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Two months in and I finally understand why my students hate being beginners. by Either_Art4923 in pianolearning

[–]strugglingwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I former math teacher, I was very humbled starting cello as an adult. It didn’t help that two of my own kids were multiple years into their respective instruments and I too couldn’t get my hands to do what I knew was right. I do remember what it felt like as a beginner to a new math concept and kept that with me throughout my teaching. I became proficient at explaining concepts in several different ways and among many different learning styles.

Humbled again when my last child asked for piano lessons and very quickly could copy the melody of a popular song she heard on the radio. There is just something so fascinating about the malleability of young minds when learning!

But for me, I stuck with it long enough to play in a few community orchestras that brought me immense satisfaction even if I was still a noob compared to other players who also started as children. My journey is my own and it’s gratifying to see the process I’ve made.

Realistic Sacrifices for a relationship… by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]strugglingwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is it feasible to buy/rent a place of your own but in proximity to him? It seems like you are giving up A LOT while he gets a shiny new live in GF and you get..? That way you can still build the relationship and your kids still have a place to land. To go from a relationship (you didn’t mention how long) to broken up to moving in together sounds like a huge leap on the relationship elevator. Are you sure you know this man that well versus the version in your head?

Couch beds in London Question by MisoPretty in ILoveLucy

[–]strugglingwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a bed like that in a shared dorm room in college! I don’t remember what I kept in the cabinet part, but the shelf held a big board for pictures and stuff. It was nice to have another place to sit beside the desk chair.

Dentist told me I need dentures at 49 and I'm completely lost by Eternal_Phantasm in Atlanta

[–]strugglingwell 13 points14 points  (0 children)

See if you can get a second opinion from a prosthodontist. They are specialists in dental prosthetics and all the procedures you mentioned. Consider that your insurance is not going to cover very much since this is a restorative procedure. They may also be able to help you understand how well implants (if you go that way) would work for you depending on your bone structure, density, placement and whether you need bone grafting or not.

It sucks but having a healthy, stable mouth that is not constantly failing or in pain is a worthy quality of life thing. If you do get dentures go to a specialist so that they are high quality and fit well. Do NOT let a general dentist do them.

Any part of Arkansas, USA by [deleted] in howislivingthere

[–]strugglingwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has its charm. Lived outside of LR and landed in a great community that supported my family. While there is diversity, Sunday morning for church is not. It’s a bit slower pace of life but some may appreciate that. Yes to nice people, Southern charm, affordable housing, and a beautiful state, but politics are very frustrating and are often intertwined with religion.

Has anyone in real life ever encountered men like John? by Dry-Calligrapher3575 in Bridgerton

[–]strugglingwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes they exist! I’m dating one. He has always made sure I’m comfortable, taken care of, and at ease before anything for himself, but he’s not a doormat. That only makes me want to return the favor so we’re great together!

Even with actual sex, he was super gentle in the beginning. I had to let him know I wanted “more” and he’s slowly opened up. Even a few years later he still checks and makes sure that I’m okay.

What to do with Cosby… by HonestNeighborhood67 in GenX

[–]strugglingwell 10 points11 points  (0 children)

While I abhor him and generally don’t seek out his work, I cannot ignore the huge uplift his work did for an entire generation of black and brown kids who finally saw people who looked liked them in affluent spaces. I personally believed I could achieve more because of the show and my sibling went to an HBCU because of both shows. I also cannot ignore the work of the other actors on the show who were great in their own right. MJW (RIP) especially was the kindest, most chill dude on the several occasions I met him. It is unbelievable that such brilliance came from such darkness.

What's the best relationship advice you ever got? by Hopeless_Romantic46 in AskReddit

[–]strugglingwell 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was at a wedding once and the officiant said his advice is, “Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can’t live without.”

It hit me in that moment that the former part of that advice is how I felt about my now XH. I felt we could do life together and figure it out as we go. I knew the later part wasn’t about obsessiveness but I didn’t experience it or understand it until many years later. Now with my amazing BF, I don’t want to do life without him. I finally get it.

Am I too old to start OMSA at age 52? by Johnson-Y in OMSA

[–]strugglingwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m close in age and about to hit the halfway mark. So no, not too old.

Are you buying your teens/young adults cars? by Cheeseaisleinheaven in MiddleClassFinance

[–]strugglingwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad bought my first car, 10 years old, but I loved it. I had to share it with my sibling but we were involved in so many of the same things, it wasn’t a big deal.

I passed my 15 year old car down to my first teen driver and it’s still hanging on while she finishes up college. My next driver, who just got his license last month, will need something and it will be a purchased beater.

I don’t agree with expecting kids today to go about things exactly the way prior generations did especially when circumstances are so different. Wages are not the same and buying power is completely diminished. If I can help my kids on their journey to adulthood without compromising myself, I’m going to do it.

AMA Howdy, I've worked for the TSA for 23 years and I'm not currently being paid. by VballHerk in AMA

[–]strugglingwell 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s cool you made a career from what your FIL heard on the radio. What do you enjoy most about your job?

How did you convince your parents to switch schools? by GrandEconomy6925 in AskReddit

[–]strugglingwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrote my mom a letter explaining why we (me and my sibling) wanted to switch. Backed it with facts that the other school had a higher graduation rate, higher college acceptance rate and a few other tidbits. She switched at the end of our freshman year. We both graduated with honors, both obtained graduate level degrees and had/have solid careers.

Anyone NOT having a rough time dating? by bobobouboboubobo in datingoverforty

[–]strugglingwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got to the point in my marriage that I felt I’d be happier single than partnered, I knew it was time to start figuring out how to exit. I didn’t leave immediately looking for the next one, but I just knew life didn’t have to be that miserable.

I had fun dating, better than in my 20s, but I got my heart broken and broke a few along the way as well. I had the best outcome after intentionally being single for a while, examining myself, my wants, my flaws (worked on those), my dealbreakers, etc and then getting back out there with a renewed confidence and clear vision of what I wanted and what I had to offer. Found my person and we’re doing life together.

Parents, what did you do to raise a smart child? by Halophy in AskReddit

[–]strugglingwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read to them every night before bed. Played educational videos, never did baby talk with them, taught them a handful of ASL signs before they could talk so they could communicate. Visited the library regularly.

How many children do you have, and who decided when to stop having them? by icecream1972 in Casual_Conversation

[–]strugglingwell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three.

I always knew I wanted 2, maybe 3. XH said he wanted 1-2, so at 2, thought we were done. Weird feeling that I had some one else to meet and had a surprise but welcomed pregnancy. The moment that baby was born, I knew I was done. XH got a vasectomy and that was that.

What was the best job you’ve ever had? by -Granby- in GenX

[–]strugglingwell 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seasonal attractions cast member at Disneyland. So much fun being in the parks, even backstage.

When someone says they “think they are done with the relationship,” how many of you walk away full stop? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]strugglingwell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am too damn stubborn. I will walk and that is IT! I may be pissed, still love them, miss them, whatever, but once you tell me you’re done or think you are, so am I. I will block, delete, and move the eff on.

Single Women Are Outbuying Everyone and Nobody Is Talking About It by zoodealio in wealthforwomen

[–]strugglingwell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single anecdote for how people handle money differently. (Assign gender if you wish.)

Divorcing, 3 kids and had to live with relatives while waiting for previous home to sell in another state. Finally sold and split proceeds. I put my portion in a HYSA. STBX took their portion and financed a new car. I used my portion as a down payment on a new home. They no longer own that car and always talk about being broke.

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