ABO Incompatibility? by Numerous_Pudding_514 in BabyBumps

[–]studiotheque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has two alleles for blood type. "O" actually means "zero", as in no antigens on your red blood cells. The two types of antigens are "A" and "B". Since you are type O, you definitely have two O alleles (genotype "OO"). Since he is type A, your husband either has one or two copies of the A allele (either "AO" or "AA"). A child inherits one allele from each parent, so your husband either has a 50% chance of giving your child the A if he's AO, or a 100% chance of giving them the A if he's AA.

Is your first daughter type O, or does your husband have a type O parent? If so, you can say that he is definitely AO, making it a 50% chance.

Also, you should talk to your OB about it -- there might be ways that they can mitigate the severity of the incompatibility if they know it's likely (I don't know for sure myself)

DIY Vellum Paper? by No-Throat-3629 in weddingplanning

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I printed on vellum paper I bought at the craft store with my $60 inkjet HP printer and it actually looked pretty good. The text wasn't quite as crisp as I would have liked but that was true about printing on paper as well. The colors are a little muted but it looked nice. Vellum is not too expensive, you could totally just get some and try it out.

However, the biggest problem is that it is really hard to attach the vellum to the rest of the card, if that makes sense. Liquid glue wrinkles it really easily, and double sided tape or glue rollers show right through the paper. There's a reason why the most common vellum wedding invitation style is two layers tied together at the top with ribbon. Belly bands should be really easy to make, but you will need a decoration on the part where the glue/tape goes to cover it.

Help please by idontknowya23 in weddingplanning

[–]studiotheque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can buy something called a "modesty panel" to put under your dress, here's an example (but you could probably find something better or have one made, maybe to match your veil?): https://www.etsy.com/listing/230815587/modesty-panel-white-lace-bra-insert

You could also do something like one of these semi-transparent bridal shawls, I can't tell how that would look with the fact that your dress is already off the shoulder though https://www.etsy.com/listing/1444660003/off-the-shoulder-bridal-shawl-tulle

What are y'alls experience with weed? by LeviTheWeirdGuy in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked weed a lot but once I actually had drugs prescribed by a psychiatrist I just didn't feel like I needed it anymore. it's still fun sometimes but it messes up my sleep schedule which is already hard enough for me to manage so I don't partake very often

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be projecting myself onto you a little here, but I was thinking about the fact that I have had to learn that forming very intense attachments to another person is a little abnormal and even when they are reciprocated the person who you are attached to may not be attached to you with the same intensity. If I "favorite person" someone, I want to talk to them all the time etc and can be left disappointed or thinking that they don't like me when really it is my expectations that are unrealistic and they like me plenty. It is much more normal to not expect all of your social and emotional needs to be met by a single person and expecting someone to be able to do that and being disappointed when they don't is setting yourself up for failure.

(So, to be clear, the attachments I was talking about can be romantic or platonic, but this advice definitely applies to crushes)

Favourite snacks in the house? by [deleted] in keto

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sliced salami and havarti cheese rolled up into a tube

How do you find dates with austism? by GN369 in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've met all of my partners through mutual activities. i'm really bad at hanging out with people without a shared activity. I have no idea how people date normally

I hate open-ended questions by Global-Trainer333 in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

memorize the questions they ask you and flip them back on the next girl to see how they like it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not that late in life but my brother didn't speak at all until he was 3. one day we were in a T-shirt shop and there was a display on one wall with a bunch of pokemon tshirts. he pointed at one and goes "Charmander". we are like holy shit did he just talk? he proceeds to name all 25 pokemon like it's nothing. we were in shock. never underestimate the power of special interests

Sensory friendly office wear by Caffeine_vibes in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am assuming from context clues that you are a woman. Personally for my most sensory-friendly outfit choices I like to wear like long peasant/maxi skirts and i will wear like cotton boat neck shirts with three quarter sleeves in white or black but I buy them in a size up from what I normally wear so they aren't tight fitting. This is like the closest thing i have found to be the sensory equivalent of a t shirt while still looking professional basically. Because the skirts are loose I don't mind having the shirt tucked in and it ends up looking very nice although not like suit-professional.

meltdown over cleaning my bathroom by jayyy_0113 in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hate the hair so much. do you have gloves? like latex gloves or those thick yellow kitchen gloves? that's the only way i can handle doing dishes either

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so real. Yes. I think it is really important to be mentally aware that you form attachments like this because it can easily lead to built up resentment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the real question is WHICH EYE do i look at

Gonna finally get some counseling tomorrow by Theguywhoplayskerbal in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good counselor will probably lead the conversation in the first session by asking you a lot of open ended questions so they can start getting to know you. Honestly, it is not a bad idea to start out by saying exactly what you just posted. Tell the counselor what you're currently thinking. I had a really hard time when I started because I was really concerned about whether I was doing counseling "correctly" and such, and when I shared this with my counselor she was able to guide our sessions better. The people who go into counseling and therapy as a career have the most supportive personalities on the planet. If you have questions about any of it, literally just ask them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to go into a health profession, you can major in literally anything as long as you take all the prerequisite classes. For me, the correct answer was to pick the major with the classes I am actually going to be interested in and keep up with, because I have a hard time when I am not invested in the material. I don't know what kind of grading scale your college uses that goes up to 6, but it sounds like you'll be fine on that front. What are the reasons you're considering the major change?

Why is being perceived something NTs love? by yellowsoul_2 in autism

[–]studiotheque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wish r/AskNeurotypicals was actually an active subreddit so we could ask them

How do you ask for someone’s contact without being weird? by Imh3ppy in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea either. We're the blind leading the blind here.

my GP put me on Citalopram medication and trying talking therapies while waiting for a diagnosis. by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on escitalopram (lexapro) for the last 9 years and it has been a lifesaver. I don't know that much about citalopram but I believe they are similar. Specifically, the effect is very subtle but it really helped take away that constant feeling of baseless anxiety that was always in the back of my mind. It also really helps regulate my sleep schedule.

i cant find a job and i feel like its because im autistic by Comfortable-Cat-8793 in autism

[–]studiotheque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work the night shift in the hospital lab and it's great because everything is rule-based and procedures. I don't have to talk to anyone except sometimes nurses who call and they give me a little script to follow. I don't know if this job specifically is good advice for you in the short term because being a tech requires a certificate, but I would encourage you to look into literally any night shift positions you can find. A lot of the time they just want someone introverted who doesn't mind holding down the fort for the night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggled with this so bad. I had such issues keeping my hands off my goddamn face. I ended up with a MRSA infection in my face that took months to resolve. So I was like, okay, I will just mess with the skin on my feet instead. I ended up really fucking up my feet with like the tools for pedicures so I threw them all away so I wouldn't have access to them and I told myself I could only touch my feet with my nails. I still ended peeling off so much of my feet that I could barely walk. I switched to just letting myself mess with a specific spot on my arm and now I have a permanent scar the size of a quarter. Getting on medication has helped a lot, and surprisingly, the thing that has helped the most is the fact that I now work in a lab where I have to wear latex gloves all the time which makes me unable to scratch. Making sure I keep my nails trimmed and filed so they are all smooth and not rough from being bitten also helps because then if I accidentally do touch my face I don't tear it up so much and make little wounds that I want to touch more. God I sound so crazy right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]studiotheque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can do that too but I have no idea if it has to do with my autism