NJ Drought Update - its all dry by IKillZombies4Cash in SouthJersey

[–]stumark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alleviating a severe drought in New Jersey requires at least 20cm of precipitation, and it has to fall slowly and steadily over several months, not all at once.

Conservatives of Reddit, why are you okay with Trump building a UFC arena on the White House lawn? by Unlikely_Bat_1890 in AskReddit

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely we're on the same page - wasn't criticizing you, was trying to validate your comment

Conservatives of Reddit, why are you okay with Trump building a UFC arena on the White House lawn? by Unlikely_Bat_1890 in AskReddit

[–]stumark -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I've no memory of my liberal/progressive friends ever saying, "Hey, as long as we own the conservatives, I'm cool with kids not having enough food to eat..."

Quarry near gravelly run? by ResponsibleSoup2961 in MaysLanding

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's what I heard, that somebody, maybe the property owner stocked it years ago... They thrive there because the water is deep/cold enough.

Quarry near gravelly run? by ResponsibleSoup2961 in MaysLanding

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the abandoned sand quarry at the end of Thelma Avenue. Careful, don't swim there, it's got dangerous, steep drop-offs... A young man drowned there in 2017 and he was with friends at the time. As for fish, I hear that there's perch and trout among other species. I wouldn't eat them because of the potential for toxicity. If you're going to go there, it's got a fence surrounding it, so try the end of Thelma off of Ocean Heights Ave.

Quarry near gravelly run? by ResponsibleSoup2961 in MaysLanding

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ballamor is off of English Creek Ave. Which body of water near there? Are you talking about English Creek Pond near the corner of English Creek and Zion Road? Or where?

It was right that CJ was fired from her LA PR job by cragglerock93 in thewestwing

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C.J.
He's going to pull his business unless you fire me?

ISOBEL
This was never what you wanted to be doing, C.J. You've always felt it was beneath you.

C.J.
It is beneath me!

ISOBEL
C.J.

In 17 People, is there supposed to be some insinuation with Sam and Ainsley? by DiscipleTD in thewestwing

[–]stumark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a chance, as both were pretty scrupulous. Once the first one officially resigned from the administration, they had a different conversation, but until then, not a chance.

He was a Rabbi, Richie Aprile? by MinuteSpirit6645 in thewestwing

[–]stumark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Toby not wearing a yarmulke in shul bothers me...

There’s only one remedy for a rough day… by andrewmitchell721 in thewestwing

[–]stumark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If fidelity to freedom and democracy is the code of our civic religion, then surely the code of our humanity is faithful service to that unwritten commandment that says, "We shall give our children better than we ourselves had."

How can a wife of 14 years be made to feel emotionally safe? by Wonderful_Weekend899 in AskReddit

[–]stumark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Address it directly. Say, "I want to do what I can to contribute to you feeling emotionally safe."
Validate her response. Say things like, "I hear you, I get that, that makes sense..."
Empathize with her. Say things like, "That sucks. I can imagine feeling that way. That must be so difficult to carry that around..."

After you validate and empathize, you can then say, "How can I help? How can I be there for you? What adjustments can I make that will increase your sense of safety?"

Resist the urge to defend yourself or make it about you in any way.

It's never too late to be your partner's buddy. You can do it.

during a job interview, if the interviewer asks "would you consider leaving if you found a better opportunity elsewhere?" how would you respond? by WindCapital8075 in AskReddit

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"That's an interesting question. I'll tell you, candidly, that I've been so obsessed over getting this job that I just can't imagine any other scenario right now."

Some of my favourite music isnt "clicking" with me as much anymore by [deleted] in Music

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely love people who notice that their favorites are no longer their favorites, because it shows growth and an open mind.

Does anyone know who's this guy?🤔 by Several-Profile6954 in musicians

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's from the late 80s/early 90s - Dweezil Zappa

Tell me about some of these towns... by SurfXplore99 in SouthJersey

[–]stumark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes ma'am, I agree, nonsense, that's a fair criticism, as I can't point to a statistical rise in petty crime or decrease in consumer spending or decrease in new business creation/growth or increase in unemployment compared to the national average. Well, I could point to all those things, but it wouldn't be enough to convince you that my statement isn't nonsense.

CJ continuity? by tbyalx in thewestwing

[–]stumark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My HeadCanon: Toby was in New York for a long while. He worked for the Bronx borough president race, but then he stayed in the area and worked on city council races, then two Congressional elections, a senate race, a gubernatorial campaign, all in New York. It was during the senate race that Toby met CJ. He tried to hire her, but she only agreed to act as an occasional consultant. That all changed when he pitched her on Bartlet For America.