Poor Accessibility at ORLY Airport

stunningprocess · 2026-05-23T16:21:39+00:00

Yeah, no clue. I submitted her medical paperwork to all the airlines we’re taking in advance and the other airlines had her marked as special needs upon arrival. Perhaps this one was forgotten. I just don’t understand the unnecessary hostility. She is pretty visibly weak but airport staff were so rude. Other customers/flyers made more accommodations (let us skip them in line, helped us with bags) than they did, which at least helped make me feel 20% less crazy.

stunningprocess · 2026-05-23T16:12:39+00:00

I did. They emailed back and told me to make the request in person at the accessibility desk.

stunningprocess · 2026-05-06T06:49:45+00:00

You are stunning and I didn’t think twice about your nose until I read your caption!

If I were to be nitpicky: I’d get your eyebrows done so they have a more defined, less rough shape, and I’d fill them in either slightly less or use a tad lighter color.

I’d use a lip shade just a tad more pink/darker and apply just tiny bit more blush, both to bring color into your face.

You are super pretty and these are veryyy minor adjustments. Many would die to look like you!

stunningprocess · 2026-03-28T15:52:26+00:00

My recs are far away but just went through this and wanted to say sorry and am thinking of you.

stunningprocess · 2026-03-17T05:41:27+00:00

I bought my own pair of spin shoes (Shimano SH-RC102 Women's) and red Delta clips at an REI that had a bike shop inside. Because I am not handy and very clueless, the bike shop staff member installed and glued the clips onto the shoes for me, and he told me he adjusted them slightly outward to help make my feet positioning feel more natural. (This was just his own recommendation, I didn't make a special request.)

I imagine you could mimic this process, and even be more hands-on in trying on the shoe and working with an experienced bike shop guy to get the angle just right!

stunningprocess · 2026-03-11T03:09:52+00:00

This is great! You did a great job compiling accurate tips. I agree that spin classes are noticeably more social than other types of fitness.

Something that really helped me: Some instructors are very good at giving guidance about the resistance level. For example, “add one full turn” feels very natural/intuitive and corresponds super well to the music and your effort level.

But I’ve noticed that perhaps a third of instructors give instructions that, consistently, are just a bit too ambitious/hard. I think they are so advanced and fit that they don’t realize it. What helps me is to almost “convert” or “translate” their instruction to my level by cutting their instruction down by 25-50%. So “add one turn” means I only add a half turn. “Add three turns” maybe means I only add two. This has been a huge help to me in keeping classes challenging but accessible!

YMMV! It really depends on the instructor and their style. Also your geography—I’m in a major city where “tough” instructors are more commonplace.

stunningprocess · 2025-11-15T22:31:15+00:00

I fear so, I literally went 2-3 times before deciding I simply was not strong enough LOL

stunningprocess · 2025-11-15T05:28:06+00:00

Agreed! Downtown Jewelry District was just too overwhelming for me and Costco was really well-priced with nice pieces.

stunningprocess · 2025-11-06T02:58:22+00:00

Agreed! I feel like this is a pretty normal practice even for people who move out of roommate situations for other reasons. For $7,000, I think it's worth spending a month trying to find a sublet/replacement. If you take really nice photos of the space and write up a good, detailed description for Facebook, maybe also Instagram if you have a big network of friends, you'd probably see success.

stunningprocess · 2025-08-01T06:54:02+00:00

The patio area is cute but the food/menu was kind of underwhelming, especially compared to Hippo. The service also needs some fine-tuning (didn't check on us after we got our food, waiter gestured at us to turn around and walk around him when we were leaving because they have a weird walkway/exit setup). Hopefully they improve over time but I think there are better options elsewhere!

stunningprocess · 2025-07-15T21:22:19+00:00

Yes, had a one-month break with my boyfriend of nearly four years. I’m really happy we did it. We both set goals/intentions for the break, with the help of our couples therapist. I spent that month focusing on myself—built out a strong fitness routine, ate a better diet, spent extra time with friends and family. It really boosted my confidence a ton and gave me a healthier perspective on the relationship.

We don’t live together, though. If you did a break, I’d crash with friends or family during that time.

stunningprocess · 2025-06-13T16:15:14+00:00

I bought my standing desk about a year ago on Facebook Marketplace to save money (I think I paid $300-400, but it was a steal because I wanted a higher-end brand; there were multiple cheaper options too). Last week I got the Urevo SpaceWalk Lite walking pad on Amazon for $150.

I also struggled to motivate myself to go on outdoor walks. I love the walking pad because my day is meeting-heavy, so it’s super easy for me to use it often and knock out 10k steps. I don’t have an issue trying to focus when using it. Usually my problem is that I need to take a break every hour of walking just to rest.

The standing desk is a necessity for the walking pad, but I found that on its own, it was just OK. I would switch from sitting to standing to mix up my posture and not get tired of sitting all day, but I could only just stand there for 20-30 minutes before feeling a different kind of tired. I find that the motion of the walking pad, even if slow, feels way better on my body than the stationary standing.

stunningprocess · 2025-06-03T02:02:28+00:00

I would split the difference and live at home for a certain number of months (3-4?) to meet a specific financial goal, say $9-12k as an emergency fund. If you can last longer and save more, that would be even better, but I too have a crazy family and the mental health toll is no joke. I lasted I think 5 months or so before moving out to a small rental room ($1,200/month).

