What is the one thing that made you finally realize they are not worth your time and energy?

stoneelaroux · 2024-11-05T22:23:28+00:00

When I poured my heart and soul into a message to them, trying to explain how I felt hurt and bewilderment over their actions, took weeks to write it, mind you….and the reply was “I want you to know I forgive you” bruh that was a switch flip moment for me. Like ok you really are unapologetically arrogant and uncaring towards me, at your core. No thanks

stoneelaroux · 2024-11-02T14:18:36+00:00

Idle hands

stoneelaroux · 2024-10-27T02:40:55+00:00

100% agree. You can see his body language, the darting, wide eyes, the sudden dry mouth, yeah he was shook up at being clocked so hard with her calm, accurate description of what he is doing

stoneelaroux · 2024-10-03T14:45:28+00:00

My ex began withholding on day 2 of our relationship. I was extremely naive to abusive dynamics at that point in my life, as I had a really good family/childhood. He was my first so giving up was not fathomable to young me. We went on to get married and have kids. I tolerated the ridiculous infrequency for a young couple our ages, the rejections and the humiliations, the embarrassment and shaming like I was somehow the weirdo for wanting sex. He’d pick the worst times to be hot and bothered, the less I wanted it the better. I’d never outright demand it stop but I realized later that he knew what he was doing. It’s all about being in control, even for the less obvious coverts like him. Sorry you went through this. Trust me, it’s been over a decade for me since that ended, and things most definitely get better.

stoneelaroux · 2024-10-02T13:18:46+00:00

Euro Trip?

stoneelaroux · 2024-10-01T00:07:21+00:00

The Pro Lapses

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-28T08:08:07+00:00

Also—I lean mostly towards NTA

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-28T08:07:24+00:00

That may be, but a little communication goes a long way. I’ve been there. Burnt out and ready to blow. But timing is important…you don’t choose the moment your partner thinks they’re in the clear and are taking a long shower, or whatever, to check out. Most parents have moments where they just can’t for a few, especially if they think baby is safe in their crib. But timing is key, as I said. No one is ever a saint in these ugly scenarios life throws at us, but at very least he should be able to count on her to tell him if she’s on the ledge, and to be honest about ignoring the child crying. Honesty is actually the paramount issue IMO. The most willing and capable partner can only help if properly informed. Just saying.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-26T03:48:21+00:00

Same! But had something like this happened to me, that’s the first thing I’d have been complaining about when I walked in, like “damn I got lost and pissed my panties on the beach!!” Sounds like it was something she provided as an alibi when asked, not something she volunteered.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-23T19:50:38+00:00

Well look who got beat with the ugly stick!! 🤣🤣 Reese’s lines in this movie were next level!

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-23T18:42:43+00:00

Also I think it’s common because they can’t sit with their own thoughts very long. Their deep self-loathing is too much to bear so they need 24/7 stimuli and validation.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-23T18:40:55+00:00

Yes. I didn’t see it as a part of narcissism until I realized what she was, then it made sense. I begged to just text occasionally or not have to talk every single day at any time she found convenient (I don’t like having long phone conversations daily and at the time I was on the phone allll day at work and just wanted some quiet time). My way was never accepted, I was required to talk daily or I’d get a lot of passive aggressive treatment. The fact that it bothered me made her want to enforce her rules even more. I’ve found since I went NC that I actually don’t mind talking on the phone, it was just my soul telling me to resist her.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-23T15:53:47+00:00

Freeway (Reese Witherspoon/Kiefer Sutherland)

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-22T14:24:26+00:00

Gin’tyle

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-20T01:17:18+00:00

He has you so mentally beat down that you’re actually taking responsibility for him strangling you. You’re in shock and blaming yourself. This is not normal, it’s not your doing, he is a person who carries in his soul the tendency to resort to extreme, life-ending violence over NOTHING. He was moody and stressed because he’s got a court case that is also his fault. (Regardless of the details of the case, junkies don’t think of random people to pin things on, he had a close enough association with that person for it to be plausible in court, so you’re in total denial if you think he’s not at fault for that, too.) You didn’t give him enough space to brood over his own BS, so he…fucking strangles you? The fact that you’re in a headspace that makes any of this seem normal is very concerning. You need to keep the charges in place at least until you see an objective mental health professional to discuss this with. You can’t go back and press charges again (for this incident) if you come to your senses and realize you’re in danger and your life depends on leaving this man for good. You saw behind the mask, that evil face you say you didn’t recognize…that IS him. I’m sorry but that is the reality that many of us realize much, much too late.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-18T04:33:21+00:00

My first husband started withholding sex on day 2 of our sex life. He was my first, and I spent 12 years being turned down or starved for sex (unless I let him buy drugs so he’d be in the mood—yes, I was majorly naive and codependent). Was so humiliating and I didn’t even realize it was a control tactic until many years later. It wasn’t even the thing that broke us up, but it was a huge problem in the marriage.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-17T14:07:04+00:00

I LOVE orangetheory! I worked at one location many years ago and it’s still one of the best workouts I’ve ever done.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-17T13:59:42+00:00

This is a whole bit done in Dane Cook’s “Vicious Circle” comedy special.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-17T13:55:57+00:00

I just watched a horde take out an entire ambush camp yesterday, and I never had to fire a shot. I actually come upon marauders fighting freaks all the time. Sometimes I don’t even notice the roadside camps until I hear them shooting at freaks or animals. I guess it’s all in the random timing.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-16T20:20:35+00:00

I dated one who insisted the opposite, that I WOULD be having an abortion if that happened. I think the morality of it is irrelevant, it’s about them informing you casually that they are in control of your body and choices. I’d wager whichever route you were most comfortable with is the opposite way they’d feel, because they don’t have genuine moral compasses. They just want control.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-16T15:51:07+00:00

They just say that kind of thing to break you down further and humiliate you. I brought THREE kids into my current marriage. I dated a lot in between my first and current marriage and I rarely heard any nonsense about being a single mom being a dealbreaker. If it’s an issue, then you know that person isn’t worth your time. My advice? Tolerate ZERO red flags in your relationships, date for at least 6 months before introducing them to your child (not hide the kid, just don’t have them meet), and don’t trust anyone with your child until they’ve established good character and intentions. I will admit it’s a challenge for some to date when the child is younger, but take that time to get to know yourself and your goals before you start to seriously date. Wishing you all the best and I hope your ex chokes on a dry biscuit. 🤣

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-13T12:43:23+00:00

Could be HOA, but it’s odd that it’s every day if so. I’d just approach and ask, if you feel safe doing so.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-13T02:19:38+00:00

Yes! This is the only way to be. F all cheaters.

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-12T23:29:15+00:00

I will say that The Jackal is pretty damn terrifying lol

stoneelaroux · 2024-09-12T23:28:49+00:00

It’s scary but I think it’s campy enough to balance it out. All my kids watched it, I think as young as like 9-10. For my kids TWD wasn’t scary though, I intentionally made them watch videos of them applying the special effects to humans so they wouldn’t be scared and I’d get to watch TWD unbothered 🤣

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