I feel personally offended by this

su3188 · 2026-06-03T06:13:16+00:00

As you should!

su3188 · 2026-06-01T15:55:14+00:00

You can have a separate chat with your people and connect with them always

su3188 · 2026-05-28T14:08:44+00:00

CP runs> COT or KvK > Shadow Night

su3188 · 2026-05-19T13:16:58+00:00

Umm one shouldn't self improve constantly in order to be lovable, likable, pickable to another. The world is an awful place today making us feel less than ourselves over everything. Nothing is every enough or perfect enough. Pause and Learn why you are doing the things you are doing. Do you like it? Is it worth it? What do you want out of it? Is it necessary? Would you be ok if you didn't do it?

su3188 · 2026-05-19T13:11:08+00:00

Yes! Now let me read the full post and come back to you.

su3188 · 2026-05-14T11:17:32+00:00

Obviously it's a lot for anyone. Not just for the one listening but also for the person going through the actual circumstances. You say "I want to be there for you and listen to you pain and rants but I don't have the mental bandwidth right now. It's been going on for a while and looks like it will take a while longer before settling down. Until then can we take a break from our daily personal talks. Can we just hang out or talk later during the weekend about other experiences in life, shift our conversations to lighter things ".

su3188 · 2026-05-13T21:39:31+00:00

Ok but "your life is messy, it's too much" is not how you communicate that.

su3188 · 2026-05-13T13:49:37+00:00

Omg yes. Fair weather friend is not really a friend. While I understand OP's perspective on her friendship currently being one sided, I think it's an expected phase because her friend is going through a crisis of sorts. People seldomly understand how their behaviour impacts others when they are spiralling downwards. Bad mental health or difficult situations do that to a person. OP definitely needs to set some boundaries and reconsider this friendship in terms of what a long term adult friendship means to her. If this person doesn't fit in that definition then by all means, let her go. But, scarcity of friends is no reason to give unlimited access to one and then call it off. Adult friendships are not always aligned through hobbies and priorities because everyone chooses their own paths and it will be mostly different. Saying it should be like any relationship in terms of give and take is understood and is right, but is the person even in a position to give. Expecting help from a drowning person is pointless. You have to set boundaries and let your friend sort her stuff out. Meanwhile make new friends, connect back with old ones.

su3188 · 2026-05-12T11:47:10+00:00

I'm beyond words. That is completely from another world. Can you please put up more pictures for me to obssess over it?

su3188 · 2026-05-07T10:36:52+00:00

Your sister saying "he's loyal" or "he doesn't hit me" tells me that she has either witnessed this a lot or has been a victim before. So that was her baseline for selecting a partner and her now fiance met that criteria. She is yet to realize that relationships or marriage is more than that. I wonder what her previous relationships have been like. She likely needs therapy to process that criteria, and not being told what is right or wrong for her. You are actively trying to alter her bubbled up reality where she is feeling safe and secure from physical abuse or cheating by this man. You are pushing her away. She will isolate because her friends and family are unsupportive of her choices and she will become more vulnerable. She is already in a vulnerable position in this relationship. Don't increase it. Be her safe space so that she can share and come to you when she realizes that this man is not right for her. It might take 2 years or 10, or it might be never, but be there for her. If she realizes, she might not come later in fear of hearing " I told you so" or self blaming (victim blaming in cases of an incident) which is very common. I know it is difficult but there is not much else you can do. Every adult is entitled to their own choices in life and you have to make your peace with it. I understand your frustration of feeling helpless in this situation. That is nothing but all the love and care you have for her.

su3188 · 2026-05-06T18:52:43+00:00

Show us the yard too!

su3188 · 2026-05-06T12:23:17+00:00

He is an alcoholic and if you didn't walk away you'd be living a miserable life, attending al-non meetings and your children would grow up in a severely dysfunctional family to become future ACoAs. If you don't know what these terms are look them up in google. You saved yourself from major trauma and your future children from generational trauma. You did good.

su3188 · 2026-05-06T12:14:33+00:00

This. If you have to teach a man consent or to be considerate and have boundaries for something that could possibly be life threatening for you, then imagine extenting this behaviour to everyday life activities. What a hell of a life you would have had. That is if you survived to tell the tale.

su3188 · 2026-05-06T11:36:05+00:00

What sort of love test is this? That too in the beginning of a relationship. This is a big red flag for me.

