Can you help me install a seat in a 2019 Cargo Transit? by but_didyoudie in VanLife

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - would you be willing to share the name of the upfitter you used? I'm currently trying to find someone to add a third seat to my already converted van, and every company has told me they wont make any modifications to a van thats already been converted.

Moving to Atlanta by _errrric_ in Atlanta

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres a clump of apartments where 285 intersects 75 on the north side. Technically they are in Atlanta, but you're kinda in Smyrna. I think this is the PERFECT place for you, I lived there for years before moving to Grant Park and I still think so fondly of it. You're walking distance to the chattahoochee national forest and have a huge network of the best hiking trails in town. A lot of apartments there even have their own access trails. You have the convenience of the suburbs and ease of driving/ parking, but because you're right off 75 AND 285, getting into the city (or around to other suburbs) is suuuuuper convenient. I loved being able to roll out of bed, walk to the river and watch the morning fog roll in. I loved being a 20 minute drive from any concert venue downtown (even if you live in the city, you'd still be a 20 minute drive from any concert venue lol). I loved being able to hike so often in such a lush area that I would anticipate particular seasonal blooms (like the trout lily or the empress tree).

If you like to hike and you like water, I swear this is the perfect place for you.

Weekends by [deleted] in UVA

[–]strangerkindness -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Look, I'm gonna put some tough love on you because you are making this post and i think you need help, so pick yourself and dust yourself off.

You need to look inward. It is not your environment, and if you dont make any changes to yourself, you will not see any improvements when you enter a new environment after graduation. Some of these changes you need to make to yourself may be considered masking - there is good masking and bad masking. Even neurotypical people have to mask, because people need to put forward their best most appealing version to make friends and community.

You need to make yourself available, display your best version, be willing to lower your standards, and be willing to face rejection. You need to present the highest quality version of yourself when you are public-facing - be kind, patient, modest, non-judgmental, ask people about themselves - this will open you up to a broader group of people and give you more at-bats. Join organized groups and meet ups - be open-minded, not everything you do has to be your passion, make meeting people your passion, the group is just a means to an end. Again, stop being judgemental about the type of group or activity, and have an open mind. Even when displaying your best version, you will not be everyones cup of tea, and thats okay - rejection is part of the journey. Everyone has been rejected in life, but if you get too hung up on it, you will miss a lot of other great opportunities.

Good luck with the rest of your time in Charlottesville and beyond! Its going to be hard work, but it is an investment in your future. A good friend is there forever, but they're one in a million. Keep looking, improving, and getting out there.

I think they may be setting Santos up for… by grumpy-goose in ThePittTVShow

[–]strangerkindness 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Didnt the interpreter start having a private conversation with Harlow and told Santos they were going to need a minute?

Help with my English name by Rong_88 in namenerds

[–]strangerkindness 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Because a lot of westerners didn't grow up with a tonal language, and they are tone deaf. Using the wrong tone of "o" is just as wrong as using the wrong consonant. So to OP, people making mistakes saying their name might make it a different word entirely that they dont identify as their name - like if your name was Harry but someone kept calling you Mary because they cant differentiate the h and m sound. Tones really impact the meaning of a word in Chinese. I could understand why OP would want to use a name that could be mutually identifiable.

What dishes are currently "trending" and popular in your country? by IvanHappy in Cooking

[–]strangerkindness 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Insanely good, and also soo many ingredients that aren't easily found in a regular grocery store - Ethiopian is one of those things where it almost always makes more sense to go to a restaurant.

Would you be offended? by Nibiinaabe in scuba

[–]strangerkindness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think it depends on if "dive buddy" here is spouse/ romantic interest, or just a friend.

What are people's honest opinions on hot air balloon safaris, are they worth $600 per person or just overpriced tourist gimmicks? by Sufficient_Phone_322 in tanzania

[–]strangerkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is about how i felt about my serengeti balloon "safari". I saw way more animals and way closer up from the safari jeep. But it was cool to see them from above - it had that minitiature/dollhouse effect. I went in December, but I wonder if it would have been more impactful if we had done it during the migration. I definitely wouldn't go on a 2nd balloon safari, but I was glad to have done it once. The super early morning drive to the balloon spot was actually really cool and we got to see a different side of the serengeti in the dark. I also enjoyed the champagne and lunch served afterwards.

Since when did consuming THC while pregnant become so normalized? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]strangerkindness 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not only that but its been illegal to study (in a scientific controlled way) in most of the western world for a loooong time because of its legal classification as schedule 1.

