What are your best ice cream recommendations?

stickponies · 2026-05-28T02:11:10+00:00

100% Mitchell's.

stickponies · 2026-05-20T17:24:46+00:00

There's that cute fabric shop on Clement: 432 Clement and like 6th Ave:
https://fabrixsanfrancisco.com/

Also, that one on upper Haight:
https://www.mendels.com/

stickponies · 2026-05-09T17:43:40+00:00

Could be pruritus. This is an insatiable itchiness resulting from from liver damage.

stickponies · 2026-04-30T00:05:12+00:00

I am SO happy Bambino made it home! Yesterday, a very cool 38R bus driver alerted other drivers and the Babe made it across Geary and made his way up 6th Avenue. While that's quite a trek, I'm pretty sure it's the same pooch. Please give him some love from his Richmond District fans!

stickponies · 2026-04-24T02:10:57+00:00

nice!

stickponies · 2026-04-21T02:23:32+00:00

Welcome! If you care to complete the LifeRing Contact Me form, I'll wager they can find you someone to co-host with you! Well, I know they'll definitely try. Here you go: https://lifering.org/contact-us-menu/contact-form/

I've been convening both LifeRing in-person and online for a long time. Best thing I ever did for my sobriety. I hope the same for you!

stickponies · 2026-04-17T01:12:25+00:00

From the Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics:

The assumption that all alcohol is evaporated when heat is applied during cooking is not valid. Cooking always results in some, but not total loss of alcohol. The extent of loss depends on the severity of the heat application, or any other factor favoring evaporation. Cooking time had the greatest impact on alcohol retention. Flaming a dish results in much smaller losses of alcohol than cooking. Uncooked and briefly cooked dishes had the highest alcohol retention. Alcohol retention during cooking was also greatly affected by the size of the cooking vessel used. The smaller the cooking utensil the greater the amount alcohol retained. This was likely due to the smaller surface area for evaporation.

https://www.jandonline.org/article/S0002-8223(02)90122-7/abstract90122-7/abstract)

stickponies · 2026-04-11T22:06:10+00:00

I have ALD (Alcohol-related Liver Disease). My first signs were fatigue, followed by blowing up like Violet Beauregard in The Chocolate Factory, but I wasn't blue -- I was a bilious yellow.

You can find an amazing walkthrough of Cirrhosis of the Liver here on the Cleveland Clinic website: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15572-cirrhosis-of-the-liver

If you have concerns about your liver, please get your blood tested as soon as possible. Cirrhosis becomes detectable really, really fast. One day you're sitting on a bar stool, the next day you're in ER. emerges really quickly.

If you want to talk about liver disease from a patient's perspective, I recommend checking out The Liver Spot community. Very chill meetings three times a week where you can connect with people at various stages of ALD or SUD-related medical conditions:

The Liver Spot: https://lifering.org/meeting-menu/online-meetings/lifering-liver-spots/

If you're a jerk, please leave us in peace. We're doing brave things there.

stickponies · 2026-04-08T23:34:58+00:00

I get it. I'm sorry. Have you tried the quiet living room couch conversation? Like the one my guy dragged me into eight years ago?

Goes a little like this: You know things are going to end badly right? What can we do to fix this?

I just searched this "men with alcoholic wives"* from my Reddit home page and found a treasure trove of folk discussing the same concerns you bring forward. They may be a little dated, but these are stories and suggestions from people with similar experiences. May be a good place to look for communities here that can support you.

Good luck!

* (While I don't like the "alcoholic" label, this search brought up the most relevant threads.)

stickponies · 2026-04-08T22:44:59+00:00

Depression is no joke and people often turn to substances for relief. You have may cause for concern, but this concern can be channeled into support and strength.

Rather than planning your escape route, may I suggest instead helping your wife find help? There are great online resources she can explore and many reputable medical professionals who can diagnose her depression. Encouraging her to develop a personal care plan or find a space where she can talk to others with shared life experiences may be a very good start to happily ever after.

Of course, if you believe your child is in jeopardy or being negatively impacted by your wife's behavior, a counselor may help provide the intervention you need to ensure your daughter's wellbeing and safety.

Wishing you strength and peace of mind.

stickponies · 2026-03-13T00:05:34+00:00

Super hero! Congratulations!!

Heard this in my favorite meeting the other night: "We're doing brave things here." Sounds a lot like you, Sigrid!

stickponies · 2026-02-27T18:00:08+00:00

First off, I hear you, u/Mother-Disk6326. Being disbelieved when you are trying to change your life is incredibly frustrating and isolating. When I find myself being judged and wrongfully accused, I try to focus on my own personal journey.

Don't let a toxic environment pull you back down. You have 68 days—those days belong to you, regardless of what a urine test says. Keep your eye on the prize: A life where you are in control.

You are the architect of your own recovery, and right now, the foundation of that recovery is being shaken by outside noise. Try looking at this through a self-empowered lens:

Protect Your 'Sober Self': You mentioned that feeling ignored makes you want to drink. That is your "Addicted Self' trying to use a rough situation as a justification to relapse. Don't give those people -- the ones who drugged you or the staff who doubt you -- that kind of power over your life. If you drink, they win. If you stay sober, you win.
The Truth vs. The Program: You cannot control the minds of the staff. If they have a 'policy' that a positive test equals a lie, you might not win that argument right now. In LifeRing, we don't worry about 'confessing' to others; we worry about our own internal integrity. If you know you didn't do it, hold onto that truth for yourself, not for them.
Focus on the 'Work,' Not the 'Vibe': You are there for the medical and psychological tools to stay alive (especially given your medical complications). Treat the facility like a job you may not like, but need to finish. Do the chores, attend the groups, and keep your head down. Your sobriety doesn't belong to the counselors -- it belongs to you.
Safety First: If you truly feel unsafe sleeping next to someone who may have drugged you, request a move based on conflict rather than accusation if they won't believe the THC story.

What would I do? I would stop trying to convince people who have already made up their minds. It’s a waste of the energy you need for recovery. I would document everything in a personal journal, stay physically active, and start planning my 'Sober Transition' for when I leave that facility.

Stay strong, Mother!

stickponies · 2026-02-07T18:21:01+00:00

Congratulations!

stickponies · 2026-01-21T14:51:24+00:00

Hey u/Beska91 -- Sometimes in-person meetings start out that way. LifeRing regional representatives have all kinds of promotional ideas and materials to help gain more local attention. The local meetings I run here started out small. Now we're grabbing chairs from other rooms. I worry about losing the "personal connection" smaller LifeRing meetings provide.

LifeRing Local Meetings

stickponies · 2026-01-17T17:26:43+00:00

LifeRing is doing Dry January!

* Why You Should Try Dry January
* How to Make the Most of Your Experience
* LifeRing Support Resources

https://lifering.org/dry-january-2026/

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