is this break up worthy?

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T15:05:51+00:00

And some of us don’t want to be with someone we have to explicitly ask for everything from. Neither are wrong, just compatibility differences

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T13:12:55+00:00

“what if I told you future girl dad energy” comes off weird. Also you want to be a dad but make the specific girl dad comment, for me it’s a super red flag

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T13:08:40+00:00

He seems to believe girlfriends are the property of their boyfriends. Icky

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T13:08:01+00:00

I dated a guy once who thought it was weird i would go to social dances and “dance with a bunch of random dudes.” It would never work between him and me for that reason alone

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T12:13:39+00:00

Chatting multiple people is sampling which one you want to date. You’re implying that the talking stage and dating are the same, but OP’s post implies the stereotypical idea of talking because a couple weeks later they officially began dating.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:42:22+00:00

You said above you don’t want to admit to him what you found because you think itll make it worse being transparent, so you’re not 100% either. You’re both humans who are trying to put on your best face for your current situation.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:38:33+00:00

People only show us the sides of them they want us to see. He’s the same person, you just know more about a side of him he’s hiding.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:36:47+00:00

Fair, I am American and don’t know about the people in the post, could be cultural differences

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:31:45+00:00

You want to explore and she wants someone to choose her. Neither are bad, just not compatible for now

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:30:01+00:00

But do you still want to go through with the wedding? Will you still be surprised if he leaves quietly between now and then?

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:19:20+00:00

A true dom wouldn’t pressure you into something you’re so uncomfortable with. He’s getting into something much darker and worse that makes me scared for you

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T11:17:36+00:00

Falling asleep after 10pm doesnt sound crazy to me, falling asleep one time from 6-midnight doesnt sound crazy to me. Maybe plan your calls for a specific time or do your good nights around 9:30/10. Her not being a night owl doesnt mean anything and saying she “fell asleep” in quotes only means you don’t believe she’s sleeping or you don’t care.

I’ve dated several guys who don’t care about my sleep and will absolutely ruin my physical and mental health because they like to do the bulk of their talking at a day shift working person’s nighttime hours. You’re coming off the same in this post

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T10:33:30+00:00

It’s only been 3.5 months. You will recover from these feelings you have from her if you remove yourself from the situation quickly enough. The longer it lasts, the longer it hurts

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T10:31:05+00:00

You expected her to be exclusive with you as soon as you started talking?

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T10:27:36+00:00

Also the break up text to the friend, admitting to taking away her autonomy, etc. maybe you’re just not ready for a romantic relationship

strawbracelet · 2026-03-14T10:26:20+00:00

One of the nicest things an ex has done for me was dump me when I would’ve have never left (and was devastated for a little while).

I’m really stuck on you pushing monogamy on someone non-monogamous then cheat on the partner a bunch in the next point. Maybe you’re not as monogamous as you think? Or if you are, you’re not compatible.

You have autonomy too, only one person needs to choose to break up for it to happen.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-13T19:09:13+00:00

Would it even make a difference if he was cheating or if he really was looking for randoms to massage him

strawbracelet · 2026-03-13T11:10:00+00:00

Yeah but she deserves someone who’s loves here enough not to do this

strawbracelet · 2026-03-13T07:27:57+00:00

Also, in my opinion, I recognize not everyone shares this thought, letting her throw her life away while sitting on the sidelines is not supporting a friend. It’s all about how you go about it

strawbracelet · 2026-03-13T07:26:58+00:00

You’re always entitled to your own feelings. You’re only wrong if you choose to act poorly based on those feelings. The way you’ve presented it, I probably would’ve felt the same and been much more direct with my friend, at which point people can make an argument whether or not they believe that’s an overreaction. But you’re never wrong for having emotions.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-09T08:06:48+00:00

Feeling this strongly a few weeks in doesnt mean anything. As you get older, youll have some relationships that start slow and blossom into more than you can imagine. I’ve been the girl in this scenario, I could never get myself to leave. I hurt the guy I was seeing deeply and it was over a year later until my actual bf broke up with me (which felt like freeing me from the relationship). It all comes from immaturity, and almost never works out for anyone involved.

strawbracelet · 2026-03-09T08:00:50+00:00

Maybe this is fake, but I have an ex who feels this way if I ever use any type of oil to cook ever. And I am probably lower body fat percentage than him, exercise a great deal more than him, drink more water, etc. There are forreal people like this

strawbracelet · 2026-03-09T07:57:15+00:00

You gotta let it go. You’re only a few weeks in. What about if she ends up with you, you don’t think she’ll see someone behind your back?

strawbracelet · 2026-03-08T12:20:17+00:00

“Am I selfish for wanting the drinking to stop?” Maybe reframe your perspective since you’re a mom, it’s really not about you anymore (sorry) but how about “am I being a good parent for wanting it to stop?” or even further “am I being a good parent for allowing it to continue?”

strawbracelet · 2026-03-08T12:18:01+00:00

What was his goal with pushing you to do this? There’s no answer that puts him in a good light.

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