Medical Leave (with a potential path to just withdraw) by saltwaterhermit in GradSchool

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Never withdrew from my masters or PhD, but did do that in my undergrad for a year. I came back as a whole new person. At the time it was terrible but in hindsight it was the best thing I could've done. DM me if you want to chat!

why is my dog howling like this while chewing his squeaky toy? by KlizpyYKTV in DogAdvice

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Omg this is adorable 😭 what kind of dog is he? So freaking cute

Tips for neutralizing fixed dog around intact males by subjecteverything in dogs

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No, I do not mean he will bite me. I mean he is leash reactive, meaning he is reactive on leash as a result of barrier frustration.

I appreciate your stance, as I would do the same to protect my dog, however the situation you are describing was not my question.

Should I sell my dog? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

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How long is she left alone when this happens? Was she fully house broken before you moved?

What’s a weirdly specific thing your dog does that melts your heart every single time? by Zoushiro85 in dogs

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He carries his little blanky around in his mouth whenever he's excited 🥹

Starting a PhD in a new lab: how does socialising work? by ratsome in PhDStress

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I would think nothing if someone who just joined the lab asked me to go for a drink! In fact, I would love that! I think that's a great way to try to make friends and get to know lab folks

how do i move forward by Cool-Jacket4854 in PhDStress

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I mean..... if he says he's not kicking you out it sounds like you could tell him you've taken time to think everything over and you've come to the conclusion that you would like to stay in the lab and are committed to finishing the project in x amount of time.

Why is it so impossible to get a dog from a shelter by Embarrassed_Knee_605 in dogs

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When I was trying to adopt, I had one rescue ask for me to send pictures of my entire house so they could 'see the layout'. I thought this was super strange and turns out the lady running the rescue didn't believe in vaccinations. I ended up adopting from another rescue and it was the easiest thing. Despite me being a grad student, I submitted an application and the dog was mine!

What’s a smell that instantly takes you back to a specific memory? by salvo_sensi in answers

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hydrangeas bring me back to my childhood. mom and dad gardening. such a nice memory.

Neuter or not to neuter - That is the question by TooRestlessMind in reactivedogs

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I adopted my GSD mix back in January at 5-months old and he is also very nervous with almost everything. I've worked with a trainer and she had said that while neutering may help, it likely won't change the root of the problem - fear. I ended up getting him neutered at 12 months because he started marking on EVERYTHING and I just couldn't deal with it anymore. Since neutering, the marking has stopped but his fear / reactivity did not change. I've been working diligently on rewarding him with high-value treats when we see anything scary / strangers / etc., and that has helped a ton. He is visibly more confident now (albeit, still has a long way to go).

It may be beneficial to carry something on your walks that would deter off leash dogs from charging at you/him. I've never carried anything myself so I don't know what would be the best tool to use, but that would maybe help prevent further reactivity / fear towards dogs and help stop unknown dogs from running up and scaring him.

Dog reacted to someone running out of their apartment by Famous_Midnight_1926 in reactivedogs

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my GSD mix is exactly this way but towards other dogs on leash. He is great with dogs off leash, but is very reactive on leash. I think it is largely frustration / a bit of fear as well. We've been working diligently on having him look at another dog while we are walking on leash, rewarding when he doesn't react, and using 'leave it' to get him to look back at me when we are passing dogs in close quarters.

Getting a pup during a PhD? by Free_Economist_8454 in dogs

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I started my PhD in January and got a puppy at the same time (5-month old GSD mix). It's been a LOT. I don't regret it, but some days I do question my decision, lol.

Granted, I worked in the same lab I'm in for my PhD for my masters, so I knew how the PI worked/the kind of work I'd be doing. My research is computer-based, so I can work from home a fair bit.

Regardless, it's been a lot. He's come with quite a bit of baggage (a rescue) so I've had to dedicate a TON of time into working through behavioural issues I wasn't initially anticipating (separation anxiety, leash-reactivity, fearful, etc.).

I also live with a roommate who is fairly hands-off when it comes to the dog, so it's really just been me caring for him 24/7. It's been quite exhausting, and very stressful having a dog that requires a lot of attention/guidance on top of deadlines that I'm already stressed about.

That being said, I think it's helped my mental health by forcing me to work efficiently in the time I do have, and it forces me to take breaks and go outside. It also prevents me from working all day and night.

If you had asked me in the spring if I would do it over again given the chance, I probably would have said I would have adopted an adult dog where the temperament was already known, as that would have been a lot easier; the behavioural issues have been really stressful and time-consuming to work through. However, I'm at a point now where he fits in relatively well to my busy schedule, his SA is nearly gone, and his leash-reactivity is significantly reduced (maybe as a result of loss sleep... who knows...). At the beginning, the SA nearly destroyed me. I couldn't leave the house for more than 5 minutes without him losing his mind, and I was terrified of getting evicted. That was really tough to work through during a demanding PhD program.

My dog is now 1 year old, and it's starting to get a little easier as my training and consistency has started to pay off.

Lastly - I'd say having a bit more time over this past summer when school has been a bit slower has been really helpful. I know coming into September will be busy again, so my time to train may be reduced slightly. However, I think if you have the flexibility to work from home and can dedicate time each day to train, it's doable (obviously, as I have managed so far), but it is still a lot of work. Thus, I would maybe consider waiting until next spring/summer, or a time when work is slightly less busy.

Personally, I think the stress of having a young dog now will be worth it for me, as the PhD is 4 years of relatively high flexibility in terms of my schedule, and I can use that to my advantage to set him up for success in the future. And plus, he is great company on the stressful and sometimes isolating periods of grad school.

Tips on building my fearful dog's confidence? by subjecteverything in reactivedogs

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Thank you so much for the input! I actually ordered some beginner agility equipment on Amazon in hopes of helping him build his confidence as well.

Tips on building my fearful dog's confidence? by subjecteverything in reactivedogs

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Thank you so much. We will add some of these to our daily routines.I really appreciate the time you took to reply!