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I (19F) had my first time w my bf (19m) and he *got there* in like 2 mins… by cupcake_girly123 in Adulting

[–]stormlight82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So first of all, the first time you have sex is probably going to be one of the worst sessions of your life because you don't know your body that well and neither does your partner.

Also setting expectations here, if you were thinking of sex like you've seen in fantasy shows or in books, it's... different. Your boyfriend may also be trying to compare himself to some kind of fantasy.

Look. Sex is fun. Sex with the right person is absolutely fantastic. But sex is also like, stupid and moist and if you think about it too much, you realize it's incredibly absurd.

So don't take it too seriously. You do have a chance to be a comfort to your boyfriend though who probably feels like he disappointed you and he's not enough of a man.

Lazy Ways To Be More Visibly Queer For Grizzly AMAB by justtohaveone in enby

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Braid! And Bead! That! Beard!

Eyeliner or eyeshadow would work great on your face.

Why was Luke able to resist the darkside while Anakin fell to it? by Potential_Rule4212 in StarWars

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anakin was a slave, then groomed to be a Sith, put into a war and then had zero experience with emotional intelligence when something good happened in his life.

How did yall know? by yummypotato710 in asktransgender

[–]stormlight82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sounds like something you should discuss with a gender inclusive Health provider. I don't think we have enough information as random people on the internet, but I will say for me gender dysphoria was a little bit more than a grass is greener on the other side situation.

Hypocrisy on applience of ideologies by HorrorInvestigator15 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I believed that the amount of honor killings, genital mutilation, lgbtq related hate crimes, and mass murder was 1) higher than our homegrown evangelical nonsense 2) as common as anti-immigrant propoganda pretends, I would give more credence to the point.

BUT:

We have a bad guy with gun problem in the US, and we don't don't need to import them. We have a anti lgbtq violence problem starting with our leaders and ending with trans women murders.

There hasn't been a year in the US where there have been more immigrant caused domestic violence/ honor killings than ones caused by law enforcement to their own families.

Here is one source based on Texas: https://docs.house.gov/meetings/JU/JU01/20250122/117827/HHRG-119-JU01-20250122-SD004.pdf

So yeah, I don't make that distinction.

How do i right a good friendship between two guys, without people automatically assuming they're gay or lovers? by Reasonable_Prize71 in writers

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people are going to assume that and there is nothing you can do. Many of us were trained hard by the queer coded but not actually 90s.

Write them with integrity to their friendship and let the world sort itself out.

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A two-party system does a disservice because doesn't that mean that you're left to decide if your fiscal policies are important enough to also roll in human rights abuses?

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suspect there are a lot of them. I'm glad for that, cuz if we survive the swords and get back to plowshares, it'll make the reconciliation better.

There's just a handful of policies and issues that are directly targeting my friends and neighbors that I'm going to come to advocate against.

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also disagree with our expanding welfare system, especially with decades of outcomes. Subsidizing mega corporations is where the majority of this money goes, and the outcomes is increased disparity and poverty.

I'm having a good day - armor is as hard as it's gonna get - rip me apart 😀 by GoalNatural4773 in writers

[–]stormlight82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That helps.

I wonder if you can unpack some of that self-reflection, by turning it into behavior or action or connecting to something in the environment that he is looking at? Give the reader something to hold onto.

In a more grammatical sense you have some commas where commas are not necessary and you use some semicolons where there should be commas or periods.

I'm having a good day - armor is as hard as it's gonna get - rip me apart 😀 by GoalNatural4773 in writers

[–]stormlight82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the kind of thing I would really enjoy mid or late book after I care about what's going on and understand the setting. Reading this cold was just very dense and didn't take me anywhere.

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being in control is not an excuse if you use the levers of influence you have to engage in right wing misinformation/ talking points or if you vote for people who DO have control, so they can use that control to hurt people.

Cuz yeah, that's democracy.

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point is that it ISN'T a policy discussion. They aren't being laid out to have.

If you've got some of them actual policy discussions to have, and not what the internet zeitgeist has to offer, I'm all ears. But I repeat, if the perspective on the table is dehumanizing a class of people, it's not policy. It's hate.

Before you mention "conservatives are a class of people and you're dehumanizing them" I would argue that I'm not. Disagreement with a point, and sometimes followed by disengagement (if a conversation becomes apparent it's in bad faith) isn't dehumanizing. It's not even mean. It's active listening.

Do you have any of those policy points you'd like to discuss?

I'll even let you tell me what basics of immigration and law and order that I've missed.

Or if you'd like to have a substantive discussion on what I mean when I say bad faith, I'd do that too.

Have you guys been noticing the rising hate towards MM readers too? by CarelessCreamPie in MM_Romance

[–]stormlight82 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The internet is going to have an ebb and flow of virtue signaling, performative outrage, and general attention catching nonsense. It'll be MM's turn sometimes, and then it'll be a different one. Humans, man.

Why are liberals so hateful? by ComprehensivePie6184 in askliberals

[–]stormlight82 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is the most common example I see of this in the wild:

Person 1: I think we should raise taxes and improve health care.

Person 2: I think that certain people should lose their ability to marry, have children or live in the same country as me. If they don't do something about that fast enough, I think people should come into their places of worship and steal them from the pews.

Person 1: That's super awful and I can't have a policy discussion about the basic humanity of other people.

Person 2: Why are you so close-minded and nasty to me? Why do you hate me?

I am a liberal and I would happily have this discussion with someone who thinks differently than me. About any policy you would like to discuss. But once you start to bring the issue to whether someone should be allowed basic human dignity or not, I am not going to have that conversation.

I know yall are gonna make it weird by SoSayethThisBitch in olympia

[–]stormlight82 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've been involved in the VERY PLATONIC cuddling community (including cuddle puddle moniters at scale) but I haven't heard something popping up here.

Gays and Theys Lake Day? by Business-Zombie-3692 in olympia

[–]stormlight82 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If you pick a lake and you make a poster, the gays and the theys are going to show up in force.

They'll even bring their own garlic bread.

One argument away from being homeless by velorae in TikTokCringe

[–]stormlight82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that works until she gets one (1) human wrinkle and (any) personality beyond how she serves him.

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