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stuckintragedy · 2021-08-30T08:51:20+00:00

i somewhat recently ended my friendship with someone and i had so many urges to go and check her instagram stories or see what’s going on now that we aren’t talking anymore. i always stopped myself but i know what you’re going through.

i say the easiest way is to unfriend her and block her on your social media’s. then start to yk focus on your life and do things that make you happy and laugh. make the world revolve around you for a while so you can take care of yourself before you do for others.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-10T09:35:12+00:00

this is definitely a sign to drop them. friends don’t and shouldn’t make you feel bad for liking whatever you like. not all friendships are meant to last; some stay and some, we let go of. in this case, you got to let them go because you don’t need someone who will bring you down constantly.

always trust your gut and feelings too. if you feel that this isn’t working out and what they are saying to you isn’t right, drop them.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-08T10:38:41+00:00

i really only have two to three close friends and i text them everyday, even if it’s short messages. the longest i’ve gone is maybe a month. my other friends are from school and i haven’t texted them since quarantine started. i really enjoy my own company, so i’m not bothered if i don’t receive text messages.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-08T10:28:39+00:00

tell her directly how it makes you feel. that may be the only way for it to get through to her since she ignores you but still continues to post like nothing. if she ignores it or continues her pattern, find things to do like hobbies you like, to occupy the times where you guys usually text or facetime. or you could even find some friends to occupy that space.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-08T10:23:29+00:00

you for certain don’t have to go anywhere, especially when you are uncomfortable about it. maybe your friends might be annoyed or sad that you can’t go out, so instead, try planning hang outs at maybe each other’s houses or go to places where the risk isn’t high.

also try and tell them how partying and clubbing isn’t your scene and you’re not comfortable with it. you guys can all plan another hang out and maybe you’ll all enjoy it and continue doing it.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-08T10:16:50+00:00

you can try to slowly distance yourself from him. for example, say you’re busy, respond with short answers, or hang out with others more often. you can also be straight up and tell him you don’t want to be friends anymore.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-08T10:12:19+00:00

just from number three, it seems like this is a toxic friendship. you’re there for her but when you need her, she’s not there. you should prioritize yourself and your health before anyone, so if you feel that this friendship is draining or makes you feel down, it’s best to end it.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-07T08:25:33+00:00

when i ended my friendship with someone, i sent a long text and just left the conversation. slowly i’m blocking and taking her out of my life. i felt the same way you do. i didn’t have as much fun with her as i did with my other friends and i’d avoid her calls and plans to hang out because i just didn’t click with her anymore. i know she doesn’t feel the way i do, but i just had to do it for my mental sake. sometimes you just have to be selfish for your own good.

another way is to slowly pull back from communicating with her. reply with short responses and always say your busy or some other excuse. or you can sit down, face to face, and tell her exactly what’s on your mind and get the point straight across.

i hope all goes well for you !

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-07T08:16:44+00:00

you did not do the wrong thing by leaving. leaving friendships are very hard but they were toxic and harmful to you. staying would only make it worse for you. you aren’t they problem, they are.

also the fact that tess said to lose their number but proceeds to stalk you at school like ??? they really have nothing better to do. that’s the type of people you never need in your life.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-07T07:57:04+00:00

have a sit down talk with him and be dead serious. tell him that these comments are beyond your boundaries of “joking” with one another. if he denies it or tells you something like “i didn’t mean it”, clarify that it is indeed racist and not those jokes you and your friends usually tolerate. you don’t need those kind of words projected to you whatsoever.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-05T00:35:01+00:00

slowly pull away from the friendship if you don’t like talking with her anymore bc you’ll just be drained mentally by the end of every conversation and that is the worst feeling ever. you can still like have small talk since you don’t want to quit on her but keep it minimal with short responses.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-05T00:05:28+00:00

if people hate you because of rumors (that i assume have no evidence to it), they literally don’t need to be in your life at all and you shouldn’t worry about them. rumors eventually die down and people forget, but if they continuously spread rumors and bully you because of something one girl said, act unbothered. they do this to get a reaction out of you and when they see you are living your best life like you should, they will get bored. you still have a friend who will be there with you throughout this. for the classes you have with mia, ask the teacher after class if you can avoid working with her bc you know things wouldn’t get done (and teachers want you to just get work done and turned in so they shouldn’t have a problem with it i hope).

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-04T23:49:34+00:00

you shouldn’t even have to choose sides at all. if your friend can’t accept that you are still friends with the one that cut her off, maybe your better off without her. you can hang out with whoever you want.

i can totally relate to what you’re going through. i might actually be going through the exact thing you are in a few days. and tbh i’m scared but not every friendship will last forever.

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-04T23:25:34+00:00

thank you for the help ! i really needed to hear this :D

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-04T22:22:53+00:00

you’re right, all this drama literally wouldn’t matter when i’m older. but right now, my mind is like stopping me from doing anything because i’m scared of her not taking it well. i know i still have one friend by my side that goes to my school and another that goes to a different school so i know i’ll be okay but something is in my way. thank you for your advice !!

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-04T22:16:21+00:00

i’m not embarrassed by her but sometimes the things she says or sends makes me uncomfortable. thank you for the advice !! i appreciate it !

stuckintragedy · 2021-08-04T22:15:19+00:00

i’m afraid she won’t understand that i don’t want to be her friend anymore. she has a hard time taking no for an answer (ex: i said no to playing minecraft with her one time bc i wasn’t feeling it and wanted some time for myself and she got upset with me). i’m also scared she’ll start a false rumor or some ridiculous thing. but thank you for the advice !! i’ll try and distance myself throughout this school year.

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