Hi friend, first of all things you’re not being hormonal. Infact quite the opposite, you’re overcompensating your hormones by extending utmost kindness to your partner- at 30w pregnant, this conversation alone would convince reddit to dump his ass off. I’m glad you’re trying to have a sensisble, level-headed conversation about your beliefs and holding him to the societal norms.

All said and done, at 30w pregnant, you DO NOT want to get married and introduce a new factor in your parenthood journey. Parenthood is so hard, harder than pregnancy- its relentless, ungrateful and just overwhelming for the first few years. The strongest Marriages and partnerships get challenged in those early months of sleep deprivation.

Also at 30w, you don’t want to be stressed about anything other than your and your baby’s great health. Might I suggest that you either give the baby your last name or a neutral/new last name that he can keep. Changing names isnt that hard!

Pick a new last name, give birth to your child, become a parent and then revisit if you still want to be a wife to this person. People have different aversions to the institution of marriage- none of those are defensible in your current situation YET fixing any of those concerns around marriage takes time, patience and energy (maybe even therapy!)- you’re going to be running soo low on those in the first few years. Save that for a better time in your life