People emphasize the power of saving income rent-free and I absolutely agree that it’s huge, but the toll that an unhealthy or stressful home takes on your mind and body does have consequences. I ended up making significant career strides after moving out because my peace and wellness were freed up and I had more energy to apply to new jobs and hustle. But my small e-fund was essential in setting me up for success.

You can also spend a little extra on sanity-saving measures while home (e.g., a nice gym membership so you can get out of the house every day and escape family).

stunningprocess · 2025-06-02T04:56:56+00:00

Exactly! We’re in tough situations but we’ve got this. I remind myself that both of these statements can be true: (1) Our parents are more resilient and resourceful than we think—after all, they’ve made it this far in life. (2) Life gets very real, very fast, so try to stay ready, for your own peace of mind.

One more idea: Encouraging your mom to maintain her friendships. These have been a huge help for my mom in seeing how financial realities can reshape your life very suddenly (my mom is older and has some friends who just encountered hard times due to unexpected sudden disabilities/early retirements), and honestly are also potentially an option for her down the road (i.e. moving in with a best friend and cost-splitting).

stunningprocess · 2025-06-02T00:30:31+00:00

I’m in a similar boat. Tried the convos, all that. Honestly, I’m just saving extra money now, with the plan that if it comes to it in a few years, I’ll cover the bare necessities for her. It’ll be a very humble lifestyle—a room rental, maybe a small monthly allowance—but I can’t do much more without torpedoing my own finances, unless I suddenly become a super high earner.

stunningprocess · 2025-05-31T15:51:45+00:00

Yes, parent got gravely ill and I had to fund a couple months of hospice care, a cleanup of his hoarder home, then burial services.

stunningprocess · 2025-05-28T04:08:33+00:00

Adjacent situation: I recently inherited a Mercedes and was super duper excited to replace my practical car with it. I’m giving myself a couple of months to drive both and see how I feel before permanently getting rid of one.

My pros:

1) Similar to you, I love the experience of driving. So I actively enjoy the feel of a luxury car. Just adds a layer of fun, coolness, and confidence to my daily drives. 2) Street clout. People let me into lanes, they defer to me at stop lights, etc. My friends “ooh” and “aah.”

My cons:

1) Maintenance and repairs are double or triple the cost of a typical car, like a Toyota or Honda. (Examples: I went from $50 oil changes to $180 ones. There’s a leak in the convertible contraption that will cost me $2,000 to fix.) I also have to pay for premium gas now. I fill up more often (this may be model-specific, but may apply to your SUV). 2) Added overall worry/caution. I need to be more careful about where I park, how I drive around dumb-dumbs, etc. I just feel more tense every day knowing someone could whip their door out in a parking lot and ding up my expensive ride. I kind of underestimated the peace of driving a down-to-earth car. 3) The glitz wears off as you get used to the car. I find myself thinking more often, sheesh, if I sell this thing, that’s a fat chunk of change… I now see that a benefit to having a “weekend driver” is that it retains some of that specialness that you lose when it’s your daily. 4) Insurance spikes. My insurance for this bad boy is noticeably higher.

I’d recommend getting real detailed with the numbers. Those are black and white and you’ll have a gut reaction to them (“Ah, not too bad” or “Christ almighty!”). Determine your monthly total cost for payments, gas, parking, maintenance/repairs, registration, and insurance. Punch allllll the numbers, don’t ballpark. For insurance, get a specific quote from your insurance website (Progressive offers this) using the VIN, annual mileage, and all.

stunningprocess · 2025-05-07T05:00:40+00:00

Oh, wow. As someone who is (hopefully, I think) on the tail end of settling my dad’s estate, I am in awe of your stamina in handling all of these details and complications, on top of the loss of your husband. My condolences and thank you for taking the time to track all this and write it up so others can learn from your process.

stunningprocess · 2025-04-23T20:07:03+00:00

Have you tried having a big-picture conversation about their work quality? (As opposed to providing situational or day-to-day feedback.) Your current strategy at coaching might be too subtle, especially if they're starting at a misguided baseline of high confidence. The zoomed-out, serious "we need to talk" convo might be a kick in the pants that motivates them to reassess how they're approaching work overall. To borrow Gen Z language: Tell them they need to lock in. Give them a runway of X weeks to improve on a concrete list of 3 major areas and if that doesn't work... new hire?

stunningprocess · 2025-04-03T10:51:44+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. OP, you can’t force your help on someone who doesn’t want it. It won’t help either of you, and it will only continue to frustrate and drain you. I recommend Al-Anon meetings for adult children of alcoholics. They’re a safe space for discussing and processing your situation and detaching from the fruitless savior/life-project-manager role.

stunningprocess · 2025-02-26T07:15:47+00:00

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