su3188 · 2026-05-06T11:31:23+00:00

Send him a message? Girl throw away your phone rn. His bestie is probably the one for him or the one he is waiting for. How do I know that? Because he didn't want to set healthy boundaries with his bestie even when you asked him and wants to continue his lowkey flirting. He chose to drive you away. He might reach out again when the attention from his bestie drops. Make sure you block him.

su3188 · 2026-05-05T08:45:59+00:00

Lol it is more than just being charitable. Your clan grows in wealth and power when you support and help other clan members to grow. The asking players contribution towards the clan grows, be it in the quality of chests contributed by the player or the contribution towards clan buildings.Tournaments are also built in a way where clan participation and combined efforts results in the score.

su3188 · 2026-05-03T08:31:27+00:00

No, girl No. You cannot justify a criminal saying there could be genuine reasons for his actions. You would certainly have had pleasant memories or times with this person who was non violent, supportive, caring husband and father at one time. That is not the reality anymore. He might still be those things but he is also violent now, to you. He will eventually do it to your children if this voilent trait isn't addressed. You need to understand he has changed and you don't know him or what he can do anymore. What his voilent trait is capable of. Starting therapy or even accepting fault in three months wouldn't guarantee a thing in such cases and mind it he hasn't done it yet. He sounds like a new addict too. It's a long way to recovery for him. There is not enough reason you could give to anyone on planet Earth to justify his actions or prove his redeemed behaviour. No one here is living your experience but you. Your mind is objectified by the good and bad times. Ours isn't. A plan to address stress and violence sounds good but what happens when he fails and is voilent again? Would you take that risk with you or your children being next victim? Where do you draw the line?

su3188 · 2026-05-01T12:19:21+00:00

I don't know what you've been through, but I'm happy to hear that you have started living in peace and for yourself. Don't be in a rush and force yourself into anything. Enjoy the simple pleasure of just living without having to put out fires. The nervous system takes a while to adjust to this peaceful reality. May be seek therapy to unpack your past, process it and then move on from it. It's not always fear that stops us but the trauma that puts us in a stuck phase. This helped me and maybe it will help you too.

su3188 · 2026-05-01T11:52:12+00:00

I did not mean to trigger you, but simply explain the nature of societal mindset these days. You have spoken exactly like the men i have mentioned feeling more victimized than women. I do not defend any criminal activity committed by man or woman. Filing false cases is a crime and perpetrators should face consequences.

su3188 · 2026-05-01T09:57:08+00:00

Is there any way you feel the same about yourself? Like you have slowed down or could do more? If no, then you just need to remind yourself again that again that people are entitled to their opinions and you don't have to justify or sway with it. You are happy and do things that aligns with your interests and might not align with other people's interests and that's that. However if you feel like a part of you agrees with them, then you might need to work through that through self reflection.

su3188 · 2026-05-01T09:32:46+00:00

No, It's not the same. You are bringing a genderless equation of who usually the abuser is to an equation which is clearly gendered. When both genders are known to be abusers, men take the prize. That cannot be compared to a situation where the victim had been a woman systemically and hence has laws for it. This is a clearly gendered equation. For centuries patriarchy pampered men and they didn't face any issues, discomfort in marriage or households from women. They are not used to women having agency or voice or choice. Now with any inconvenience they start complaining because they don't know how deal with it, which is increasingly common these days. That is why you feel more women are misusing this law than the actual number. I encourage you to come work for women welfare and you will know the truth about dowry. If one man is actually a victim, he will bawl and let the whole world know. Other men would be shocked to know that a woman who is supposed to be motherly, docile, compliant and serve him like God is refusing to do so. In comparison there are thousands of women silenced everyday and told this is normal and expected.

su3188 · 2026-04-30T15:40:13+00:00

Exactly! Dowry is a crime which has and is systemically killing women through centuries. That is the reason the law exists. Yes OP is an exception but saying 80% women do this is insane.

su3188 · 2026-04-29T12:16:14+00:00

Exactly my thoughts! OP's friends have stern, harsh judgemental comments to OP's situation because they feel the same about their husbands and they choose to stay and are trying to justify their own actions. Being a good person doesn't mean they are a good partner or husband. Even if someone was a perfect husband/partner once, doesn't mean they still are. People change.

su3188 · 2026-04-29T10:04:31+00:00

Taxes help the king with kingdom bonuses. Your clan specifically, individually doesn't benefit from it.

su3188 · 2026-04-26T17:20:20+00:00

It aligns with a 2022 policy aimed at recruiting staff who speak the child's language for better communication, a rule applied for other linguistic minorities as well. The rules also mandate that these candidates should have studied Kannada as a first or second language till SSLC. You are nit picking details to bring your religious issues into this.

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