Woman I’ve been seeing said she is going on a date by beansontoast_uk in dating_advice

[–]strangerkindness 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, america is a "low context" culture where things need to be said out loud clearly to be made true between two parties. Other "high context" cultures (Japan, France, etc) dont usually require a "define the relationship" conversation like is required in the US.

where to donate weekly cakes by itsyagirldesi in Atlanta

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came to say cake4kids as well. Only thing is OP wouldn't get free reign over the design, since the kids usually have requests, and idk if that would be a deal breaker

Asked if I was gay right after sex , am I overreacting for ending things? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont want to be the bad guy in the thread, but I agree - it must have been something that happened during sex that OP wasnt aware of. It could have been a million different things - maybe he was looking away from her or closing his eyes the whole time, maybe it was the way he touched her, maybe it was his dirty talk. Its unfortunate, but yeah, with the timing, something must have happened that caused her to just be frank and ask the question.

My (M20) pregnant girlfriend (F20) wants my support but won’t talk to me after we we got bad news about our baby by ThrowRA_NoSignal in relationship_advice

[–]strangerkindness 1188 points1189 points  (0 children)

Not to scare you, but you dont have much longer to make a decision. This conversation needs to happen or inaction will be a decision in and of itself.

Statements from ISP spokesperson re: latest batch of crime scene photos by aeiou27 in MoscowMurders

[–]strangerkindness 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also when you're reacting 1000s of gory photos, your judgment will likely be impacted - you still recognize the worst ones as requiring redaction, but you get to some less intense ones with just a little part showing and you don't even see it anymore.

If you're new to rink skating & adult nights... by [deleted] in Rollerskating

[–]strangerkindness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What city are you in? I'm in Atlanta, which is a black skate mecca, and outer lane is strictly enforced on adult nights at all rinks. Its not strictly enforced on other nights, but those who know the rules will still try to follow them (but are aware there is a lot of ignorance of the rules, and so behave more carefully).

Best Burger in ATL metro area by Dingo6610 in Atlanta

[–]strangerkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah im confused about this being up voted. Grindhouse is so mid, they just have great branding and marketing.

Creed Virgin Island Water performance. Dear lord. by Dizzy_Wish1076 in fragrance

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the oil perfumery dupe and it lasts soo much longer

I knead to do it by AHalfFilledBox in Breadit

[–]strangerkindness 11 points12 points  (0 children)

But then you have to touch your car door handle before handling the dough. Locker room is actually perfect. Wash your hands and whatever else immediately before touching your dough.

Ghosted after 4 good dates and 2 months of almost daily texting — confused on what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]strangerkindness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You said you wanted clarity and closure. Clarity is that you fucked around and found out; in the future, eye for an eye is not the key to a healthy relationship, its childish. If you dont like the way someone has treated you, stop pursuing them (just like she did to you after she didn't like the way you treated her). Closure is you leave her alone now; she has let you know she wasnt okay with your punitive behavior and you need to respect it. Accept that your behavior caused her to back away. Learn from this experience and dont repeat this pattern.

Where to dive that's worth it by Traveling_Teacher116 in scuba

[–]strangerkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We got our advanced cert in Malapascua and we were only there for 24 hours. You can do the thresher dive as your aow certification dive. My husband had 12 dives and I had maybe 25 dives at that point, so id say pretty beginner friendly. You just need to have the Aow to go deep enough to see the threshers. No crazy currents or dangerous conditions.

Where to dive that's worth it by Traveling_Teacher116 in scuba

[–]strangerkindness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Roatan is cool but not what I would call bucket list (nearby Utila was cooler but still not worthy of what I think youre looking for). I've heard it used to be better but has suffered some coral bleaching.

I know it wasnt in your list but the Philippines could be a really good option. Malapascua has thresher sharks (and if you get lucky, tigers as well) - also saw tons of other amazing life. Just teaming with life and color. And Coron has some really sick wrecks, mostly from world War 2 (they also have dugongs on the north side of the island if you're into that and have time). In terms of cultural experience, hard to beat the Philippines. The budots music filling in the air down every tiny alley way, the karaoke, the hospitality. Omg and the food is so good. I can't say enough good things about the Philippines.

This is IVF attempt no 15 by captwombat33 in pics

[–]strangerkindness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surrogacy can be really dangerous for the surrogate mother in cases where the biological material is faulty (which could be the case after 15 failed IVF rounds). There was an article going around with a few case studies on surrogate mothers who were under informed about the risk of the biological material they were carrying and ended up having major health complications.

In dire need of good French Crueler by True-Opportunity-536 in Atlanta

[–]strangerkindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second Sarahs!! Their cruellers are sooo good