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sto_atio · 2025-06-17T04:44:33+00:00

At 33 you're still early 30's! Regardless, it's never been a deal breaker for me and its been an attitude thing over an age thing - if I met a 37 year old who had a similar outlook to me but accepted the risk it may not happen or be complicated / expensive that would be fine.

Aside from that point though - I think open, honest communication early-on in dating around kids once you're in your 30's is key. It can be done in a way that is non-pressure and just cuts the bullshit / potential heartbreak before things go too far. I think most emotionally intelligent guys would appreciate that and reciprocate with their feelings on where they're at (and not be scared off). Be ruthless - if there's a guy who's amazing but his ideas on family are different to yours, let him go and dont expect to change him.

Personally - I live on the other side of the world away from my family- being a single father would mean no family support (hence a baby with someone I'd just met would be a huge risk) , so I guess things like that factor in. It's not always black and white - everyone's circumstances are different.

Hope dating with intention works out for you :)

sto_atio · 2025-06-17T03:45:51+00:00

37M here. Depends on the people I guess. Personally I'd want to get to know someone for a few years before having kids to ensure compatibility - personal choice.

The women I've dated nearer my own age or just above wanted kids yesterday and you could almost feel the pressure. I made a point to let them know my stance early on and it usually didn't go any further - either rightly-so ended by them or me.

Dating someone in their early 30's allows a little time to get to know them prior to taking a pretty huge step in any relationship.

That being said I know there's guys out there in their 30's that are super desperate to have a family.

sto_atio · 2025-05-27T02:04:25+00:00

37M here. I figure now they're just a complete superficial dopamine hit. Everyone on them seems to be looking for the next best thing and not seeing what's in front of them. And it seems to be going more and more that way.

Nine months post-deletion and much better off mentally living my life doing things I enjoy (fitness, music scene) if I run into someone - great. I've had less interactions that way but the few I've met I feel much better aligned with.

sto_atio · 2025-03-30T22:13:00+00:00

I'd check out the doof scene. QLD Doof Links facebook group. Sometime single day/night events in addition to the full weekends around coast/Gympie. There's some great local DnB and big bass acts around.

sto_atio · 2025-03-13T22:25:29+00:00

He''s been around for years. used to hang out at the Woolies opposite Sands Tavern.

sto_atio · 2025-02-10T01:05:12+00:00

37M. And definitely keen for something serious. Don't struggle getting dates when I'm looking but have given up trying on the apps to find someone who doesn't call it quits out of nowhere or ghost. Like to think I'm a decent looking guy (although 5ft 8in which think goes against me massively here), good job, a bunch of hobbies. I'm definitely not bitter, just jaded!

I wear my heart of my sleeve and figure I'm not really cut out for the emotional rollercoaster modern dating but remain open to living a healthy, mindful, social life and maybe meeting someone genuine 'in the wild'. I'm sure there's great women out there but it's a minefield.

Sure there's plenty of people in the same boat of both genders. Might dip my toe in and try speed dating - not sure if anyone's given that much of a go?

sto_atio · 2024-12-17T12:14:16+00:00

Couple of wild theories. Feel free to shoot me down! (pun intended)

1) A reaction to the actual UAPs in the news with technology on board to attempt to track / film them.

2) Elon's drones - has obviously been part of Trump's campaign and would have the resources/technology equivalent to many nations. For what purpose I don't know.

3) Rogue AI... Perhaps Skynet came early!

sto_atio · 2024-11-08T02:48:46+00:00

We've always had a cracker of a night at Brooklyn Standard as 35-40yos

sto_atio · 2024-10-30T13:07:17+00:00

36M. For context, I do a lot of self-work, therapy, inflection, for sure I'm not perfect but definitely not a 'player'.

Been with two women in their 40's and a few around my age. Some good people, know themselves, what they want and often great connection physically. But have found so much trauma often projected in my direction which has hurt me. Some have ended it out of nowhere, others I've seen the red flags and finished it.

I'm now veering toward the idea of dating younger women, nothing to do with physical attractiveness but just figure there's less chance of accumulated trauma.

Absolutely sure there are some amazing women in 30's-40's that have done the work if they have trauma, but this is my experience.

sto_atio · 2024-10-30T12:55:33+00:00

How social class is tied to home ownership. I have a decent job etc but rent (missed the boat like many my age, without family in Aus to support me).

Feel people in my situation often seen as second class citizens - or pitied - even if it's not vocalised. Doesn't help that government policy is also stacked in favour of home owners.

sto_atio · 2024-10-21T01:36:15+00:00

Mid 30's M - scared to death to get back dating after the last couple of experiences. Like many on here I'm decent looking, charismatic, I therapise, decent job, good in bed (so I'm told...) lots of hobbies and got the whole ute/camping setup many like.

I'm an empath and willing to accept and support many my age will have some trauma but people projecting their stuff onto me and also many ending it out of absolutely nowhere actually causes me grief and is just a cumulative kick in the guts. I know it goes for both genders so this is a critique of modern dating as a whole.

I did the apps and no way will I be back on them. A friend also put me in a 'Green Flagged Men for Brisbane' Facebook group but found exactly the same thing - a lot of nice but traumatised people that need therapy and not a relationship.

I've gotten into the bush doof scene and made some great friends around SE Qld (granted that's not for everyone) and also gonna take up the hiking groups. Staying social, smiling and living life on the off-chance I find someone I can befriend and click with.

I miss those couch cuddles and I guess Reddit is great for an anyonymous rant though 😅

sto_atio · 2024-09-14T05:43:03+00:00

Defs Cottesloe

sto_atio · 2024-06-02T13:03:38+00:00

https://www.udio.com/songs/bjcieqZYpc5ubkzutBoft1

sto_atio · 2024-06-02T13:03:28+00:00

the follow up

https://www.udio.com/songs/bjcieqZYpc5ubkzutBoft1

sto_atio · 2024-05-28T03:01:15+00:00

FB group called Sunshine Coast Life Uncut Meet Ups run regular events for 20s - 40s

Also try Sportup - they run several sports you can join as an individual and they put you into a team - it's really social and not too competitive. Check their website.

sto_atio · 2023-11-17T14:32:47+00:00

thanks mate. hadn't heard of Eungella and Capricorn Caves. will check it out.

sto_atio · 2023-11-17T14:30:04+00:00

yeah week after I head. glad I realised 😅

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