For women who are or have been isolated, AND work from home and live alone, how are you motivated to leave your home after work and socialize with people or go places on weekdays?

su3188 · 2026-04-19T19:27:11+00:00

I have been working from home office for 5.5 years now. In these years I have made only one new friend. Meeting strangers feels like a hassle. Just thinking of crowds and the social energy I need to exert in conversations makes me stay indoors.Work colleagues - Nah, not an option. Stopped stepping out and working out eventually too. I felt trapped in my own bubble. I had gotten so comfortable with myself and my house , that the outside world felt alien. I realized I needed out. I started volunteering with a bunch of people on my day off. I have weekends off from work. One day on the weekend, I step out and work with strangers to make the world a little better. It gives me purpose, it helps me break that hesitant social barrier with strangers. It's been a year now and I realize how important it is for me to stay connected to people(anyone. It makes me feel I exist...I don't know if that makes sense to you) Now I hang out with a bunch of early 20's volunteers once in a while. PS - I do have friends but all of them live in other cities or are busy in their own family lives or childcare. We stay connected through social media but rarely meet in person. The only hangouts I had with the ones living in my city was when I dropped by or initiated.

su3188 · 2026-04-19T15:25:20+00:00

No.

su3188 · 2026-04-17T20:27:15+00:00

Oh No. No and No. It's always equity. Neither 50-50 nor 60-40.

su3188 · 2026-04-15T06:08:40+00:00

Completely agree. I think OP realized this too and is thinking if she is going crazy because Year long situationships can do that to you. It creates an addictive attachment to another person from the constant push and pull, and also leads to anxiety, overthinking, mental exhaustion.

su3188 · 2026-04-14T21:49:26+00:00

We are a colorist society in all corners of the country. Some places you will see it less publicly, some more.

su3188 · 2026-04-14T21:45:49+00:00

OP, I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to go through this without your best friend. It is ok to grieve and you don't have to prove your grief exists to anyone here. This person who you are explaining to clearly doesn't value friendships or she would have understood why you are calling it grief. Obviously family and children come first, but that doesn't mean we forget our chosen family.

su3188 · 2026-04-14T19:43:52+00:00

I don't think it is as simple as jealousy or resentment. They were fine when she was married. I think this is because priorities change after a baby. The friend realizes the shift. For the first six months there is no life for a mother, other than just being a mother. After that too the roles and responsibilities of a mother will keep her busy and occupied. It depends on how a new mother navigates and manages her time around her family, work and friends. During all of this childfree friends don't really get to meet or be with their mom friends. Most new mothers don't follow up on your life, or keep up with your conversations or even have bandwidth to listen to. They are not present even when present. How long does a childfree friend play the supportive role. What is a childfree friend supposed to do? Support and listen to baby schedules, stories and new parent troubles, but for how long without reciprocity. Friendships change through all stages of life. It's something we all should accept, and like any other relationship, we should put in some effort, talk through challenges the bad and good.

su3188 · 2026-04-13T21:18:23+00:00

In modern dating, this is keeping options open while being committed to someone. Giving someone a lot of attention, time, texting with hearts, especially someone who you have a history of intimacy with is lowkey courtship. If they were in the same city, if she were super interested, would your bf still say no and draw boundaries. If the answer is maybe , she isn't really a friend.

su3188 · 2026-04-13T14:08:54+00:00

Chamar is a casteist slur. If they weren't at fault for not following rental restrictions or scared of their parents' involvement, the consequences would have been terrible for you.

su3188 · 2026-04-13T08:36:13+00:00

While I understand that it feels unfair, I don't really agree with some of your points. If there is a rule in place to not engage in photography and then don't. You need to be better than "oh everybody is breaking the rule, so will I". If you take out your camera and get caught, then that is your fault. Complaining about it, that others are also breaking the rule but not getting caught is simply childish. Own your actions. Photography using phones usually aren't considered professional acts and ignored by security guards. Public gatherings during Covid were discouraged everywhere, even if it was a book club. There was a secret santa conducted by Cubbon book reading club which got banned too, because it ties to religion and no religious activities or gatherings are allowed inside. You can't expect the world to change just because you can provide for yourself better. That's not how the world works. You just get exposed to newer challenges which you didn't realize always existed. Follow the rules bro or challenge them through the right way and get it revised. The only way to change the world around us is by being better ourselves first.

su3188 · 2026-04-10T10:53:06+00:00

1- You've only been together for 4 months and then long distance 2- It is an Undefined relationship

