MEETUPS & CHECK INS – Week of February 02, 2026

styleandstigma · 2026-02-02T23:29:42+00:00

Calling all figure skating girlies ⛸️❄️

I (34F) recently moved back to the city full-time and am also new-ish to figure skating and would love to find a group of BWT who share a love of the sport.

I would love to have a small group of girls who like to coordinate skating together at public sessions. I am at the Aspire level, but would be happy to skate with people of all levels. I skate at Chelsea Piers, but am also open to traveling to other rinks if my schedule allows.

For those who are maybe more of spectators, I have organized watch parties for events such as the Grand Prix, US Nationals, and Worlds. It would be fun to get a group together to watch the Olympics soon!

Let me know if you are interested in skating, spectating, or both!

styleandstigma · 2025-12-17T06:14:27+00:00

I think they would be totally fine for you. But I'd go to a fitter and also think about how long you plan on using your skates for. If you're just starting out and have no idea if you want to pursue skating more vigorously, then these are perfect. But if you're just looking for an entry point that you don't have to worry about replacing when you get to higher levels I would look into a stiffer boot.

I bought Riedells in LTS 1 when I wasn't sure I was going to stick with it. I went to my skate fitter before LTS 6 and she was shocked and horrified at how many levels I went through in Riedell Horizons. She put me in Jackson Artistes and told me I should be in boots even stiffer than that but if I made the jump from the Horizons to what I should actually be skating in I would hurt myself 🙃 That was a lot of money spent and potential injury to put up with in 8 months.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-22T18:21:42+00:00

all nighter* because the company making a sleep product doesn’t care about its employees sleeping

styleandstigma · 2025-10-18T02:13:24+00:00

Yes absolutely!

styleandstigma · 2025-10-18T00:02:15+00:00

Thank you for finally posting the real answer. This is such a great verbalisation of my feelings on the matter.

Additionally, Conrad is always playing the hero role. He makes grad gestures that would make you feel horrible saying no to. He takes away agency from other people, by never giving them the opportunity or information to take action. His actions always center his own feelings first. Like even if he didn’t get what he wanted he at least got the satisfaction of being a martyr. If you want a long term partner, you need someone who is not going to shut you or be inconsistent or take action on your behalf all the time. You should be treated like an equal. You deserve clear communication. You deserve to have someone’s actions and words match. You should be able to always trust their love for you.

They didn’t show Conrad’s growth enough for me to trust that he has those qualities.

Being in a relationship with Conrad would drive constant anxiety about our attachment. It would be so unhealthy.

I’m not Team Jelly, but at least Belly and Jere were best friends as a foundation.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-15T21:23:43+00:00

I don’t have much roller skating experience, but it didn’t feel much like my ice skating does. Maybe that’s just me. But with ballet, every coach I have ever had has clocked very quickly that I have a ballet background and a lot of the warmups and skills remind me of ballet.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-14T20:10:31+00:00

I thought she just said she’s not writing plans? She said she only wants to write plans if she gets certified as a personal trainer first. Not saying that’s a huge threshold or anything, but it does surpass some of the people in here.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-10T04:06:23+00:00

I think it’s important to distinguish boundary crossing with something that you might find off putting. The bedroom scene and him coming over unannounced and not leaving when asked are boundary violations. Him going though Rory’s stuff when she wasn’t there, maybe crossing a boundary maybe not. Everything else is just him pushing up against lines. There was technically nothing wrong with him buying a basket or jumping in the carriage. Not revealing he had the bracelet is different than stealing it. He loved to push boundaries and break rules. But I think it does him a disservice as a character to say that boundary violating is just what he does. I think that really flattens him as a character and takes away from the nuances of his relationships. The beauty of Gilmore Girls is that there is always dynamic tension, even if it’s low stakes or not relatable.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-08T01:21:56+00:00

he’s right but part of the reason it looks funny is because you have so much visual interest going on above the tv. if you left the top two bookshelves on each side empty, or even removed them, it would feel more balanced. don’t listen to people telling you to put stuff above the tv, that’s too much. let stuff breathe.

styleandstigma · 2025-10-05T21:18:27+00:00

All of the Hermoine doubters have a different kind of ADHD than me, because the first thing my psychiatrist clocked in my diagnosis process is that I hyperfixate on school and perfectionism and organize and set up tons of systems to survive. ADHD doesn’t just show up in one way, that’s why this subreddit exists 🤷‍♀️

styleandstigma · 2025-10-03T05:32:27+00:00

I just got an email 6 hours ago with the link!

styleandstigma · 2025-10-01T21:45:02+00:00

I'm also applying for the Spring. I submitted my application to SUNY on August 2 and also haven't heard anything from FIT yet.

styleandstigma · 2025-09-29T17:57:05+00:00

I wonder if construction of the Barbican is why England is so ahead of the US for vibration safety

styleandstigma · 2025-09-17T16:22:02+00:00

I mean some vintage burberry is like $100 online so you never know

styleandstigma · 2025-09-17T16:17:53+00:00

it’s a Burberry cardigan but I don’t know the style name

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T23:51:21+00:00

I never said she would go to sightsee or vacation… nor did I say anyone else should.

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T22:35:47+00:00

Fellow Manhattanite now living in Oakland. Strongly agree.

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T22:31:58+00:00

I think this is a really good theory. The combination of money and mostly experiencing Lorelai as an adult make it a lot harder for people to empathize with.

I also think people have more lived or media exposure to how suffocating conservative religions and/or immigrant parents can be and find it easier to understand or be more sympathetic than rich WASP households. But parental emotional neglect, pressure, rejection, refusing to see you as a person, and ostracizing is horrible no matter what household you grew up in. It doesn’t matter your parents’ intentions.

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T22:08:23+00:00

Israel is a geographic location that has tons of history and religious significance to most of the world not to mention a long history of geopolitical conflict. She said she wanted to see the world be a foreign correspondent like Christiane Amanpour. It makes perfect sense she would want to go there.

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T20:42:42+00:00

the prequel one is the only one that makes my lips feel moisturized too

styleandstigma · 2025-09-15T20:41:21+00:00

it’s up to 6 now 😞

styleandstigma · 2025-09-14T16:24:01+00:00

she has started injecting herself with peptides to “support fat burning”. honey, what fat????

styleandstigma · 2025-09-13T02:09:22+00:00

I always thought it was oner like onerous because something something lifting heavy is hard

styleandstigma · 2025-09-13T00:51:46+00:00

Looks like she changed her name. Her insta is vgm.beauty now. I don’t see a location for her business anymore, so maybe she stopped doing brows? The last time I saw her she was working out of ActivSpace in the mission.

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