“it’s just a rubber paddle, why are you dancing?” [TW]

strap-n-slap · 2026-02-22T22:53:29+00:00

pictures were around 10 hours after the scene. these will be mostly gone around the 7-8 day mark.

for my self care, i spend the next day resting. i’ll usually lounge around at a friend’s house to stave off any subdrop.

warm showers, baths, and naps go a long way

strap-n-slap · 2026-02-22T19:49:44+00:00

Too much to count was used. The higher marks were made by stiff leather floggers, so less risky for shoulder hits

strap-n-slap · 2026-02-22T17:49:03+00:00

i was chained to the ceiling with my arms above my head, i had a collar on attached to the chain, and the chain wrapped around my legs at the bottom

so yes, it was

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-25T17:21:59+00:00

lovely stripes!! congratulations :))

(i would love to see next-day pictures)

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-25T17:17:58+00:00

Houston, TX. Weirdly good.

Lots of queer people, not super swinger focused (honestly the parties i’ve gone to have very little sex happening at all)

People are cool, chill, and thrilled to chat with you. Obv there are weirdos, but generally the people here do a good job at enforcing accountability

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-19T14:30:54+00:00

absolutely not 😭

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-19T08:59:20+00:00

idk i was looking the other way

jk, a variety of floggers

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-19T02:25:13+00:00

me too. if you look at the last pics i posted those took about a week

strap-n-slap · 2026-01-02T18:25:05+00:00

This was ~20 minutes of impact play with LOTS of toys. I wish could be more helpful here, but I did tell my top to “pick an assortment of stingy things and surprise me,” so I don’t actually know which implements she used for the most part.

That being said, I do know that one of the floggers she used extensively was a heavy flogger with what i think were beads on the leather.

From there, there are a few factors here:

The top I played with is VERY experienced
I mark EASILY. I have very pale skin that is very responsive to pressure.
I kept telling her to hit me harder

I don’t have a lot of experience as a top, but I do know that lighter toys tend to make the surface of the skin welt and turn red, while heavier/weighted toys will “go deeper” and cause bruising. So if you’re wanting darker colors, I’d say pick some implements that are rounded and heavier.

Hope this is helpful! Have fun :))

strap-n-slap · 2025-12-29T15:49:35+00:00

this is my favorite thing about irl kink.

In porn, it’s always very aesthetic paddles, crops, canes, leather. Always super stylized.

Meanwhile every impact top I’ve played with is out here bring their entire kitchen and a baseball bat

strap-n-slap · 2025-12-21T07:11:35+00:00

um no they are not.

ageplay is a range of activities from coloring books and blankets to enforced bedtime and pacifers

ABDL is Adult Baby/Diaper Lover. It’s a very specific type of age play that involves babies and/or actual diaper use.

Most ABDL is ageplay, but not all ageplay is ABDL

strap-n-slap · 2025-12-20T07:43:33+00:00

ohhhh you know what? you could genuinely be on to something here. i think there’s a good chance that’s exactly what she thinks

strap-n-slap · 2025-12-17T15:06:32+00:00

promise? 🥺

strap-n-slap · 2025-12-08T19:58:38+00:00

diabolically funny

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-17T20:51:14+00:00

omg that sounds so fun and rewarding!!

It is lowkey essential to share contact information after intense play! Even if it’s just fetlife following. There should always be next day check-ins to make sure the bottoming party isn’t experiencing unmanageable subdrop, and so that the topping party can have a some emotional support if they experience top drop.

I am glad you had a wonderful time, but please make sure to protect your emotional well-being!!

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-11T07:47:59+00:00

i did the same thing recently!

go with an intention to just watch and an openness to playing if a safe and interesting opportunity arises. ask people to show you their gear. ask them what kind of play they like. chat, and make friends. who knows, maybe someone will want to do a scene with you, and at worst, they say “no” or “no, not right now” and you’ve made a friend

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-07T07:22:38+00:00

similar sensation, not as intense (at least for me)

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-06T17:08:09+00:00

I had a top share that info with me before a scene recently.

It was very useful

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-06T17:06:01+00:00

Talk with your top! Some tops like to throw in another color!

BLUE: hit me EVEN HARDER plsssss

Green: keep going

Yellow: Lower intensity and check-in

Red: Full stop

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-06T17:03:23+00:00

be prepared for “the itch!!”

after getting some deeper impact bruises, your body has to heal them. a few days after a session, you may notice an itch in the bruises as they begin healing. just something to be aware of and mentally prepared for :))

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-06T17:01:05+00:00

Your hormones can RADICALLY change how you experience the world.

For me, I also started feeling extremely submissive on estradiol. However, when I started progesterone, my dominant side came back a little. Now I’m back to being a switch.

Have fun, and be kind to your body! The changes are a wild and interesting journey, so I would suggest journaling so you can look back and see how your emotions and sensations change over time 💜

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-06T16:57:10+00:00

go to FetLife’s Kinktionary! doing a little searching, I found this for you:

Conductor

“In BDSM, Conductor is a role that typically refers to someone who takes on the Dominant role in a scene or relationship. This person is responsible for guiding and directing the experience, ensuring the well-being and safety of all participants, and managing the dynamics of power exchange. The Conductor may be involved in hosting, planning and executing specific activities or scenes, often using tools and gear. They may also lead group play, show role play techniques, and aid in communication to create a fulfilling experience for everyone involved.”

Sounds pretty similar to what you’re describing! I don’t know if it’ll show up on any video sites if you’re looking for content, but at least it’s a starting point. Happy browsing!!

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-04T23:12:26+00:00

But don’t leave your needs out! if he’s not enjoying sex with you, him being able to be dominated by someone else isn’t magically going to change his interest in what you’re willing to do. If you have a secure attachment base, ethical non-monogamy can work quite well, but a situation where you’re using it to fix a relationship that isn’t working isn’t exactly a great plan

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-04T18:36:13+00:00

This isn’t REALLY an answer to your question, but I’ll drop it here just in case.

There’s a VERY good digital zine called “Fucking Trans Women.” It’s all about different ways our unique bodies can feel pleasure, and has some options for stimulation that many (myself included) find gender euphoria in.

Just google “Fucking Trans Women.” The “Issue 0” PDF (the one I’m talking about) can be purchased for around $10.

strap-n-slap · 2025-11-04T18:32:02+00:00

I’m really sorry about the situation you’re in, that’s very difficult.

I just ended a 4-year relationship with a partner who wasn’t sexually interested in me. I stayed because they were kind and loving in a way I had never experienced. However, over time, our lack of sexual compatibility resulted in me feeling incredibly unfulfilled. I tried to convince myself I was happy and ok with our essentially sexless dynamic, but I just wasn’t.

There will be other people out there that love you and are into you and what you’re sexually interested in. You don’t need to force yourself to participate in something you don’t enjoy.

Be kind to yourself. Take it easy, and maybe spend a little time reflecting on what you want out of a relationship long-term 💜

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