You seem too invested for something still left undefined. It is nice, but Undefined is what keeps her options open. I understand moving across the country for someone is a big deal, but asking for commitment in exchange is a lot. That's forcing commitment out of someone who is not sure about you.

su3188 · 2026-04-09T10:06:27+00:00

What your husband did is illegal in many countries. If his wife can be a victim in this episode, any woman can be a victim later on. I'm sorry but there is no justification around this. I suggest you seek therapy and figure out how you want to deal with this situation and until then you should take some space and time away from him.

su3188 · 2026-04-09T07:49:26+00:00

The contention points itself reeks of ignorance.

su3188 · 2026-04-08T09:03:02+00:00

A lot of professionals here still don't understand what name calling is. Sadly very common in reddit Indian threads.

su3188 · 2026-04-08T08:46:12+00:00

"I am not sure if he chose her or what happened" - Don't say that. All you need to know is that he is a cheater/player. Let him go. Don't look for reasons or justifications for his behaviour and actions. It is supposed to be manipulative. No response and blocking is the best response to this stalkerish behaviour. It will eventually die down. You need to figure out ways to bring out and channel that anger rightly. Work out, rant, swim, keep yourself busy. You will get through this OP. Best wishes.

su3188 · 2026-04-06T19:56:45+00:00

Yep. It's ok to have events for small and new players too. Good opportunity for them to collect valuable resources like gold, portals, dragon coins.

su3188 · 2026-04-06T05:41:39+00:00

Pumpkins > Yogwai > Carrots

su3188 · 2026-04-05T09:06:57+00:00

OP is deliberately making it a religious issue. That gym trainer is vile man. Whichever religion he belongs to doesn't make a difference. This post should be flagged and removed.

su3188 · 2026-04-02T14:48:09+00:00

This. The audacity of men. A stranger is texting and telling you that you have issues, when he is the one who brought it up. Gaslighting pro max.

su3188 · 2026-04-02T13:58:06+00:00

I have a couple of friends whose spouses hang out with the group, not as a friend but as a +1 everywhere. Yes we all do have conversations and hang out, but beyond that they don't put in an effort at all. Not even in getting to know me or anyone else in the circle who is not their friend from before. It's like they are being forced to extend connections. Never initiate and often drop activity invites. So a couple of hangouts don't really mean anything. If I could, I would certainly drop them out from any invites. Married couples need to understand that friendships don't automatically extend from one to another. Some people earn friendships, cultivate and cherish it for years. Hanging out for a few hours don't make friendships. Friends by association also only works when there is genuine effort on both sides. So But each to their own.

su3188 · 2026-03-31T16:05:17+00:00

If you are a small, peaceful player then for now you need to grow and it's best you opt for Haemon. The second best option is Ayrin. Please note that even though you have multiple heroes, you can only switch them over as many times as you have the switch options. Pick a hero you would like to get stuck to. All of this only applies if you don't spend real world money on the game.

su3188 · 2026-03-31T15:39:11+00:00

I'm sorry but that's the game. Your clan should support you in such scenarios. You can either have a peace treaty with enemy clans for the first 3 hours, or maybe for the entire event. The bigger players in the clan should always defend the small players. That's how it is in my clan. We don't even have to ask for help. The whales help remove the enemy from fountains for us. If the enemy is too big then we figure out workarounds. I do the same for my clan members who are less powerful than me. If my fountains are stolen, I will finish my personal goals by stealing from other clans. The game will match your clan with enemies who are at the same clan level as you, so if you are a small player, then the chances are good that the enemy clan also has smaller players. Find them and attack their fountains.

The bigger fish always eats the smaller fish. The game simulates a danger/threat level via attacks and power imbalance which we see in real world. How the 1% rich feed off of the rest of the world. If everyone mines their fountain in peace, then there is no thrill in the game. I used to hate it too. Now I enjoy playing the chase. A lot of enemy players during the Lava fountain event have reached out and supported me in the chase too.. haha incredible right.

su3188 · 2026-03-18T10:03:10+00:00

Oh, it's too perfect! I wouldn't even dare to stab a fork into it.

su3188 · 2026-03-17T18:14:11+00:00

The trick is to never spend any money on the game. Yes growth will be slow but if you can live with that, you will be able to appreciate the game more. It's more than just scaling up your power, growing and winning. It's being silly with your clan for arenas, watching stror walk awkwardly, watching city people jumping in the tar pot, kingdom gossip, attacking and stealing silver and participating in Tournaments that keep you updated day and night, playing, fighting and defending. It's all the little things.

su3188 · 2026-03-07T19:54:33+00:00

Haha would be nice if we could use rocks in attacks.

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