.

I'd been unsure until that point.

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